Single Netizens Buy Out Movie Tickets To Ruin Valentine Dates

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From QQ:

There Really Are People “Buying Out Odd Number Movie Seats” on Valentine’s Day

Valentines Day on February 14th is almost here, a sweet day for couples, but also for singles to come and ruin it. A few days ago, a netizen who is also single launched a campaign to “buy out all odd number movie seats” [every other seat, to prevent couples from sitting together], which was met with wide support. Yesterday, the Shanghai Xintiandi theater’s prime time Valentines Day movie showing times were “attacked and occupied”. Not wanting to reveal his real name, the organizer accepted an interview with this Shanghai Morning Post reporter, saying he had just broken up with his girlfriend last year, and that this was just a joke, and he “hopes couples will understand”. Many netizens who participated however did so with the goal of “meeting new friends”, hoping to turn a “prank” into a “blind date”.

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Comments on Weibo:

啊蒲2011:

An act lacking consideration for others and without any social responsibility, this kind of person will never accomplish anything important, no wonder he doesn’t have a girlfriend.

山水恶:

If you had the guts [ability], go out and book all the hotel rooms. Now that would be an expression of resentment.

神左倾:

If this isn’t mean, what is it? No wonder he is single!

王姑娘是个女汉纸:

Such narrow-mindedness, no wonder he doesn’t have a girlfriend…

营口纽约纽约:

So retarded! You don’t think people will just switch seats!

北京田天:

If he bought the white seats, he could’ve saved 9 tickets.

regas:

It seems that when buying tickets online you must buy tickets adjacent to the seat that was already bought.

草珊瑚309:

This is [fake news], only capable of fool people who have never watched a movie [at a theater]. Theaters typically don’t sell tickets with only a single seat open beside them.

老猫阿贝:

Must be the act of a ticket scalper. Girls should let the boys off the hook this time, and not go watch a movie [for Valentine’s Day]. Then let’s see what those who have the tickets do.

你包容勇敢了我:

No choice but to go on a blind date now.

路痴的石头:

This is the dream for many singles, finally coming true.

梦想家的唯一:

Sigh, child, why bother? They can buy two tickets and sit in one seat, and some would even thank you for it.

Top: "Sorry, miss, but we want to buy seat numbers 2, 4, and 6." "No Problem Sir" Bottom: "FUCK!"

Top: “Sorry, miss, but we want to buy seat numbers 2, 4, and 6.” “No Problem Sir” Bottom: “FUCK!”

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  • hehehehh

    forever alone

    • whuddyasack

      Something SWAMS like POS would love to do, but are ultimately too poor to. Neither are they bright enough.

      • Kai

        Knock if off. This sort of random name-dropping is petty. When was the last time you saw POS in the comments?

        • whuddyasack

          He’s still around posting. Just not here. I saw him posting a few days ago and even had some exchanges, if you can call them that. Trust me, he drops some hatemail from time to time just to let me know he’s keeping watch.

          • Kai

            If not here then why are you name-dropping him here? You guys send each other hate mail? To let each other know you are “keeping watch”? What the hell is wrong with you two?

          • whuddyasack

            Tit for tat. Since he’s also doing the name-dropping wherever he has the opportunity. Yes, it is a bit hard to understand but POS always did have a few screws lose. Best way to cure that is a taste of his own medicine.

      • mr.wiener

        I’m starting to think you miss him. Good frienemies are hard to find.

        • whuddyasack

          Can’t really describe what I actually think of him other than as a punching bag that smells. This one isn’t too hard to find. He latches onto you like a leech and is always around. Waiting for the moment to bite.

  • FYIADragoon

    Awesome haha. I love trolling like this.

  • http://twitter.com/joexu Joe

    Note from author: this ‘campaign’ is likely a guerrilla marketing stunt to promote the film “Beijing Love Story”, as some skeptical netizens pointed out.

    • Gordon Gogodancer

      Interesting…i was also wondering how “reserved” seat would make news as Chinese wouldn’t consider an obstacle to siting where they want

      • David

        I was wondering if I was the only one who noticed that. They do not even stand in line nicely, I can’t imagine they would stand for this.

  • the ace of books

    Dick move, but A+ trolling effort.

  • comradewang

    TROLLOLOLOL

  • Stefan Xu

    No wonder he’s forever alone, wasting time on doing shit instead of getting himself a girlfriend…

  • Daniel

    “If he bought the white seats, he could’ve saved 9 tickets.”
    HAHA, made my day!

    • Markoff

      I don’t get it, explanation?

      btw. if some single would refuse to change seat that would be really stupid, I am pretty sure anyone would feel ashamed after that, since it’s not funny anymore. anyway I use VIP sofa seats for couples, so good luck buying odd one…

      • John Wang

        There are 9 less white seats than red?

      • Rick in China

        1st of all nobody is going to see this piece of shit movie anyways, 2nd, of course people would change seats, there is no way anyone would put themselves out there in such humiliation as being like “no I want to interrupt your date and sit *between* you, alone” – fights would break out…

  • mei mei

    lol i want to be friend with this guy srs.

    • xiaode

      yes, he could be the only one in the whole cinema who – for sure – you can sit with together….
      哈哈哈。。。。

      • mei mei

        it would be ideal date to me. you know, only two of us in the cinema on valentine’s day

        • the ace of books

          only two [people] in the cinema on valentine’s day

          …in China?

          • mei mei

            because i just responded to Xiaode ”
            he could be the only one in the whole cinema..”…

  • Thusker

    well this story is funny but im not surprised he is single LOL Karma is a bitch hahahaha bet he never got laid in his life lol

  • markus peg

    He cant sit in all the seats so they would be empty, giving them away to strangers is also pointless as people will just switch seats.

    If i were going with my GF and could not get seats together id just try and take someones seat until they come in and stop me, which in the above case, is not likely to happen.

  • Germandude

    “No choice but to go on a blind date now.”

    HAHAHA, now THAT was a good one.

  • Marcus Black

    Is valentine’s day something that is part of Chinese culture or is this another holiday adopted from foreigners?

    • Zappa Frank

      no. is adopted. however they have their own sort of valentine’s day….but I wonder if it is still popular..

      • Guang Xiang

        I believe their valentine’s day is popular yet less of a consumer trap.

      • Eileithyia

        In many Asia countries, valentine’s day is girls give chocolate to guys. Then White day, Guys have to return something to the girls that give you chocolate.

        • ScottLoar

          I have been told by embarrassed office ladies in Japan that some men in the office will actually present them white underwear on My White Day. That does not endear them to the office ladies.

        • Zappa Frank

          wow white day is even worse than valentine’s day…

          • whuddyasack

            It takes 2 to tango. Valentine’s day alone wouldn’t be fair on the ladies ;-P

        • nickhz

          in canada we celebrate “steak and blowjob day” on march 14th… let’s be honest, valentines day is about doing things for the ladies, like everyother day of the year isnt enough. but that’s fine as long as we celebrate steak and bj day a month later. google it… it’s a great holiday

          • Claude

            Show me a contented woman and I’ll show you a woman who’s heavily medicated – if not lobotomized.

    • whuddyasack

      It is adopted. Most likely from Japan the same way White Day is. Via Taiwan mainly.

  • arterius2

    As if following rules and order is even existent to begin with in China. So is some number on a piece of paper is going to stop me from spending some quality movie time with my partner? I think not. When this guy booked like 50 seats I hope he also booked 50 people to sit in them, because unless someone actually shows up on all these seats, nothing is preventing me from taking them.

  • Marcus Black

    Also I find it funny that people consider having a girlfriend such a big deal. I will only cost me £40 to skip the nonsense and achieve what most dudes who take the “girlfriend route” are trying to achieve. And yes I do have a girlfriend before you ask, however I don’t think its a big deal. It’s not something I would consider important.

    • Zappa Frank

      you are not Chinese.. and probably, like most here, you had more girls in your 16-20 than most Chinese in their life… in china having a girlfriend is indeed a big deal.

      • mei mei

        well. for westerners i would not call it gf/bf (or srs relationship), it’s sex partner exactly. they dont know what the love is..they only care about their dick and vagina

        • mr.wiener

          You can speak for all westerners in this regard?

          ….although if I had both a dick and a vagina it would complicate things a bit.

          • mei mei

            yes i can

          • mr.wiener

            Does this mean I’m allowed to make grotesque generalizations about all Chinese?

          • g_dog

            This is probably an accurate picture of how she views westerners.

          • Irvin

            youtube can’t be view in china.

          • Stefan Xu

            Actually westerners are more open about dating. Most westerners don’t marry their first partner.

          • mr.wiener

            ..with good reason!

          • Irvin

            most chinese don’t marry their first partner either, mei mei is just being naive

          • the ace of books

            Most westerners don’t marry their first partner.

            Good god no.

          • KamikaziPilot

            Although 50 years ago it wasn’t all that uncommon, or so I’ve heard. Times are always changing.

          • KamikaziPilot

            I think a more accurate statement would be “There are a greater percentage of Chinese who marry their first partner than westerners who marry their first partner”. That would probably be true, although I think it’s a very small percentage of Chinese who marry their first partner despite what some believe.

