Bride Wants To Take “Old Couple” Wedding Photos, Groom Storms Off


From NetEase:

Bride Dresses Up As Old Couple, Boyfriend “Flips Out”

On the 20th, in front of the Dongmen Old Street in Shenzhen, a groom-to-be awaited his bride-to-be to take wedding photos. To his surprise, the bride used make up to turn herself into a 70-year-old granny, asked her boyfriend if he would love her at 70 years old, and wanted to take the photos with him also done up as an elderly person. When the man asked his girlfriend to redo her makeup without success, he publicly shouted, turned, and walked away, leaving the woman crying bitterly in the street.



Chinese bride transforms herself into an old granny, asks her groom if he'll still love her when she's old, and wants him to look old for their wedding photos as well.




Comments from NetEase:

网易云南省昆明市手机网友 ip:112.117.*.*

A battle of crazies with glass hearts.

网易上海市手机网友 ip:180.169.*.*

If you aren’t affected/pretentious, you won’t die.

网易广东省广州市手机网友 ip:119.130.*.*

Psycho, what men dislike the most are [women] like this.

9cb3a467ef6a37b04bb3bbd7 [网易浙江省温州市手机网友]:

This world simply has that many mentally abnormal women.

254f1d4263b8754e5fd36eff [网易广东省中山市手机网友]:

[She] Has nothing better to do.

网易安徽省芜湖市手机网友 ip:36.63.*.*

Only discovered after makeup? What about before?

国情与接轨 [网易浙江省杭州市手机网友]:

Intelligence still at 7 years old.


There doesn’t seem to be a big deal to take photos like this. I don’t know why the guy is like this.

网易广西桂林市手机网友 ip:121.31.*.* (responding to above)

It’s easy to comment when it doesn’t involve you.

网易重庆市手机网友 [凌天夕日]:

Why doesn’t this girl wear funeral clothes then? To see if he loves her even when she’s dead!

把青春肆意挥霍 [网易日本手机网友]: (responding to above)

Your thinking is advanced, an upvote for you.

网易江苏省常州市手机网友 ip:114.226.*.*

This woman is simply affected/pretentious! If you take these kind of photos and put them up at your wedding reception, don’t you think it would be disgusting? Your family and friends would look at them and not even know whether to laugh or cry! They’ll hang above your bed every day and become a contraceptive! The poor guy, for encountering such a mentally abnormal woman…

网易广东省深圳市手机网友 ip:112.97.*.*

It’s not that the guy doesn’t love you, it’s that the guy thinks you’re being too deliberately unconventional and it’s embarrassing.

吓东 [网易福建省福州市手机网友]:

This guy seized a momentary opportunity.

Help us maintain a vibrant and dynamic discussion section that is accessible and enjoyable to the majority of our readers. Please review our Comment Policy »
  • lonetrey / Dan

    What’s so hard about taking a photo and _then_ asking her to remove the makeup?

    • xiaode

      you mean… are you serious? you really mean…. compromising? you are nuts! go home to the country you are coming from… we don´t need people like you in China!

    • jin

      Why is it that hard for her to redo her make up? He asked her to redo her make up and she doesn’t want to. It’s their god damn wedding picture.

      • David

        It will take at least an hour to re-do the makeup, if you do not know this you must be pretty inexperienced with women. Better to take the pictures with her first then redo the makeup. If this is the weirdest thing your wife ever asks you to do be thankful. Also, it is pre-wedding pictures. They will take more pictures at the actual wedding.

        • jin

          An hour is long? She did this without telling him beforehand and she is not his wife yet or any more.

          • David

            lol true

    • Bluex

      Problem is, she also wants the groom to makeup as a 70 year old dude.

      • David

        Why is that a problem?

        • Bluex

          Some guys are ok following a girl’s whimsical/crazy act, some doesn’t. Too bad for her, the groom doesn’t.

  • Guang Xiang

    damn, i guess should have talked about it first before surprising him like that

    • firebert5

      That would require caring about what the other person thinks.

  • DC

    chinese women are nuts…

    • jin

      You forgot *some* just like all women’s around the globe.

    • vincent_t

      and men like to crack nuts….

    • Foreign men have nuts
      Chinese men have eggs

      • mr.wiener

        Terroir! How hangeth the hammer bro?

        • Was just doing research, so stopped by to drop a line. How’s it going here? Have all the trolls gone to Shanghaiist?

          • mr.wiener

            Apparently so. It is a fun place for a bit of slumming.

      • JayJay

        who’s got the balls?

