‘I Like Being A Kept Mistress, My Life Right Now Is Great!’

On June 18, 2008, 菊花香香儿1986 (“Fragrant Chrysanthemum 1986″) made a post on the Tianya Forum:

Everybody says that it is a bad thing to be a kept mistress.  What is so bad about it?  Let me tell you about all the good things from my personal experience…

I was born to a rural family where all the generations had been farmers.  When I was very small, my dad told me that the way to get out of the rural village is to go to university.  He told me that I should not be stuck here for the rest of my life.  I understood more or less.  I studied hard.  I entered university for my own selfish reasons as opposed to any hot-blooded passion to work for the mother country.

Once I got accepted by university and went to the big city, I found out how trivial I was.  I was poor and the money that my family gave me was not even enough to pay for living expenses, much less the tuition fees.  So I began to work part-time at an upscale coffee shop.

I was able to meet many social bigwigs at the coffee shop, and it was there that I met my current husband.  He is a senior government official.  He has a wife and kids at home, but I didn’t care.  He knew that I was working part-time so he was particularly nice to me.  Eventually, I quit my job to be with him.

During the week, I stay at the school dormitory.  On weekends, I am usually with my husband.  He comes to pick me up every Saturday afternoon in his car.  Many other female students are in the same situation like me.  Therefore, on Saturday afternoons, there is a row of upscale sedans waiting outside the university entrance to pick us up.  By this time, nobody thinks that this is anything unusual!

Since I found this husband, I have never had to worry about livelihood.  I completed my studies successfully.  So, let me tell you what I have now.

(1) Money.  My husband got me a bank card under my own name.  There are 5 million RMB in liquid fund in that account.  There is also more than one hundred thousand RMB cash at home. This is basically my spending money.

(2) House.  My husband bought a new house under my name with four rooms and two living rooms in an upscale neighborhood.  There is a villa outside the city. On weekends, I stay there with my husband because the view is gorgeous.

(3) Car. This year, my husband bought me a Peugeot 206 for transportation. I just got my license this year because I don’t like to ride in congested public buses.

(4) Family. My family is building a new house for my brother who is getting married. I told my husband and he gave me 300,000 RMB without me asking and that was enough to build a house back home. I am sending 3,000 RMB a month back to the my parents.

(5) Family life. My husband loves me. He treats me well. I love my husband a lot too. My husband says that we will have a child of my own some day and the three of us will live happily together.

I am graduating this year.  But I do not want to get a job, because work is tiring and there is no freedom.  I want to do what I want.  Therefore, I have decided to open my own clothing store.  The place is under decoration and it will probably open in August.  I am very satisfied with my life right now.  If you have any views and opinions about my life, you are welcome to offer them!!!

[translated by EastSouthWestNorth]

A lot of people offered their views and opinions.

One person, “wangyouisliliang” (probably means “internet friends is strength”) posted the above and below pictures of “Fragrant Chrysanthemum 1986″ and asked for tips or clues about her. Another person “visav,” found a blog where the pictures came from and the human flesh search engines soon identified her as a girl in Chengdu, China.

But the girl in these pictures is not “Fragrant Chrysanthemum 1986.”

She is a Chengdu girl surnamed Zhao (赵). When Sichuan Online reporters interviewed her [English translation also at EastSouthWestNorth], she explained that her photos were taken from her QQ blog and that:

  • She got her driver’s license in 2001, not this year;
  • She was born in 1982, not 1986;
  • She never went to university;
  • She is not a senior government official’s mistress;
  • She was married in 2003, and has a son;
  • She doesn’t have 5 million RMB, and she’s working hard to save 50,000 RMB;
  • She doesn’t drive a Peugot 206, she drives an Audi;

…all different from what “Fragrant Chrystanthemum 1986″ wrote about herself.

Netizens have cursed her on her blog. The human flesh search engines posted phone numbers belonging to her and her relatives on the internet, so people keep calling her and her family repeatedly. She has hired lawyers and asked the Sichuan Online reporters to help her clear up this problem.