          • Irvin

            yes you can!

          • mei mei
          • whuddyasack

            Please do. You’d find that we can be remarkably thick-skinned but that’s due to all the gross generalizations we’ve all seen before. Makes for good training ;-P

          • Angie Mac

            So. Not knowing me or anyone in my life. You can say that of every western man. You can say that of my husband, my brother, or my father? Do you seriously believe this?

          • mei mei

            …and it apply to you, your sister and your mother too…..

          • Probotector

            A true product of the Chinese education system then.

          • mei mei
          • Probotector

            I can see then why you hate ‘foreigners’ so much.

          • mei mei

            http://i863.photobucket.com/albums/ab191/Nila_Hey/898_zps45f9b44d.gif

            god. how many times i have to say i dont have any hateful or agaisnt to “foreigners”. i just said the “foreigner” couples surpose to be gf/bf but actually it more likely sex partners

          • Irvin

            and this is different for chinese?

          • Icancount memei’sIQonmytoes
          • Probotector

            No, you said

            “well. for westerners i would not call it gf/bf (or srs relationship), it’s sex partner exactly. they dont know what the love is..they only care about their dick and vagina”

            And Mr. Wiener asked you: “You can speak for all westerners in this regard?”

            To which you replied “yes I can”.

            Therefore, you reckon that all ‘westerners’ don’t have relationships for love, but only for sex. That’s a grossly inaccurate and unfair generalization designed to defame us all. Why would you come up with or (if it’s not your own original opinion) repeat such rhetoric if not to cause hatred and discontent? In any case, you clearly have a low opinion of the so called ‘western’ male, which would imply that you don’t like us for some reason. Btw, I’m sure most of the ‘western’ or ‘foreign’ guys on CS lead faithful and monogamous relationships with their wives/gfs, be they Chinese or not, somewhat in contrast to your statement that “there are no love in those relationships”.

          • mei mei

            “Why would you come up with or (if it’s not your own original opinion) repeat such rhetoric if not to cause hatred and discontent?” =) it’s because that’s how laowais are …

            http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m5dws1Mpg41rwcc6bo1_250.gif

          • Probotector

            Okay, there’s no getting through to you. I’m done.

          • nickhz

            and you dont see this comment as and anti-lowai statement? a gf/bf should be a sexual partner, as well as a emotional partner….. at least we dont treat them like physical abuse partners

          • mei mei

            no. i dont see it.

          • Guang Xiang

            Which is why you’re so ignorant. You don’t see your statement as racist. You are implying that:

            Western people date solely for the purpose of sex. If that was the case, what about Christians who date?

            If it’s all for sex, then why would they care if someone is cheating? Obviously there are emotions.

            So Chinese people achieved some emotional level of dating? Sorry, but there’s a reason why a term like 炮友 exists.

          • mei mei

            you’re probadly a loser chinese boy who cant even have himself a gf in western countries

          • Guang Xiang

            and you’re wrong, but I don’t see the point of giving you evidence.

            Since we’re making guesses, I’m guessing you’re a low-class Chinese who will never visit as many countries as I have in a life-time as I have in 10 years.

          • nickhz

            dude she’ll never get out of the little mountain town unless she gets sold by her parents. this is why she has these opinions. i dont know why we are feeding the troll.

          • Guang Xiang

            Yea, obvious troll is troll, but I just hate it when I see Chinese people embarrassing themselves only to enforce the stereotype that Chinese people are ignorant to the world.

          • nickhz

            i agree… and i have another 15 minutes to kill… so i’ll continue

          • Guang Xiang

            3 minutes here, but I assume she’s already thrown off by a Chinese guy going against her.

          • nickhz

            she probably considers you a race trader in some way. if you are chinese then you should agree with all other chinese, no matter how stupid the comment haha

          • whuddyasack

            I don’t think she does to be honest. Even I don’t. I see someone who can stand on his own quite clearly. Who personally feels that sometimes he needs to put a hold on Chinese being ignorant. Even though we’re not always on the same page, I can at least respect that.

            Of course, it would be nice if Chinese could be more “tribal”, supporting each other no matter how crazy the concept. I’ve long resigned to the fact that most Chinese just aren’t as patriotic or race-obsessed as all other groups of people. A pity because the more primal groups take advantage of this fact to satisfy their own ooga booga urges.

          • ScottLoar

            I genuinely like your prose style, and cannot wait to use the phrase “ooga booga urges”. Thanks.

          • whuddyasack

            You are most welcome. I genuinely enjoy most of your posts and can appreciate you being the only sapiens in a sea of neanderthals. After a while you have to admit neanderthalism is contagious, huh?

            Don’t forget to call out those having their “ooga booga” moments. That’s how you attain mastery of that phrase.

          • mei mei

            you must be bullied in the school …

          • Guang Xiang

            wrong again. if you are so bad at reading me, how can we really believe what you say about anything?

          • mei mei

            so jealous. but you’re still a loser

          • Guang Xiang

            My kid is going to be born this month.

            Edit: lol, she changed virgin to loser

          • mei mei
          • nickhz

            congrats

          • ex-expat

            we should all stop feeding the troll

          • nickhz

            you are right… but it’s fun to see the little insane comments she makes

          • ex-expat

            you have a point

          • nickhz

            im sure you dont understand much of this world. you are a perfect examlpe of racism in this country. you are doing a great job of keeping the rest of the world thinking that this country will never evolve.

          • mei mei

            why do you we care about what you thinking?

          • Guang Xiang

            you cared enough to reply

          • nickhz

            first you should go learn english…. then maybe try to have a conversation with someone…. maybe ou will learn a little about the world and not be such a hateful and ignorant person.

          • mei mei

            you’re right , my english is not good but i dont want learn anything from you

          • nickhz

            haha. i wasn’t offering to teach you….. cant teach a dog to speak…

          • mei mei

            but white people have stereotype of having sex with dogs (or pets in general)

          • nickhz

            where do you get this nonsense from? we have a sterotype of having sex with animals? you are kidding right? do think that just because you make up some bulls*#t response that it becomes truth? go see a doctor, you are in serious need

          • mei mei
          • nickhz

            just because the website is called true crime…. DOESNT MEAN ITS TRUE….. moron… wow…. we are all a little bit dumber now because of you.

          • ex-expat

            Wow! What a stupid post.

          • Guang Xiang

            Sorry, I googled it and it showed no results

          • nickhz

            because its all in her head. racist little d*#k holster

          • mei mei

            actually a balck friend told me this about white guys and farm animals. so i’m not sure if it’s true. sawwwry

          • Guang Xiang

            yep, one anecdote becomes stereotyped. You must have gotten far in school. (sarcasm)

            Usually I wouldn’t add sarcasm to let you know I was sarcastic, but for your case I had to.

          • nickhz

            you are just perpetuating hate…. enjoy your day ya little racist…. tomorrow you can tell me about how all laowai have sexual relations with toilets or something like that

          • mei mei

            toilets? wow….

          • mr.wiener

            Moderated.

          • whuddyasack

            Does anyone? Inspite of what many foreigners would love to believe, Chinese and similar ethnicities typically have very few cases of domestic violence and are the most likely to look after their wives and children for life.

            White and Black men are far more likely to be convicted of wife beating and murder. Statistics and news reports actually confirm this.

          • Dax

            There are lurking variables there, such as the likelihood of the women reporting the crime.

          • whuddyasack

            Or simply that White and Black men are more violent both the Asian diaspora and native Asians. Something that begins with “R” is all the explanation needed.

          • Dax

            “I hit her sometimes, but I never thought she would make it public since it’s not Chinese tradition to expose family conflicts to outsiders,” -Li Yang http://www.npr.org/2013/02/07/171316582/american-woman-gives-domestic-abuse-a-face-and-voice-in-china

            “Nearly 25 percent of Chinese women have suffered domestic violence in their marriage, an official in charge of women’s affairs said on Tuesday.” -People’s Daily http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/china/2013-11/26/content_17133231.htm

            “Traditionally in China, domestic violence has been considered a private issue that should be kept within the household, with any outside interventions left at the doorstep.”

            “Li Jianting, a woman from Shandong Province, sued her husband for personal injury in 2003 after he severely beat her in front of their young son. It wasn’t until 2010 that Li Jianting received a positive verdict for her case. During the six and half years of arduous legal proceedings, her case was rejected repeatedly by the courts due to insufficient evidence collection and verification; and she was periodically separated from her son.”

            “Data released in October 2013 by a Beijing court indicate that less than 20 percent of domestic violence claims brought forth are recognized by the courts… Statistics from other provinces such as Guangdong and Shandong indicate even lower rates, ranging from 2-15 percent.”

            -Chen Tingting http://asiafoundation.org/in-asia/2013/10/30/breaking-pattern-of-silence-over-domestic-violence-in-china/

            50% of Chinese men ADMITTED to physically or sexually abusing their partners
            20% of Chinese men ADMITTED to forcing a partner to have sex. (We call that “rape”)

            -Tianjin Normal University, Gender-based violence survey

            Next time you want to try to save face by using racism, you should probably check your own backyard first.