        • Whoever’s breaking them, I suppose.

      • DC

        time for your meds buddy…

        • You’re right. A dose of you is enough to sober up any internet party.

    • Sum Ting Wong

      lol. what about the laowai that marry them?

  • Zappa Frank

    that’s an unexpected happy outcome. the groom realized just in time that the bride is crazy and than can back without problem to his single life.. and look for a mental sane girl this time.

  • AbC

    Fair enough, the guy doesn’t want to be photographed marrying a someone with a psychotic disorder. Good on him for standing his ground.

    • slob

      He should have come back dressed as a corpse and asked if she will still love him if he dies first.

    • Poodle Tooth

      And keep in mind, this was probably not the first stunt she pulled.

  • simon

    run brother run

  • xiaode

    such a lovely couple… i see love and understanding for each other… and… and… so much harmony… ahhhhh….

  • Terrik

    This kind of behavior could not have been out of the blue. Pay attention to warning signs people.

  • mr.wiener

    Bad communication or publicity stunt?
    I’m inclined towards thinking it is shenanigans.

    • Only I can call shenanigans!

      • mr.wiener

        I bow to the master of shenanigans.

        • The master of shenanigans tips his hat to the hammer-wielding gentleman.

  • Poodle Tooth

    Wouldn’t this have been something more appropriate to do before the wedding?

  • oh, that face sent him running for the hills!

  • vincent_t

    the best way to make ur bf dump u i suppose?

  • As everyone knows, the best wedding photos are always taken in commercial shopping areas with the background being gawking bystanders taking pictures on their phones.

    There’s no better reason to put on a wedding gown and tuxedo but to be surrounded by bystanders.

    • AbC

      The question is… Who took those close up photos of them arguing? The bystanders can be seen to be quite far away, which leads to my assumption that the wedding photographer took these photos?
      “They paid me for a photo shoot, I better get some shots before the groom leaves or I won’t get paid”

      • For sure. The wedding photographer they hired includes uploading your private photos to the internet as part of the package deal.

        • Rick in China

          Most photo studios retain ownership of the photos and use them in advertisements/etc..

      • ClausRasmussen

        Or “I won’t be payed for my time doing this so I might as have some fun publishing the photos of the breakup”

    • Zappa Frank

      Tuxedo is an evening wear, absolutely not to wear for a wedding

      • For those who don’t know, and therefore might believe ZF’s statement that tuxedos are not to be worn for weddings, he is absolutely incorrect.
        Feel free to use an Internet search to confirm this.

        • Zappa Frank

          Actually is true, I’ve checked on Internet and I confirm what I said..tuxedo is intended as dinner wear. Originally as ‘smoking jacket’… Only in USA is used as wedding wear, while in the rest of the west as far as I know is a gaffe to wear tuxedo for wedding. We may see it could be a usa’s gaffe institutionalized.. For wedding there is the morning dress if someone thinks a suit is not enough…

      • For sure. The groom should have showed up with a big red bow on his chest and a sedan to steal the bride away to his village.

        • Zappa Frank

          that would be more traditional

  • ClausRasmussen

    Am I the only one that think this was a very romantic idea? An out-of-the-box way of symbolizing love forever?

    I think he should just have played along and donned the makeup too, snapped the pictures, get the makeup off, and snapped some more pictures

    And if she was crazy he should have known beforehand

    • mr.wiener

      Hmm… crazy in the head , a geriatric in the bed?

      • ClausRasmussen

        I’ve been with a lot of definitely non-crazy girls that could be described as geriatric in bed

        I usually don’t complain about it though, as I worry it could somehow be construed to reflect badly on my performance lol

        • Guang Xiang

          ah, the dreaded 死魚 (dead fish) girls

          • ClausRasmussen

            lol, how do they come up with expressions like that?

          • Rick in China

            Probably a combination of stillness and scent.

          • Guest


          • Guang Xiang

            your guess is as good as mine! the first time I heard of it is from a good Taiwanese guy friend who frequented Mainland girls.

          • ClausRasmussen

            I like it. It made me chuckle but I wouldn’t dare to use it within hearing range of any female :-)

          • Dick Leigh

            Eh? It’s similar to “cold fish”, when a person just lays there or doesn’t do anything besides “in-and-out”. I’m thinking the expression was actually borrowed from English.

          • ClausRasmussen

            I’ve never heard that expression either (I’m not a native speaker) but your explanation sounds plausible, especially if it’s of Taiwanese origin because of greater American cultural influence

    • Irvin

      no worries, he knows now.