Recently, people on the internet also posted a picture of her four year old son and the human flesh search engines have targeted the Sichuan Online reporter too. The controversy of “Fragrant Chrysanthemum 1986″ continues and is now called “Mistress Gate.”

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  • Chinamerican

    All things aside, this woman has exchanged her dignity for material comforts. Her life may be full of nice things but it’s not the result of hard work from either her hands or her mind; she is merely a rich man’s plaything and when he gets bored of her, there will be many younger women with no self-respect to fill that role.

    Remember, if he cheated with you, he will very well cheat on you too.

    • http://www.staarlet.com staar

      Maybe she’ll get tired of him. Its such a cliche to think the man gets bored with her and will toss her aside. She’s not asking to be his wife. She’s enjoying her freedom, being well compensated and being adored. Sounds good to me, but then I would know . . .

  • Ben

    Too bad we didn’t have translated comments on this one…

  • Jinshan_Wangzi

    Stupid Stupid and Stupid. Well, if the story is true then there is nothing can say except that girl is so damn stupid. Well ok, you got face, body, and well whatever you have to please a man. However, how long do you think it ill last, noone can fight the nature and so do you. Once you got shaggy and wrinkles, i bet he will leave you alone and at that time you will just only ended as a crybaby. At that time you will lose all your dreams and even future.

  • WDF

    Man this women is sick. Why does some of my chinese people turning into monsters. God help some of those people please. Nice i bet her husband got all that money for being one of those corrupt officials.

  • Ron

    Hmm good on her if she has a comfortable life. A state of satiety is dependant on the individual that is experiencing it – of what he or she expects as the acceptable outcome. Personally, i would not be satisfied that whatever i have comes from this kind of arrangement (speaking from the point of view if i was a kept man of course). Then again, i am a man hence socially more unacceptable and pride gets in the way.

    Secondly, as followed up in the blog, she is a fake as i have suspected right from the start. Have never heard a mistress leading a happy life – less troubled yes, but never happy.

    Thirdly, think she is punished enough, no reason to call her and her relative even if she has lied about this. Its just her personality, why push them over the cliff? I am sure she hasnt harmed anyone with her post.

  • http://www.metrobloggen.se/shopgirl shopgirl

    i don’t like the “i don’t want to work because it’s tiring”

    ehhh… why did you get a university degree then?

    i mean, yes, she found a man that gave her opportunities and now she is so spoiled from it.

    if i was her, and a man (that i could possibly love) could give me all this, i think i also would say yes. But i wouldn’t let it spoil me like it did for her!!!!!

  • kk

    wow… awesome stuff :) I want to be like that as well, how great is life and ur having fun and u can find another dude as well! keep it up girl.

  • zz

    are we sure she posted these stories? maybe someone stole the pics from her blog because they were of a pretty girl driving! I’d hate to think the flesh machine is going after some innocent victim of online id theft, poor girl leave her alone!!!

  • specter

    So, this girl is lying then? The pictures are fakes, which leads me to believe so is her story. I’m sensing she was just trolling the internet, looking for some amusing responses and now a shit-storm has enveloped her. That sucks.

  • http://soundcloud.com/ggoodei-mc/tracks GGooDeiMC

    Whoa. Whoa.

    So…you think that being a mans side piece is the greatest gift to your life. Instead of taking the time to be a independent woman. You rather sneak around with a man that is married with children, so that you can have a nice car, house, and a few RMBs…GET THE FYCK OUT OF HERE.

    No darling. Let me set something straight. You are nothing but another woman that is willing to let her long hair, nails, cloths and pussy do the talking instead of standing on your own two feet and making a way for yourself and your family.

    Even if she did lie about some of the things in her blog…she is still setting a bad example for other women that are in China or anywhere in the world that being a woman of NO substance is the best way to be.