          • ScottLoar

            Yours is exactly the factual rebuttal needed rather than slinging aspersions and unfounded hearsay.

          • whuddyasack

            So you’re comparing anecdotes with actual statistics… conflicting ones at that. You’re last link actually suggests that Chinese admit to physically/sexually assaulting their partners. Which contradicts your earlier point.

            Daxster, the scale of rapes/domestic violence between Asians and Whites/Blacks are incomparable. I’ll emphasize key points in upper case.

            -“One in four college women report surviving rape or attempted rape since their fourteenth birthday.”(1)

            -“A survey of high school students found that one in five had experienced forced sex (rape). Half of these girls told no one about the incident”

            -“99% of people who rape are men, 60% are CAUCASIAN. (7)”

            -“8% of men ADMIT committing acts that meet the legal definition of rape or attempted rape. Of these men who COMMITTED rape, 84% said that what they did was definitely NOT RAPE.”

            http://www.oneinfourusa.org/statistics.php

            And here’s some even more shocking data from the USDJ:

            -“25% of US women experience domestic violence, 40% of teenage relationships are abusive.

            http://www.statisticbrain.com/domestic-violence-abuse-stats/

            Finally, let’s look at rape statistics worldwide Sweden (63.5 per 100k), US (27.3 per 100k), China (2.8 per 100k), HK (1.6 per 100k), Japan (1.0 per 100k)

            http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_statistics

            From official statistics, White men are even WORSE than Blacks. And the worse part is they deny what is clearly rape.

            Note that it is evident rape in Western countries is severely UNDER-REPORTED and “slut shaming” is embarrassingly prevalent.

            So before you stereotype again, try to use examples where you actually do “better” than the Chinese.

          • Dax

            As I said (and showed examples of) before, rape and domestic violence are under-reported in China.

            In China it’s not even legally possible to rape your spouse. If you’re married it’s not rape, case closed. Since almost 30% of rapes occur within a relationship, China’s numbers are missing a lot of cases right there. Add to that the cultural views on sex and its really a wonder that anyone ever reports rape here.

            Even when people are raped it’s not uncommon for the police to advise them not to report it. You’ve probably heard of the teacher who was raped and the police told her to go home because if the man used a condom it isnt rape…
            http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/23/world/asia/rape-case-is-a-rarity-in-chinese-justice-system.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

            Your “60% of rapists are white!” argument (based on US surveys) would be stronger if 72% of the US population wasn’t Caucasian.

            At the end of the day, I’m going back the Tianjin Normal University survey that shows 50% of Chinese men admitted to abusing their partner physically or sexually. Show me something that says 50% of white men abuse their partners and I’ll concede, but until you do that I’m going to continue to assume you don’t know what you’re talking about.

          • whuddyasack

            Clearly you don’t know what you are talking about. Our argument wasn’t about who admitted to raping or abusing their partners more, it was about how such crimes were under reported in a certain far Eastern country.

            You shot yourself in the foot by publishing that “Chinese” research article, and I refuted by showing you Western statistics proving that most rapes and domestic violence in the US is not reported. And even then, 40% of relationships ARE abusive. This isn’t admittance, this is fact. Underreported fact. The real number must be closer to 70%.

            It doesn’t matter if 72% of the US population is Caucasian. The fact remains 60% of rapes is committed by White men and India is the rape mecca of the world. As Rushton proved, Mongoloids committed the least domestic violence back home and in the West.

            Finally, we have official statistics which destroys any doubt that Chinese are worse wife beaters/rapists than anyone else.

            Sweden – 63.5, USA – 27.3, China – 2.8, HK – 1.6, Japan – 1.0.

            Sweden has the highest rape rate in the world and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

            So how does it feel to be a bigger chimp than those you refer to as “negroes”? If I were you, I’d be disgusted. And would consider staying away from guns, schools and kids.

          • Dax

            Okay, last comment because I’m bored with this and because you’re either being willfully obtuse or you don’t understand how words and numbers work. Either way, I have better things to do.

            The questions raised are these:

            1. You claim Chinese are less likely than other ethnic groups to be in an abusive relationship and that “whites” and “blacks” are more likely to be “convicted of wife beating and murder.” Is this true?

            2. I claim that the low numbers of domestic abuse complaints among Chinese is not proof of lower rates of abuse, but rather of cultural and legal factors that discourage or prevent cases of abuse being charged or discussed. Is this plausible?

            Question one, Are Chinese less likely than other ethnic groups to be abusive within a relationship?

            Again, a survey showed that 50% of Chinese men admitted to abusing their partners. You’ve done your best to pretend this somehow proves your point because they are admitting it (more on this later), but it does nothing but show that Chinese relationships are as likely to be abusive as not.

            The cheap tactic of trying to question the survey’s validity by referring to it as a “that ‘Chinese’ research article” is ridiculous and meaningless. It was performed by Chinese people for a Chinese University. Unless you have some sort of verifiable evidence that the study was a clever trick by hostile western forces, you’re basically just admitting that you don’t have any real counter argument.

            Your assertion that “whites” are more likely to be violent because of arrest statistics in the United States is fundamentally flawed. Again, 72% of Americans identify themselves as white. If “whites” were culturally or genetically predisposed to abuse then arrest rates should be higher that 72%, but according to your own statistics, 60% of people convicted of rape in the U.S. are white. So, in fact, this statistic argues against your point.

            Question two, are there social and legal reasons why domestic violence numbers might be under-reported in China?

            Here’s where you keep accusing me of shooting myself in the foot with the survey. However, I’m not talking about what people will admit to on an anonymous survey. All the numbers we have are about cases brought into the legal system, because you cant measure instances that aren’t reported. (You also can’t just make up numbers and treat them as fact- if you really believe 70% of relationships are abusive then i feel truly sorry for the sad world you must live in.)

            So what do the numbers say? Yes, the numbers for China are comparatively low. However, by the Chinese government’s own admission (and we all know how much the Chinese government loves to admit that anything in China is less than perfect), many, many cases brought to police are never recognized by Chinese courts. The government also admits that around 25% of married women have been abused by their husbands. Further, China’s failure to recognize marital rape as a crime means that even if they wanted to, many abused women would have no legal ground to bring charges against their husbands.

            Culturally, there are other reasons why abuse might go unreported. As we see in the quote from Li Yang, traditional Chinese culture views family disputes, even violent ones, as private matters. Even in the West, if friends or neighbors know the abuse is happening, they often do nothing. Add to that China’s obsession with not making anyone lose face and you’ve got a recipe for not getting involved. Remember the CS article from last year about the little girl who was being horribly abused but no one in town said anything because they didn’t want her dad to lose face by getting involved in his “private household matter”?
            http://www.chinasmack.com/2013/pictures/abused-little-girl-now-bald-head-pressed-into-boiling-water.html

            Traditional views of women and their role in family and society probably (and I say probably because I don’t have any evidence) also encourage women to keep silent by making them think it is their fault for not pleasing their boyfriend/husband.

            Finally, your last paragraph is racist and nonsensical. I don’t refer to anyone as “negroes.” The assumption (which I have run into many times in China) that blacks are inferior and that all non-blacks feel that way is disgusting. Don’t rope me in with you in thinking that. I don’t see how any of what you said makes me a “chimp” or should lead me to be disgusted with myself. If calling out a society where abuse of women is endemic is shameful; what, then, is defending it? I have endeavored to be respectful throughout this exchange but you have resorted to baseless (and nonsensical) insults. If your point were valid, you wouldn’t have to do that.

            http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ad_hominem

          • Irvin

            you shouldn’t

        • Weidi

          Nanana, don’t wanna generalize, do you? Know several foreigners who married to Chinese girls. Not sure if marrying their gf would be worth if they just see their gf as FB.

          • mei mei

            there are no love in those relationships

          • mr.wiener

            Speaking from personal experience are you?
            Westerners and Chinese are the same as other relationships between Chinese and Chinese or who ever. Some are bad, a few are doomed, some are short term. The ones that last are because they like each other and have respect for each other.
            To you it may be dicks and vaginas, but I think you are speaking out of your arse.

          • ScottLoar

            “There are (sic) no love in those relationships”:

            妳的年齡小, 還不懂事, 生活上的經驗比較缺乏,社交極為有限,侈談與外國人戀愛,令人啼笑皆非.

          • ex-expat

            不一定跟年龄有关系。她就是close minded又固执。。。除非她原来被一个外国人骗了,我估计她一辈子会那样。当然别的地方有那种人,但我觉得因为中国的文化,教育,什么的,跟她一样的人是挺产检的。

          • ScottLoar

            總而言之,好幼稚.

          • ex-expat

            就是

          • ScottLoar

            又加上可憐.

          • http://www.chinasmack.com/ Fauna

            他不在中国也不像是中国人。他故意气你们。看来不少人也上钩了,可惜自己也显示出一些难看的思想。

          • Surfeit

            Conceited ignorance!

          • the ace of books

            I don’t know what this picture is but I like it.

          • Surfeit

            Tony Harrison from The Mighty Boosh.