    • iLcOrNaLiTo

      I agree, it’s his fault for not being as pedantic as his wife-to-be.

    • David

      I agree. As I said in a different post, if this is the weirdest thing your wife ever asks you to do, you are blessed.

  • commander

    The purpose of taking wedding photos is to keep record of the happiest moment of a couple in life, he might think, while photos of a old couple as they pose will be a symbol of hoped-for lifelong affection, she might think.

    The ideas are not that divergent enough to make one of the most joyous moments in life an inerasably bitter event.

    For the prospective bride, it would be better if she made her proposal to her partner in advance instead of making her own decision without consultation with him.

    For his part, he may have prevented things turning bitter if he made a compromise to her saying, “Let’s take wedding photos normally, then go ahead in the way you want.”

    A mutual understanding, the essential part of any long-running and happy marriage, is not seen in this case. The premature breakup for this couple may be good if the two are not ready for compromise based on mutual caring.

    • Dax

      Except in China, wedding photos aren’t taken at the wedding, they’re shown at the wedding, so it’s not really documenting anything other than That Time We Paid a Ridiculous Amount of Money to Have a Guy Take Cheesy Pictures of Us.

      • Irvin

        and photoshopped to perfection.

        • AbC

          No shit aye. Sometimes I do not even recognise the bride because she doesn’t look anything like the photo on the projected screen.

          • Teacher in China

            Yeah totally. My wife looks way hotter naturally than she does in the freakishly overdone and airbrushed wedding photos. But she likes them, so whatevs.

        • Cynic-Al

          Photoshopped? I wish.

      • Teacher in China

        I suspect you have been through the process, as have I…. correct?

        • Dax

          No, I’m hoping that if we have the ceremony in America first, that we can use those photos for the Chinese “wedding.” But I have been to my fair share of weddings here and seen a ton of pictures taken around my campus (we have trees and a lake).

          • Teacher in China

            Dude, good luck getting out of the pictures. It seems to be one thing that every Chinese girl wants to do.

    • ClausRasmussen

      Agreed. I am sure you will be a good husband one day (if not already)

  • Bluex

    Should be smarter and play around with photoshop or apps instead.

    • Irvin

      I was thinking the samething, I got an app on my phone that can do that with one touch, doesn’t even need to photoshop.

  • JayJay

    She looks like a zombie bride!!

  • Amused

    I normally sidestep these situations with my Chinese woman by using key phrases like “scratch-my-back-I’ll-scratch-yours” and “gimp suit”…

  • Crazy Chinese zhacai bitches

  • SongYii

    Don’t worry, baby! He was cold and irrational, humiliated you in front of strangers, but… you can still change him!

  • Cynic-Al

    Chinese wedding pictures are ridiculous anyway. Take them six months in advance of the wedding, wearing a tight red shirt and yellow pants while riding a pony. One of the worst expenditures of my life.

    • mr.wiener

      At least you get red envelopes at the wedding to pay for the thing.

      • Cynic-Al

        You mean my mother-in-law got the red envelopes. She claimed she had to get her returns on the weddings she paid for in the past. Makes sense-if SHE paid for the wedding!

        • Kai

          Slight misunderstanding there. The rationale is that she (or the parents) should get the money from their guests, to offset the money they’ve given to those guests at their weddings in the past or will give in the future.

          For example, you wife’s mom’s friend’s daughter (whew!) has a wedding, and her mom’s friend invites her mom/parents/family to attend. When they do, they of course give that friend’s daughter and husband money as a wedding gift. Now that your wife’s mom is inviting her friend, it’s time for the friend to pay her back, so that ultmately, it’s all comes out fairly even, with neither side ultimately really being out of pocket but all the courtesies have been observed.

          Usually though, each cycle will involve increasing the amount a bit, generally to account for inflation but also to give “more” than you’ve received, as a gesture of generosity and sincerity. It can be something of a faux pas to give the same or–worse–less than you received last time. It’s a big faux pas if you invite someone, take their gift, and then fail to attend their big event and give a reciprocal gift when it’s their turn. You’ll be seen as profiteering.

          Now, you and your wife should keep the money received from your own guests, because the expectation is that you’ve been invited or will be invited to their big events where you were or will be obligated to give a gift. They are either returning the gesture or will expect you to return the gesture when they have their weddings.

          So, it’s a bit more involved than just who paid for the wedding, though typically whoever paid for the wedding often gets they gift money as well. Depending on the makeup of your guests, this is probably something you should’ve discussed and sorted out with the in-laws ahead of time.