    The one thing that I don’t understand is that this man does not love his children and wife enough to stay at home and let his main family continue to grow, but now he has laid with you and now you have a baby. Ohhh and do not sit here and think that it is only you that he calling mistress…NEGATIVE because if he has you and his wife…trust me there is another lady someone waiting for him to come to her house and call her mistress.

    I am so sick of these nasty females just laying on their back and opening their legs for material things.

  • JD

    Chinese girls are quite ugly from outside and inside.
    If you want a mistresses why pick Chinese ????
    If you have money you would pick a girl that has class and good looks not someone who looks like she should be on a lead !!!!
    Do not know why chinese girls think so highly of themselves, they need look in mirror then check other asian girls like Japanese and Koreans who are much much better looking and have class.

  • footslave

    oh madam!
    i wanna be ur slave. ur foot slave. please let me lick ur feet.

  • sohail janjua

    hello im sohail janjua 23 a poet and writer i dont think so to comment that china womens bad or like that u cant say if some 1 came here or i gave my example i copy an american girl picture paste and create a bady story u cant say america bad so i think if some one lying u also learning some thing positive peoples always learn wether it was right or wrong i dont think if u r poor ur life bad and if u r rich ur life great some time money create a problem listen u all i see many rich peoples they have money but some have heart problem some having cancer etc so what can u do with ur money be happy and enjoy life i think u not need money to enjoy a love life u not satisfaction and money never satisy you.as a human being we never satisy if we have a bycycle we wish for bike.have bike then car have car then aeroplane have aeroplane now wants 2 go on moon ohhhhhhhhhhh mannnnnnnnnnnnnnn

  • Z

    nothing wrong here. seems genuine

  • Luisa

    well.. if you are shallow enough to sell your own dignity, go ahead! not all woman are materialistic pigheads.

  • rascalraf

    i understand that she comes from a poor background, and its nice to finally get what you think you deserve in this life, such as money , house , car…… but is that really what life is all about? did you earn respect? true friendship? integrity? honour?
    take time to think about it, what’s really important to us.

  • Mila

    Where is human decency?
    I know a family torn apart by a woman such as her, a young student who had sexual relations with the father.

    Such selfish girls with no self-respect.

    But who is really to blame? The system?

  • A Concerned Citizen

    5 million yuan is like $700,000. That’s like a really nice house here in California, paid in full. WTF. Where the fuck did this “senior government official” get all this fucking money? Does the government not investigate government officials with more money than the Governor of California???

    • Tony

      Most Chinese in Mainland China are corrupted pple. That is an illness and also their culture. Therefore they can never be as strong as USA. Long Live USA!

      • Just John

        Blind Nationalism – Support your government, even if it made your country so poor that tree bark soup is your national delicacy.
        http://www.codemonkeyramblings.com/demotivators/blind_nationalism_demotivator.jpeg

        So, are you one of the Americans eating tree bark soup?
        (In case you missed it, the US isn’t doing so hot, and China is quickly rising, so your observation is flawed)

        • Larry

          “So,…………..soup?” Too funny! lol. With all due respect, every country goes through its ups and downs. My country has been through much worse before. It will be fine..it is just going to take time. The mistakes that have been made for the last thirty years will not be corrected overnight..or in three years..or in six years.

  • John

    Its a good thing that you have found happiness and stability. Stay always loyal to your husband and pursuit your own happiness. :). Dont take in heart the people who dont understand your situation cuz they have not been through it. live a long life of happiness and love.

  • karze

    Where does the government officials get this much money unless through massive corruption.

  • http://what? cody

    i love the way chinese list their priorities, 1st being money, 2nd and 3rd being worldly possessions, only 4th down the list do we get to family, health, well being, things that money could never buy.

    • Alan

      Money is what most value, esp the girls.

      They will be someones cum slut for cash…..disgusting!

  • Jones

    What a dick!!!!!

  • fairytale

    she shouldn’t have done that and anyway very few men will give a mistress or even a wife 5 million and a villa. her morality is wrong andsome bad people have also targeted the son, no wonder each of us humans have our own little bubble.

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