          • Weidi

            I don’t remember knowing you and that you have an insight in my relationship ;) Just because you see some foreigners at bars and whereever acting like jerks, doesnt mean all foreigners are jerks. Maybe you got dumbed before by a “westerner” (this term is already so inaccurate as there are so many different cultures in “the west”)? The “normal” guys you do not usually see neither do you hear from them that often, as they are no “interesting news” to media or the people. Would be boring to report about westerners being normal, wouldn’t it? There are jerks that are Chinese as well as foreigners – but both sides also got the “good guys” (whereas good also is just a point of view). It sounds like you have a personal vendetta against foreigners if you generalize like that? ;)

          • Zappa Frank

            now she will reply that she actually does not like white men, that obviously is just another clue that she may has been dumbed by some white man..

          • ex-expat

            Lol according to one of her posts on another website, most white people are “mad ugly.”

          • whuddyasack

            Well, maybe she is telling the truth. Not all Chinese/Asian girls like White men. I still remember this forum I visited where an Asian girl was telling some White troll off. He argued with such stereotypes, masking his own hurt by being offensive. She clearly told him off, saying that some Asian girls like White men, most don’t. Then went on about why didn’t go after Black women since he was so pro-interracial. Apparently she was sick of being harassed and chased by White guys so I don’t think she was being racist. In fact, I sympathize.

          • mr.wiener

            So if I feel cheated by Rothschilds bank I should take to the streets with a sign saying the Jews are evil?

          • whuddyasack

            Not sure if you are referring to Mei or to the girl in the forum. I’ll assume that you are talking about the girl in the forum. Well, if Rothschilds bank employees started harassing you with insults and calumny, I would totally support your case.

            That was exactly what happened to the girl I was referring to. She was hounded by some random Euro prick just because she was telling some Asian guy that he shouldn’t believe the media too much and that Asian girls liked Asian guys.

            Actually I don’t think she deserved any of the insults thrown her way and her outburst is understandable given the White troll’s insults were infinitely worse.

            As for Mei’s case, I think she was simply stating what she personally felt (that she didn’t like White men) and her non-preference had nothing to do with being dumped by White guys. Ironically this assumption can be as stereotypical, crude and offensive as whatever it is that’s causing offense to so many. The fact it’s usually the people accusing others of racism that are using it makes it in fact worse.

          • Zappa Frank

            I’ve even seen a funny web site creepy white guy about white guys chasing Asians girls.
            However, since she always, coming from nowhere, come out with offensive sentences like those you can read here or others she wrote before, it is a rational suspect.
            Of course, we don’t know her and cannot said what is behind. To tell the truth on internet she could even be a fat bald man..

          • whuddyasack

            But while the guys in creepywhiteguys are indeed creepy, I’m not even referrring to that. That hairy white gorilla in the xojane article is far worse. Any girl in that position would be freaked out, regardless of race. When she rejected the loser, he went violent and offensive.

            That’s what the girl in the forum I quoted had to endure. Verbal abuse to the point she completely lost it.

            it is a rational suspect.

            .

            I don’t see it that way given she’s clearly not interested in White guys. I see that comment as a sort of low-blow comment aimed at getting back at women who offended one’s manhood somehow. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that’s you. But unfortunately, I’ve seen trolling losers use that line one too many times.

            To tell the truth on internet she could even be a fat bald man.

            .

            Unlikely. I think unlike most anonymous cowards who don’t even dare reveal their ethnicity or heritage online, she’s got guts to show who she is. I personally wouldn’t recommend that but it’s not my place to dictate my beliefs on others.

            I agree with you on your last point. But those weren’t my words at all. They belonged to some girl at another forum who only said it because she was insulted by random White dude. I think Asian girls realistically won’t go out of their way to size you down or discriminate you. Most are quite accepting of differences and yeah, most like handsome guys.

          • Germandude

            Why even bother. She should search for chinese love links or sth and search for “girls, divorced, age 20-35″ and hit any city of China for x thousands of examples of true love. All married to those fucked-up foreigners before of course. lmao

          • mei mei

            wow i do not against foreigers at all, but yeah i do see them that way, you guys go around and have sex with multi-persons (its kind of normal for guys but white womans are like that as well ) so yeah i just pointed my observation.
            aww and i have not dated any white guy yet so no one ever dumbed me

          • Zappa Frank

            this was expected….I’ve never heard anyone who says “yes, it’s true, i’m talking shit about whites because I was dumbed”
            ok so basically you know nothing about western people (I guess for you west is a country) but still cannot avoid to judge something you don’t know? else please enlighten us.. what do you know about western people?

          • mei mei

            ok mr.smarty. im not talking shit, you’re the one said westerners have many “girls” in their lifetime in the first

          • Zappa Frank

            oh yes, and so because westerns usually have more girls than chinese they do not know what is love right? perfectly logic. even Chinese girls with them are gold digger, while Chinese girls with Asians are obviously for love.. yes it makes sense..

            still waiting your reply to my questions.. have you ever lived in a western country? do you know difference among western countries? what do you know about western people?

          • mei mei

            cruel – lazy – arrogant – ignorance
            0_0

          • Zappa Frank

            ok I guess that is your way to reply something like ” I don’t know anything about this..” . what can I say? you leave us the only option to agree with germandude’s judgment.

          • ex-expat

            Have you ever been to a western country?

          • the ace of books

            Ah, believe me, dear, you don’t need anyone dumbing you. You seemed to have managed that quite well on your own :)

          • mr.wiener

            She dumbed herself pretty well I thought :)

          • Surfeit

            I know, right?!

          • whuddyasack

            I believe you and chances are the White guys here actually do as well.

            Quite interesting how people assume every Asian has dated a White guy or even wants to. I think they need a wake up call that this isn’t always the case, and it isn’t racist not to date White guys or want to. It’s called having a preference. Such assumptions can be very dangerous.

            Here’s another example of . Be sure to check out this white guy gorilla. Asian girl whooped that backward savage:

            http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/it-happened-to-me-a-stranger-called-me-a-chinese-btch-and-then-spat-in-my-face

          • Zappa Frank

            You are the only one here to do that assumption. I don’t think anyone else ever thought that here..apparently you are also the only one to take off this topic that was not discussed here…
            To have race preference is so childish, including white guys whit Asians girls preference..

          • whuddyasack

            No I’m not. Check out Mei’s comment I was replying to.

            aww and i have not dated any white guy yet so no one ever dumbed me

            So no, it was totally relevant and not off topic as you claim. And the person who brought up the White guy dumping her was you :-)

            It’s OK, we all make mistakes and we all type without thinking. Don’t make it harder for yourself lol

          • Zappa Frank

            to tell the truth I’ve followed this point, but wasn’t me to start this line…it makes no difference, since following I’ve also taken part in it.. but when someone came out really often like she did on this point, without being called, is normal to suspect. I’m not talking about here, but on koreabang, she came out with “white guys are mad ugly”, from nowhere, without any provocation.. I mean, this brings some suspects, because in normal situation you may even think this … but to come out in a public blog …what should we think? really..

          • whuddyasack

            Frankly my Frank, let’s just say that I agree with your views and really do like your thoughts, ideas and well, I can respect you as a person. That’s why I upvoted you.

            I see your points and I think that any Asian guy that gripes and whines about not dating other race women just because he is Asian is pathetic. This is of course, when we consider that he put no effort into it, is genuinely shitty in attitude and has massive chips on his shoulder. Men are not entitled to women because of race, so I’m with you there. If the non-Asian woman rejects him because of race, then I think he is better off with someone that isn’t as narrow minded.

            I’m glad that you see that guy as described by xojane as a gorilla. Just because a girl rejects you doesn’t mean that guy should have gone violent, abusive, spat on her and shoved her.

            “I don’t like white/asians men”I think is stupid and racist. .. but not because you don’t have the right to refuse me, frank zappa, a
            single white man, or eventually you a single Asian man..

            Frank, I also think that such lines aren’t necessary but sometimes it is context. The girl who said that wasn’t meimei, she was someone on a forum that got insulted by a random White creep. He used lines like sucky, fucky 2 dolla whore, bitter cause she got dumped by White guy, sideways v*.

            He even threatened her with rape saying that she was a typical Asian who would enjoy big White (you know). He was going on and on with his racist and misogynistic attacks and other members of the forum tried to calm him down. In that situation, I think the girl’s words were offensive, but she only retaliated because emotionally she couldn’t take it any longer. That’s why I said I couldn’t blame her.

            About mei mei, I think most of the time she’s just stating what she thinks without real malice intended. You have to understand that she didn’t do it with intentions to hurt White people. I think I act many years above my age but I’ll admit that sometimes I have urges for a little fun.

            What I’m trying to raise is her point of view and how she could have been offended by your statement. I’ve never seen her “White people are mad ugly” comment so without the context, it is hard to judge it fairly. Personally, I don’t agree that Whites are ugly but at the same time, it is her opinion.

          • nickhz

            you seriously need to get your head checked.