          • Cynic-Al

            I understand how it works. I don’t want to sound like a greedy bastard, but paying for a wedding and receiving none of the ‘gifts’ is strange. Further, many couples receive a substantial cash gift from the parents. Still waiting…thankfully I haven’t been holding my breath.

          • commander

            I can’t believe that the mutual support for each other’s weddings in Chinese is exactly the same in South Korea.

            Predictably, the Chinese and Koreans share the common culture, which produces similar nuptial custom.

            Hopefully, China and South Korea cement their friendly ties while settling any discord peacefully.

    • Teacher in China

      Oh Jesus. That sounds epic. The location and clothes and stuff for mine weren’t so bad, it was the amount of time it took that killed me. We left our suburb in Beijing at like 6 in the morning and didn’t return until like 10 at night. Honestly, after the 4 clothing change, I was like “kill me now, please, but at least this is last one! It’s almost 7:00!” and then there was one more change and 200 more pictures…. The only consolation I had was in looking at the equally grim faces of all the Chinese grooms I passed by during the day. We all had a “Dude, I know” look that we exchanged with each other every time we passed within eyesight.

  • Zen my Ass

    She’s crazy, he’s a crybaby… perfect match.

  • AG
    So many trolls on Chinasmack, but think again. Your good days might be ending.

  • yurah

    Seriously, who does this?

  • Freddi BuBu

    I guess the answer is NO….lol!

  • must touch brain

    Ah, the obligatory Chinese wedding photos… Is there a word for “cheesy” in Chinese? If so, some folks might want to look it up and save face.

    • Dick Leigh

      Googled it because I’ve wanted to know for awhile and found “肉麻的”.

      • must touch brain

        Then maybe it’s been banned by the cheesy CCP.

  • Surfeit

    “This guy seized a momentary opportunity.” HAHAHAA!

  • Escalante

    Perhaps he stormed off when he realized the whole time they were dating, her face was caked with makeup to cover her age and on this day she showed her real face! ;)

  • YourSupremeCommander

    Damn she ugly, I would have done the same thing brother! Better to cut the ropes before the kid is born.

  • Alan Dale Brown

    “When I get older, losing my hair, many years from now
    Will you still be sending me a valentine, birthday greetings, bottle of wine?
    If I’d been out ’til quarter to three, would you lock the door?
    Will you still need me, will you still feed me when I’m sixty-four?

    You’ll be older too
    Ah, and if you say the word, I could stay with you

    “I could be handy, mending a fuse when your lights have gone
    You can knit a sweater by the fireside, Sunday mornings, go for a ride
    Doing the garden, digging the weeds, who could ask for more?
    Will you still need me, will you still feed me when I’m sixty-four?

    “Every summer we can rent a cottage
    In the Isle of Wight if it’s not too dear
    We shall scrimp and save
    Ah, grandchildren on your knee, Vera, Chuck and Dave

    “Send me a postcard, drop me a line stating point of view
    Indicate precisely what you mean to say, yours sincerely wasting away
    Give me your answer, fill in a form, mine forever more
    Will you still need me, will you still feed me when I’m sixty-four?”

    – “When I’m 64” (Beatles, of course)

  • Probotector

    It’s not that big of a deal, creative in fact, although little weird. The guy doesn’t have to be such a douche about it, making a spectacle… it’ not worth ending a relationship over. Then again, I guess I just can’t understand the saving face culture that dictates: ‘you can throw it all away and break hearts and destroy your future, but as long as you saved face, you are still respectable’.

  • PaulMurrayCbr

    He should have come dressed as a poor man, and asked “will you still love me if I lose all my money?”

  • Elijah Moses

    Hope he reconsiders bachelorhood.

  • post.human

    This is why you don’t surprise people.

  • xiang

    For me I will take if I really love her..
    POOR girl found the wrong one

  • jvghcfd


  • Puk

    I will NEVER understand why people choose to get married when they obviously don’t know each other at all – or love and respect each other for that matter. This man obviously doesn’t know this woman and vice versa, and they certainly can’t love each other much when they willingly humiliate each another like this.

    Mutual respect and understanding is the essential a happy marriage. You should know your spouse limits and not hurting them should be your number one priority always.

    I don’t particularly like this idea either, but if my husband did this on our wedding day I wouldn’t let it spoils the day and certain not leave him for such a minor thing.

    I think its a good thing these two never tied the knot.

Personals @ chinaSMACK - Meet people, make friends, find lovers? Don't be so serious!»