        • g_dog

          Oh yes the whole westerners are “really open” rationale. This from a country where there are brothels, spas and KTVs on every corners. Where men pick a partner just to make their friends jealous and women pick a man purely on the size of his wallet and then they wonder why years later all the men have er nais and the girls are stuck at home in a taobao fueled depression.

          • dconn

            thank you!!!!

        • KamikaziPilot

          What about Chinese relationships with other groups like Japanese, Koreans, blacks, etc. Do you have generalizations about those too? Trust me, many men of all types only care about their dicks, and many of all types also care about the whole person too. I will say China’s obsession with anything Western comes off as extreme insecurity in who they are.

          • mei mei

            if a chinese can be with a japanese/korean. it must be trueeee love that can hold them back from killing each other hehe

          • KamikaziPilot

            Okay well at least in my personal case you are right :), although I have seen cases where you’d be wrong. However I still think my balls are bigger than your brains.

          • mei mei

            lol i know who you are …

          • mr.wiener

            Well they are probably bigger than your brain. Thanks for the image of Kam pilot though. I shall treasure it always.

          • KamikaziPilot

            Nice try, but you’re actually way off. This is actually me. Don’t feel too bad, my balls are bigger than everyone’s brain.

        • Zappa Frank

          you don’t know what you are talking about…
          have you ever lived in a western country at least?

          only Chinese know love?

        • Germandude

          dear mei mei,

          i am a bit confused with your post and so, grading is difficult. on the pro-side, you deserve points in style. the usage of CAPITAL letters is so pre-90s generation, it shouldn’t really be used in the year 2014 anymore. in fact, we need a global cultural revolution that sends all those elite pricks that use CAPITAL letters to reeducation camps.

          another point i liked very much of your post was that it was rather short and hit reality and the nerve of the issue. westerners only seeking chinese girls as sex partners. that’s why the only thing you see is western men with chinese women during night.

          chinese men however do not seek any sex partners and are embassadors of love. just recently, dongguan, the city of love has shown how famous china is for it’s true love, even managing to build a love-industry out of it. these men went to establishments to meet chinese women to help them out of their mysery of finding love and it seemed so successfull that the government sent another 6500sth guys over to help them out. i love it and i wish you could teach me true love because i am sure you are an expert.

          i foresee a great future for you since the demand in dongguan will now increase and might spread to wherever you are. now is your chance. we have a saying “dumb fucks well”, so you are looking into a bright future.

          2/10 your post doesn’t make any sense, is far from reality and i became bored replying your nonsense. you got 2 points through your creative writing and the duckface in your picture.

          you now have reached lvl 2 of trolling. congrats.

          • mei mei

            no troll here. always honestly

          • Germandude

            well, that then leaves only the option of you being very stupid.
            thanks for your honesty.

          • mei mei

            your welcome

          • Irvin

            Honest trolling i’ll say.

          • xiaode

            may I join this conversation with an obvious solution to our problem?

            Meimei, judging her picture here, looks not that bad… so it might be possible that in real live guys are interested and want to get to know her…

            But, because she is talking that kind of bullshit she is writing here in real live as well, at least most foreign guys will loose interest (in a serious relationship) but – because of alcohol or other consciousness raising drugs – could still be interested to bang her…

          • Surfeit

            I applaud this! Yes, alcohol and/or drugs.

          • the ace of books

            Capital letters? Surely you mean capitalist letters.

        • Rick in China

          As a married man, I can say – mei mei – you’re extremely ignorant making that sort of comment. Are you projecting because guys have no interest in relationships with you and just want to bang -> not call again? Must be.

          • mei mei

            whatever make you sleep well tonight

          • mr.wiener

            Apparently none of us will sleep well tonight unless we despoil an Asian virgin.
            Whilst I can appreciate there are foreigners who as you describe are a life support system for a penis, not all foreigners are like that, can you at least make that concession?

          • the ace of books

            Hey, Wiener, you’ve read her posts. Is this the kind of person that makes concessions? I think you live in false hope here…

          • mr.wiener

            What can i say? Hope springs eternal and I’m a romantic at heart…..at least I believe people were all created equally intelligent..[despite all the evidence to the contrary]
            The thing that blows my mind the most about asia is that you can be out with a group of nice normal people and some cute young thing with just say something…… ………….. ………………..
            “Hitler had the right idea”
            “I wish we had killed all the Japanese and raped their 5 year old daughters”
            “AIDS is here to kill all the gays”

            …..and you are just for a loss of words…

          • the ace of books

            at least I believe people were all created equally intelligent.

            …. oh, you do live in hope. I’m sorry in advance for all disappointment encountered due to this belief.

            In serious: I don’t think it’s the capacity for intelligence that people lack, but the tendency to think about things, logical training, and critical element that let people actually think nonjudgementally about things. I think cheap thrills, for a person like this, also come into it – “haha, look, someone’s replying this is fun :D”.

            For people who say that shit in real life, I think ignorance also plays right into it – I’ve had people say stuff that just made me shake my head, because at some point there’s just no response. And these people think well of themselves, and think they’re reasonable, compassionate, or honorable, or something. Ehn, hypocritical disconnect.

          • mr.wiener

            Never attribute to malice that which can adequately be explained by stupidity.
            Hanlon’s razor.

          • Paul Schoe

            OK, I completely disagree with your original statement, but you made me laugh with the “whatever make you sleep well tonight“. An upvote.

          • YourSupremeCommander

            Who in their right mind would want to bang a rabbit face?

          • mr.wiener

            Some dumb bunny.

        • rollin wit 9’s

          Its not the case for everyone, but I do agree with you mei mei despite what everyone else is saying. They are just arguing the back end of the subject and they too have a point.

          • mr.wiener

            I’m not disputing that there are foreigners like she says , only interested in sex not love. What I’m questioning is her sweeping generalization that all foreigners are like this.

          • Zappa Frank

            aren’t there as well Asians interested in sex? or money?
            or do we have to believe in a Disney’s story for Asians’ romances?
            what she says is simply stupid, nothing else…

          • Irvin

            Disney’s story for asian IS about sex and money.

        • Angie Mac

          I agree. That’s why, when you travel to most western countries, prostitution is so easy to spot. Girls in windows on just about every street.

          Oh wait… that’s not western countries.

          • mei mei

            but lady we’re not talking about prostitution or such as…

          • Zappa Frank

            Yes, we are just flying with fantasy, since we are talking about something we have no idea. Ain’t it?

          • Zappa Frank

            Apparently to date girls and have sex makes of you a horny perverted, while pay for prostitute is perfectly ok. In this way you know what is love,….and even how much it costs..

        • Surfeit

          You know I had a Chinese gf once, she was pretty, like you. Anyway one day she tells me she wants to see my love, and my devotion. So I took a knife to my face, and I did this to myself. You know what? SHE CAN’T STAND THE SIGHT OF ME! She leaves me. Now I see the funny side. Now I know what love is.

        • Guang Xiang

          That’s probably the most ignorant statement I’ve heard in awhile. Typical of a delusional Chinese girl who thinks she knows everything.

        • whuddyasack

          Good comment. I’m one of the few that actually agree with you and think what you say is smart. The 14 dislikes were obviously almost all from White people. These sites always have more White people feeling strongly about this.

          This is why I think you are correct. No self respecting male would brag about having sex with 10, 20, 30, 100 girls and even claim having a girlfriend at the same time. To me, it just shows a very low base character and most are lying anyway.

          They should do well to remember that these girls they treat as “sex partners” are human beings, not piece of meat. My understanding is in a serious relationship, you don’t go around talking like that. There’s a thing called respect.

          I don’t think all Westerners are bad, but the internet sure attracts some of the worst of the worst kind. These people are bitter, angry and have difficulty finding a girlfriend. So they lie and brag online to make up for it.

          I personally call them SWAM (Single, White and Angry Males) and POS is one of the biggest examples of a SWAM.

          And yes, they don’t know what love is if it hit them square in the face. They just never experienced it to understand.

          • Probotector

            You’re missing the point. Most of the commenters on CS downvoted and refuted her statements because what she’s saying is BS. Most of us regulars on here actually have wives and families and don’t see women as “pieces of meat”, and would agree that it’s not cool to brag about bedding girls. Clearly, her statements, and yours are based on some personal issues you feel against white people.

          • whuddyasack

            No, I am not missing the point. See, there’s a good reason I’m not naming names save one. Good example too. That’s because there is a pervading attitude that I frequently see on the internet whenever girls, especially Asian girls are brought up.

            At least you admitted that bragging about bopping women like meat is deplorable. Because unless you have the manners of a pig and the IQ of a goat, you’d see that to the rest of us, having gazillion sex partners, real or imagined, isn’t “alpha” or “macho”. It’s downright sad.

          • Probotector

            Her overall point was that ALL western people aren’t capable of love and only get together for sex. The 14 dislikes were a result of people disagreeing with her crass ignorance, not because they’re defending bedding and boasting. I know the type you’re referring to, but they are not the majority.

            Btw “At least you admitted that bragging about bopping women like meat is deplorable. Because unless you have the manners of a pig and the IQ of a goat, you’d see that to the rest of us, having gazillion sex partners, real or imagined, isn’t “alpha” or “macho”. It’s downright sad.”

            What was the point of that rant if we agreed on the issue?

          • whuddyasack

            Not that crass if you don’t have a thin skin. I wouldn’t take it too hard or seriously especially since she was replying to Zappa Frank’s comment where his comments could easily be taken the wrong way. Her brush was as broad as ZF’s, and she certainly didn’t start it. In fact, I don’t even think she was referring to ALL Western people.

            And before you get it wrong, again… I don’t have a problem with ZF.

            As for that rant, it’s fairly obvious you do know the point. In contrast to what you say, those people are the majority ONLINE. That’s why there are gazillion sites devoted to and admiring PUAs and being a “playa”. And that’s why articles relating to rape of Asians by White men overwhelmingly have comments defending the rapists in some sick, twisted way.

          • Zappa Frank

            What did I start?
            She wasn’t referring to all white people? I think it is strange you have those doubt since she was clear about it..
            Did you really read what she said? Because by the way you write seems you rad something else, where your dears swam attacked her for some unknown reason…

          • meilove

            “… she was replying to Zappa Frank’s comment where his comments could easily be taken the wrong way. Her brush was as broad as ZF’s, and she certainly didn’t start it…”

            =) Hi there ! . Meimei here (i’ve been blocked by xiao Weiner). thank you for understanding me *crying*. Yeah why my staement were jugeded as a racist generalize but mr. smarty’s not ?. these laowais in this blog are so hypocrite.
            bye. see you later maybe on another site (koreabang or japancrush,..).

          • Zappa Frank

            Because you have some problem of comprehension if you think my statement was racist…
            Where did I write something so stupid like you did?
            Good job to come back, now mr wiener can ban you again I guess..

          • meilove

            i don’t care anymore mr smarty and your head look like a condom.

          • Zappa Frank

            Please, you’ve already showed how much you are pathetic…. Stop now you are not even funny anymore.. you can justify yourself accusing anyone to be racist and hypocrite if this makes you feel better.. Does it work? Do you feel better thinking in this way? Than keep on thinking that while the rest of the world can think you are dumb.

          • meilove

            yes it work mr. condom and … we cant stop .. and we wont stop ..
            http://25.media.tumblr.com/f102b2d6a70742a7c1f8393da9af6cc0/tumblr_mpmkzz6WMs1szacw1o1_500.png

            and i dont think i was funny in the first

          • Zappa Frank

            You have troubles in comprehension… you were funny despite your intention, like a stupid that shows her stupidity..
            Now you are boring, because even the stupidity become boring after sometime. Even this childish provocation, the overuse of animated gif and pictures….
            Look at your last two posts here and tell me if don’t seem written from a child…
            And you did all this because you did not understand what I’ve written.. I mean a normal person would ask an explanation, would in case attack me… But no, you decided to go all out against all whites… Hahaha…

          • meilove

            because i called you mr condom?….

            ok mr co …. eh mr frank , i gotta go out now, see you later.

            have nice weekend . muahh

            http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m82lp7xtKh1rw2hzno1_250.gif

          • Zappa Frank

            Ha yes, a gross generalization and racist sentences..really smart, no doubts.

          • whuddyasack

            I thought it was a good rebuttal to your original statement.

            like most here, you had more girls
            in your 16-20 than most Chinese in their life… in china having a girlfriend is indeed a big deal.

            Actually, it’s not just mei mei that took you the wrong way (no, I wasn’t offended in case you were wondering). That sentence was also a gross generalization with the added effect of making the speaker look deplorable. Her main mistake was that she didn’t lace her comment with political correctness.

          • Zappa Frank

            I think I’ve explained my sentence to people who asked, like kamikaze, and I think my meaning was not racist at all. Chinese people live a life with just a few social occasions to find a girl/boy-friends, that is my point.
            she didn’t ask explanations, she also did not simply attack me, but she decided to attack all the whites people….I think this was her mistake, because she can even think that I’ve written something racist against all Chinese, but still this does not justify an attack against all whites simply because i’m white..

          • whuddyasack

            Yes, at least we are understanding each other now. That’s what I’ve been trying to explain. Your sentence could easily have been taken the wrong way, and given the reputation of chinasmack and its many trolls, can’t really blame people for being offended.

            Like you, English isn’t mei mei’s first language so things get lost in translation very easily. You see, not many people will ask a troll for clarification. The immediate response is thinking that the troll seeks out to cause offense. They wouldn’t bother asking what they think is a troll for explanations.

            I’ve known you for a while so I can see that you don’t have any racist intent but casual readers and people who don’t know you should be given the benefit of the doubt.

          • mr.wiener

            I think the internet is kind of like the anti statue of liberty. The statue of grievance if you like
            “Give me you pissed off, your resentful, your over-opinionated masses yearning to vent their venom…”
            Of every race and creed.

          • whuddyasack

            That is true. The greatest thing about the internet is giving one the ability to freely speak his or her mind. The worst thing about it is likewise.

      • KamikaziPilot

        Are you talking number of sex partners or actual girlfriends, you know, a girl you actually have a relationship with outside of bed?

        • Zappa Frank

          well, I was talking about both to tell the truth…and of course not considering prostitutes in this count. I cannot guarantee about the sex partners/ girlfriends of Chinese people, but I remember that when the topic came out almost all Chinese talked about 2 or 3 girls they had before..

          • KamikaziPilot

            The thing is, prostitutes often comprise a significant number of the women that Chinese men sleep with, at least according the what I’ve heard, although i have no idea what the average number of women a man has sex with in China is. I’d probably guess around 10-15 in the West in a lifetime, but it’s hard to say since everyone is so different. There can be a lot of people that are way under or over the average.

          • Zappa Frank

            my best friend never had a girl or almost and he is 36… but still this is not the trend in a western country (I suspect there is a huge difference even among westerns countries). 10 – 15 I think is ok as average number.
            In china to have a girlfriend is “complicated” to begin with that during high school (when for most people begin love affairs) teachers work as policemen trying hard to avoid any relation, out of school they don’t have time.. in university is possible but most of Chinese (like in the rest of the world) don’t go to university.. however is just 4 years and there is this thing of the “face” that makes things complicated, despite of that I remember that campus gardens where full of used preservatives…(so much love, like chou chou believe)..
            So in my first reply I just wanted to say that a girlfriend in china is not an easy thing like in other countries..

          • KamikaziPilot

            Wait, are you saying that say for a given age group, say 18-25, there are a higher percentage of single people in China than in the west? Really how hard is it to have a girlfriend in China? I don’t live there but I’d think these days the attitude has changed enough to where not every relationship is like an audition for marriage. At least that’s what I thought, I could be wrong.

          • ex-expat

            Gender ratio is also a factor. I think about 30 million people or so this generation will not be able to marry.

          • Probotector

            In that case, China needs to legalize gay marriage.

          • ex-expat

            Or, more likely, abduct more women from North Korea and Myanmar.

          • Stefan Xu

            In China having a partner means the goal is marriage. Casual dating is not popular. Chinese girls will start to talk about marriage on the second or third date.

          • Guang Xiang

            Haha sorry mate, but I dated a Beijing girl once and it was all just for fun. I even asked if she wanted it to be official.

          • the ace of books

            As I’ve experienced it, in China folks go straight for the deep end when it comes to dating. It’s not very comparable to the West – there’s a huge blind-dating culture that’s really an excuse for stats-swapping and compatability-checking, and dating is seen mostly as a direct route to marriage.

            Dating in school is hard for students because 1) everyone from parents to teachers to other students voices, aloud and often, the opinion that dating detracts from study, and since study is the sacred duty of students, that’s right out. Also, 2) there’s huge amounts of study anyway, and dating on top of that would make time management difficult or sleep impossible. Finally, 3) the huge derth of social experience that students have, due to constant studying, makes for some difficulty in connexion between – and even within – genders.

          • KamikaziPilot

            No wonder a lot of them are book smart but not life smart. I heard it’s similar in other asian countries as well (Japan, S. Korea). I’m just glad I never grew up in a place like that as I figure it really stunts your social growth and life skills in the long run. But then again everyone has a different idea of happiness so, to each their own I guess.

          • Zappa Frank

            No I only meant that compared to west you have by far less chance and social occasion to chase girls..

          • KamikaziPilot

            Yeah I’ll agree with that. Probably just far less time for social interaction and development in general. I guess other things take priority (school, making money)

          • whuddyasack

            What’s surprising to me is that I know many Chinese people and their Western peers. College age, that 18-25 bracket. Many of my Chinese friends are getting married at 18, 19, 21. Most of my White male friends are single, but thankfully none of them are SWAM (Single, White and Angry Males). It would make sense numerically because at that age, there are many more White men than White women.

            And it’s about to get worse from what I can see. My friends and I notice that out of most newborns, toddlers and young children (pre-10), White children are almost all MALE, while Asian children are almost all female. Not sure if you notice the same thing. Really weird. By Asian, it’s just East/Southeast Asians. All other races have mostly male children, and it looks like it could get uglier in the future.

            Back to your question, despite popular opinion, I don’t think it’s any harder to get a girlfriend in China than in the West.

          • KamikaziPilot

            Are you talking about Chinese in China or in the US? Most of the Chinese (born in China) I’ve know are immigrants to the US, and I’ve never lived in China so I’m not sure how different things are there but still being married at 18, 19 seems kind of early. Are you sure it isn’t just your group of friends that are getting married this early? I’m not sure what you mean by “at that age, there are many more white men than white women”. You mean white women get married earlier than their male counterparts? Or do you mean in total numbers there are more white men than women?

            Okay you second paragraph I have to disagree completely. I don’t doubt your observations, but what you see is but a small sample size of the entire population. I haven’t noticed any kind of gender imbalance regarding newborns. Just thinking of my own extended family of my generation the males outnumber the females 12 to 7.

          • whuddyasack

            Yes, I’m referring to my group of friends, but I’ve heard from others that getting married young is actually quite common. I suppose it’s pressure from the parents. 18 and 19 isn’t that common, but I just brought it out for emphasis’ sake. In the big Chinese cities, the average age of marriage is very late and comparable with Europe and the rest of East Asia.

            I’m not sure what you mean by “at that age, there are many more white men than white women”. You mean white women get married earlier than their male counterparts? Or do you mean in total numbers there are more white men than women?

            I meant the latter. Demographically, there are many more White men than women at that age bracket. Hence why White males are often the most virulent, insecure and obnoxious online when it comes to getting dating/marriage. In terms of interracial relationships, WM involvement is off the charts. There is a reason why they pop up in every single thread about this issue. With scarcity comes competition.

            As for the second paragraph, I’m actually quite thankful that it’s just me. Because I’ve been noticing all those Asian parents brimming with pride at their babies, almost exclusively girls. I’ve also noticed how every other race has nothing but boys.

            My generation was a lot more like yours, a balance in gender ratio between Asian boys to girls. It just seems that the trend from 2010 onwards is veering towards a frightful future. But I’m glad to be proven wrong on this. Less to worry about.

          • KamikaziPilot

            I find your statement that there are many more white men than women in the 18-25 age group to be hard to believe. I wouldn’t be surprised that there are slightly more men than women but many? I don’t know why the demographic would be different for whites than for any other race (in America). It’s not like there a biological difference that causes any race to have more males than females born, or vice versa. I’ve read at least in the US, boys outnumber girls slightly at birth but by the time old age rolls around, women outnumber men. I really don’t believe there’s any racial difference in the ratio of males vs. females. In China yes, due to sex selection before birth and female infanticide but in the US, I don’t think so. I really think you’re taking a few observations an applying it to society at large. Did you read anything about this or are these purely your own observations?

          • whuddyasack

            Ok, maybe not many more. But there definitely is more. Actually, demographically it should be the same but there are some things that I think can skew results.

            The thing I’ve noticed is that they could easily get more females into the country via immigration or adoption. Immigration of Non-White females. This is because traditionally, there is less control on determining the gender of a White immigrant or adoptee because it isn’t easy to get in White immigrants as compared to third world immigrants and the adoption process is more difficult if you are adopting from a White country.

            But ultimately, you are correct. I’m taking my observations and trying to draw a conclusion from that. I’m quite glad that you have a completely different observation and didn’t notice it too. While I don’t care what gender a child is, it becomes quite disturbing if Non-Asian children born past 2010 were predominantly male and Asian children were female.

            That’s because gender imbalances doesn’t actually cause society to value females more as widely believed. It just makes them easy target for abuse by gangs of men and the fact that they are racially different affords them even less sympathy by the sons’ parents.

            And yeah, it was purely observational.

      • Stefan Xu

        How about me, I never had a girlfriend during my teens and got my first and still current gf when I was 20. It’s a big deal for me. And I’m not Chinese.

        • mr.wiener

          Stefan…….I am soooo going to have to get you drunk some time.

          • Stefan Xu

            I have never been drunk, is it fun?

          • mr.wiener

            It puts things in context.

          • ScottLoar

            He was an old time cowboy don’t you understand
            His eyes were sharp as razor blades his face was leather tanned
            His toes were pointed inward from a hangin’ on a horse
            He was an old philosopher of course
            He was so thin I swear you could have used him for a whip
            He had to drink a beer to keep his breeches on his hips
            I knew I had to ask him about the mysteries of life
            He spat between his boots and he replied
            It’s faster horses younger women older whiskey more money
            [ trumpet ]
            He smiled and all his teeth were covered with tobacco stains
            He said it don’t do men no good to pray for peace and rain
            Peace and rain is just a way to say prosperity
            And buffalo chips is all that means to me
            I told him I was a poet I was lookin’ for the truth
            I do not care for horses whiskey women or the loot
            I said I was a writer my soul was all on fire

            I said I was a writer my soul was all on fire
            He looked at me and he said you are a liar
            Son it’s faster horses younger women older whiskey more money
            [ trumpet ]
            Well I was disillusioned if I say the least
            I grabbed him by the collar and I jerked him to his feet
            There was somethin’ cold and shiny laying by my head
            So I started to believe the things he said
            Well my poet days’re over and I’m back to bein’ me
            As I enjoy the peace and comfort of reality
            If my boy ever asks me what it is that I have learned I think that I will readily affirm
            Son it’s faster horses younger women older whiskey more money
            Faster horses younger women older whiskey more money
            Faster horses younger women older whiskey more money
            It’s faster horses younger women older whiskey more money

            – Faster Horses (The Cowboy and The Poet)

          • Guang Xiang

            Everything makes more sense when drunk

          • the ace of books

            And is also inexplicably funnier.

        • Zappa Frank

          I wrote “like most here”…not “like all here”.. You didn’t have a gf in your teens in Sweden? That’s sad…

          • Stefan Xu

            Because I look asian, and guys aren’t really popular in the west…

          • Zappa Frank

            I’m sorry Stefan, I like you, you are really an honest guy and I don’t want to hurt your feeling, but how do you know that is because you look asian and not for others reasons? I mean, I know Chinese ( that reasonably look more asian than you) with Italians girlfriends, and I can assure that Italy is by far less tolerant than Sweden..

          • Stefan Xu

            I know there are, but such girls are not easy to find…
            Moreover I was also quite nerdy and ugly during my teens.

          • nickhz

            sorry bud, but “the west” where i come from, asian guys do just fine with the ladies. it is not about your “asian look” i dont know much about sweden in this regard, but in canada it is not a big deal at all. it’s funny, i have never even heard of this great chinese insecurity until i came to china, and i grew up with chinese people all around me… never any hatred or racism like i see here in the heavenly kingdom.

          • Guang Xiang

            If dating for Westerners isn’t as big of a deal, then why would you find it sad that someone didn’t date in their teens?

          • Zappa Frank

            He wrote before about his feeling of not being accepted completely in Sweden. I think is sad, because during your teens is the moment where you need more to feel accepted, and having a girlfriends is indeed a good way…

      • Guang Xiang

        Oh please, if you look at reddit you can see that having a girlfriend is a big deal for anybody.

    • Surfeit

      It’s a big deal to me! I have money troubles and inherited alcoholism. Getting a girl, in this economy, it’s a big deal, Marcus!

    • loki

      £40 to bring home a gift for your girlfriend.. that keeps on giving for her whole life…. wow I call that a deal! GJ

      • loki

        ah crap I meant an STD in case anyone was wondering ….

        • Marcus Black

          Ever heard of something called a condom?

  • Guang Xiang

    I’m all for pranks, and I thought this was pretty clever!

    And just because he is single doesn’t make him a loser. He’s dated before anyways.

  • Eileithyia

    people will still sit together when they see nobody shows up for the other seats

    • icu

      but why would you initially buy two separate seats and expect that no one would be sitting next to you? there’s a possible chance that it’s legit and will be a packed theater… i would just skip the movie date and take my date somewhere more romantic with a scenery or something.

      • Irvin

        exactly!! since when is movie an obligation?

  • Repatriated

    Dude doesn’t realize that he could get laid multiple times without the headaches of a “needy” girlfriend for less than he spent tickets….Ha.

    • Irvin

      you haven’t heard what happened to dongguan have you?

      • Repatriated

        you’ve never lived in China, have you? there’s a pink light on almost every corner of every big city. do you think the cops don’t know what they’re up to? just because some raid happened, doesn’t mean that every prostitute in China is going to snap her legs closed and never sell her “wares” again……

  • Gordon Gogodancer

    Since when has that ever stop anyone to seat anywhere?

  • Gordon Gogodancer

    Until recently i wasn’t sure Valentine’s day was the 14th of February…damn social pressure, why can’t you let me be FREEEEEEEEEE?

  • DaiRuiKe

    Props to the guy who did this. It’s hilarious.

  • Gerhana

    must be by the same type of people who confess love using logic/algorithm/sciences.

    Unrelated, but my heart is bleeding for no good reason on valentine’s day. Oh, my bleeding, bleeding heart. Where is Kiwi girl. I wish she is here to comfort me.

  • Paul Schoe

    They have a Valentines day already for many years (probably much longer then the Western Valentines Day). It falls on the seventh day of the seventh month according to the Chinese calendar and relates to a love story between two farm people that were not allowed to marry, but one day a year, a bridge is formed by crows (magpies) so that they can meet.

    • whuddyasack

      Yes, this festival has not only been practiced in China for so many years, it is also celebrated in Japan (Tanabata), Korea (Chilseok) and Vietnam (Thất Tịch) since antiquity. If I were to hazard a guess, I would say that the Evening of the Seventh is celebrated even more fervently in Japan than China.

    • Zappa Frank

      If you talk about the white day I’ve read it has been invented in the ’76 by a candy industry or something to reply to valentine’s day..

      • Paul Schoe

        No, White Day is directly connected with Valentines day and is “celebrated” on march the 14-th. I write celebrated between quotes because, as you say, it is a pure commercial event. From what i read, the objective is only to give gifts back to people who gave you (anonymously?) something on Valentines day.

        The Chinese Valentines day on the 7th of the 7th (Qixi Festival) seems to be celebrated already some 2000 years ago.

  • Angie Mac

    Question. How many people said, “Aw shucks. Guess we’ll have to go home or see something else.” and how many people said, “Yeah, just give me two tickets wherever.” and sat where they bloody well wanted to?

    • Irvin

      lol yup, I’ll do that.

  • mei mei

    …if there are no hurt,it’s not love baby…

    • Zappa Frank

      It was a song, not a question….

      • mei mei

        i know but what do you expect me to respond ?

        • mr.wiener

          You could Seal the deal.

          • mei mei

            ….

          • mr.wiener

            My mistake, I thought the lyric from the song was by Seal when it was in fact by Haddaway.

          • Surfeit

            YESH! Happy Valentines!

      • Probotector

        A really old song I might add.

        • Zappa Frank

          I was around fourteen…

  • YourSupremeCommander

    Having assigned seats in a movie theater is DUMB. Its not an $800 opera seat or $2500 NBA courtside seat, its just a god damn $10 movie.

  • mei mei

    yes, go on ….

    but “eat with a fork because that’s ‘classy'” really??

  • mei mei

    yes, go on ….

    but “eat with a fork because that’s ‘classy'” really??

    i gonna take photos of me with fork from now. i love to be “classy”

  • Irvin

    this is just stupid, just because he bought the seats doesn’t mean he can occupy all of them. If it was me I’ll just buy whatever seats for me and my date and then just sit whereever when I go in.

    Don’t tell me people always sit where they are assign to, this is china!

  • Irvin

    dude………you can just stay in and fuck. You don’t need to go anywhere.

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  • YourSupremeCommander

    The better idea would be to not fool with the tickets, but instead, buy out the concession stand.

    • jeff vanvonderen

      This comment makes no sense in this context at all.

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  • ScottLoar

    There’s come confusion.

    It is 元宵節 or The Lantern Festival, the 15th day of the lunar new year, which every 19 years or so coincides with St. Valentine’s day of the Gregorian calendar as it did this year.

    牛郎織女, the cowherd and the weaver, is the story of the forelorn lovers who can meet in legend but once a year, and written references date to the Northern and Southern Dynasties period (386-589 CE). This falls on the seventh day of the seventh month of the lunar calendar.

    • linette lee

      七月初七
      牛郎織女only get to see each other once a year under the moon.

      http://img.lotour.com/test/outdoor/201108/img625307.jpg

    • Den2

      Scott, yeah i understand that. I am Singaporean Chinese. I know it is yuanxiao, but it also happens that in my country we also consider yuanxiao a sort of valentine’s day. ^_^ it’s a little bit obscure/irrelevant, but it is true!

      • ScottLoar

        Den2, I live in Penang and am very, very familiar with the custom in Singapore and Malaysia. And, as I said, the date of The Lantern Festival coincides with St. Valentine’s Day about once every 19 years so this year there were a lot of weddings and proposals.

        • Den2

          ahh, gotcha! sorry, i misread! I had another look and saw that i had completely missed one sentence. apologies!

          • ScottLoar

            No problem, la!

    • linette lee

      元宵節 or The Lantern Festival, is also a day for the single people to go to the Lantern Festival to search for love. They leave messages. wishes, and riddles in the lanterns and hang them.

  • loki

    OMG, stop feeding the meimei Troll… is it me or am I the only one looking for “it’s” posts just so I can down vote them ALL?

    • Zappa Frank

      It is funny because we were talking about the valentine’s day troll of the article and it came out a troll in the blog. Hmmm I bet “it” did not have a good valentine’s day as well

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  • linette lee

    hahaha.Is this news really true. So crazy.

    Happy Valentine’s day and Lantern Festival to all you CS folks.

  • ScottLoar

    St. Valentine’s Day, Christmas and to a much lesser degree Halloween are all borrowed holidays and the chance to have some fun.

  • North-eastern

    Just saying…..

    • http://www.chinasmack.com/ Fauna

      June 1 is not 9 months after Valentine’s Day.

      • North-eastern

        June 1st is not the “Universal Children’s Day”.
        November 20th is.
        Thank you.

        • Kai

          Forgive her, it’s 6/1 in China, because of communism.

          • North-eastern

            @kaipan:disqus Yeah, right. Because “Children’s day” is being celebrated on different dates in different countries, lots of people mistake those dates as “Universal Children’s day”.

            @FaunaCS:disqus I found it funny. This year’s Chinese Valentine’s Day a.k.a 07/07 will fall on August 2nd which is not exactly 9, but 10 months before next year’s “Children’s Day” in China. Hahahahaha….

          • http://twitter.com/joexu Joe

            What is funnier is that Labor Day is exactly 9 month after Chinese Valentines day, because again communism (literally)

  • dconn

    Haters

    • YourSupremeCommander

      gonna hate?

  • Daniel

  • whuddyasack

    Actually, they are already celebrating Christmas and doing all that. Unfortunately, the true meaning of Christmas might be butchered in the process and to them, it means having a good time with loved ones. For a nation that is considered one of the toughest to find true love or simply to date, they sure have plenty of these celebrations, regardless whether it’s adopted or not.

  • mr.wiener

    Apart from your predilection for posting soft porn, what the F*ck does this have to do with either the topic or the comment?

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  • DearDairy

    what

  • http://aileilei.tumblr.com/ El Puma R.

    “An act lacking consideration for others and without any social
    responsibility, this kind of person will never accomplish anything
    important, no wonder he doesn’t have a girlfriend.”

    An act lacking consideration for others, you mean something like, spitting anywhere you can, maybe? Or maybe talk on their phones when watching movie? Maybe texting in class, texting everywhere, or no talking unless texting? Or maybe pushing each other in a line for an empty bus? or maybe building a bridge that collapses within a year after finished? This doesn’t concern consideration right here, it might for the consumers, but not to the author. For him I believe it involves some kind of message.

    And his guy… he’s not only smart but also very amusing. He might not have a girlfriend but who knows, maybe he’s not the going shopping on valentine’s day kinda guy… one thing I am sure of is that he won’t blame it on others, and he decided to have fun in the kind of day establishment makes you feel like shit for not having someone to go out and spend money.

    Bravo.

  • http://aileilei.tumblr.com/ El Puma R.

    They are doing this already. you should visit China someday, Black Friday is a walk in the park compared to

    Chinese Valentines Day
    Western Valentines Day
    Chinese New Year at the Train Station
    New iPhone came out

  • stevelaudig

    If true, meets the definition of ‘asinine’, which is often met in so many different ways in Chinese public life. asinine |ˈasəˌnīn|. adjective. extremely stupid or foolish: Lydia ignored his asinine remark. DERIVATIVES asininity |ˌasəˈninitē| noun
    ORIGIN late 15th cent.: from Latin asininus, from asinus ‘ass.’ but only when combined with boorish |ˈbo͝oriSH|,adjective ….bad-mannered; coarse: boorish behavior and spiteful [spiteful |ˈspītfəl| adjective. showing or caused by malice:] towards the innocent whose only offense in the eyes of organizers was that they had something he lost. The more one things about this behavior, the more repellent it becomes.

    • Guest

      Thanks for introducing the new vocabulary, there, Steve. I had always wondered what ‘asinine’ meant and never thought of consulting Merriam-Webster.

      Perhaps you should lighten up, such ‘asinine’ pranks are commonplace in pretty much every country on earth and are merely intended to give people a laugh.

    • Paul Shanahan

      Steve, first, thanks for the new vocabulary. I always wondered what ‘asinine’ meant and had never thought of consulting Merriam-Webster.

      Maybe you should lighten up a little. Such ‘asinine’ pranks are common the world over and really offer no insight into ‘Chinese public life’ other than… they also like to have a laugh (at others’ expense).

      NB I’ve been married for (too) many years before someone bothers with the ‘you must be single to find it funny’ ‘insight’.

  • jeff vanvonderen

    you just repeated the same shit the chinese netizens did, a+ to you bozo

  • Mainlander

    Very mature.

  • mike921

    So typically Chinese, me first and always, the hell with everyone else….

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