Beijing Schoolboy: Family Has 14 Houses, So Why Go to School?

A "bear child", a Chinese nickname for naughty to unruly children.

From NetEase:

Family of Beijing “House Baby/Child” Has 14 Houses, Claims He Has Enough Money to Eat for Three Lifetimes, So Why Go To School?

Summary: Recently, dozens of parents in Beijing visited the city’s Middle and Primary School Counseling Center seeking the help of experts, discussing what they should do about their “naughty [unruly] children“. The mother of middle school schoolboy Young Hu came seeking help because a teacher has asked her to come to school to supervise her son at school in his studies, because Young Hu is always making a fuss at school about dropping out. He said his family has 12 houses and that he could eat for three lifetimes on the rent alone, so why does he still have to go to school?

Two months into the school year, many parents are already feeling helpless in the face of their “naughty children”. Recently, dozens of parents have “organized a group” and visited the Beijing Middle and Primary School Counseling Center seeking help from experts, together discussing what they should do about their “naughty children”.

Family has 14 houses

So why continue to go to school?

Middle school student Young Hu’s mother came looking for help because she has been asked to accompany her son to school to supervise him. “The teacher says she seriously can no longer manage Young Hu, that he’s always making a fuss about dropping out.”

Young Hu’s family has 14 houses [or apartments, residential properties], and with that many houses in Beijing, it is enough to allow a family to no longer have to worry about having enough food or clothes. Young Hu’s family normally stays in the city, but during the weekends, they go to the suburbs to their large, over 260 square meter house. The other 12 houses have all been rented out. Ever since he was small, Young Hu has had a privileged life, so he doesn’t understand why he has to go to school. “I know exactly How much rent my family collects, and that money is enough for me to eat for three lifetimes, so why do I have to go to school? I just need to know how to collect rent,” said Young Hu as he shared his thoughts with the counselor.

Expert’s advice: Too much contrast between the cozy life at home and the intensity of life at school has caused Young Hu to want to avoid going to school. The counselor recommended that Young Hu must be made to understand that no matter how much income his family has, it belongs to his parents. If he wants to live off his elders, his parents have to agree to it. However, his parents need to be responsible to society, and must first raise their child into someone who will be useful to society. Therefore, if he doesn’t get an education at school, then “you won’t get any” of the family’s assets.

Complains that father is too strict

Son urges mother to get a divorce

Second-year high school student Young Meng recently has been trying to convince his mother, urging her to get a divorce from his father. Having always been mild-mannered, the mother suddenly did not know how to communicate with her child, and thus resorted to seeking help from an expert.

The expert came to understand that Young Meng’s father is the authority in the family, is very stern with his wife, and is very strict with his child. In contrast, Young Meng’s mom is very coddling towards her child, her temperament comparatively weak/soft. Seeing Young Meng is almost in his last year of high school, his dad has been more active in his life, hoping that he’ll be able to test into a good university. However, Young Meng feels his father is “hegemonic” and so has multiple times told his mother: kick dad out, let’s live together just the two of us as mother and son.

Expert’s advice: Many families have parents where one plays the bad guy and the other plays the good guy. However, regardless of whether one is being soft or tough with a child, the parents must be careful to have the same goal. The child must be made to know that dad and mom stand together. Using a “policy of appeasement” with a child must have a bottom line/limit. There must not be blind accommodation.


Stole 600 yuan from family

Treated “elder” to meal

Young Gang, who has just entered junior high, stole over 600 yuan from his parents a few days ago, and treated five “brothers” to a meal together. After being discovered, Young Gang explained that there was an “elder” among those he treated, who can “protect” him in the future. However, Young Gang at the same time expressed his dissatisfaction with his “brothers”, “they were too inconsiderate of me, ordering such expensive dishes!”

Expert advice: Children entering middle school are eager to get the approval of their peers, and this approval can even be more important than the approval of one’s parents, and this is the reason why children make friends with various “brothers”, “sisters”, or even find a little “boyfriend/girlfriend”.

Usually children who exhibit this kind of problem have very strict parents at home, do not feel they are the master at home, while at school, they are also not outstanding enough, without any particular notable traits. With this kind of child, parents should be mindful to protect the child’s self-respect/esteem, be friends with the child as much as possible, and communicate on equal terms.

Comments from NetEase:

上帝是救主道路真理和生命 [网易浙江省杭州市网友]:

I propose they attend school until graduating from junior high. Basic knowledge is still necessary!

yfxll [榜上有名]:

He also has a point. Isn’t going to school just for making money anyway? Then you dedicate over half your life to real estate developers? He’s already at the destination.


What would be the point of an entire life like this [without learning, having basic needs already met]?

县委书记11 [网易湖北省武汉市手机网友]: (responding to above)

You saying this makes me feel better. A lifetime of me getting up early and going to sleep late without a house sure is interesting [sure has a point].

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未出家的和尚 [网易广东省广州市网友]:

Just what kind of parents could raise such a ball-aching son?

54448167 [网易山东省济南市网友]:

Jealous, envious, and hateful!

179574626 [网易湖北省手机网友]:

Investigate where the real estate properties come from and confiscate them to reform the child’s mentality.

遮天之云 [网易北京市手机网友]:

Hurry, sell the houses, and emigrate abroad. That is the solution.

3634e419556d0a94773fc1bb [网易湖北省手机网友]:

Completely unable to refute [the child’s logic].

网易浙江省杭州市手机网友 ip:124.160.*.*

A pennyless gaokao top scorer and a filthy rich coal boss with an elementary school education. Which one do you think women will choose?

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  • Honibaz

    Wait till this guy learns about housing bubbles.

    • lacompacida

      Housing bubbles only hurts people hanging on their houses. Liquidate and live on the proceeds.

    • Insomnicide

      Honibaz I think I might have stumbled upon your Facebook and Youtube account by accident. Please confirm.

      • Honibaz

        I don’t know, try messaging me.

    • Kai

      I think housing bubbles affect people depending on capital appreciation much more than people depending on rental income. If most of his homes are all in Beijing proper, they may arguably be in locations that will have fairly stable demand and thus rental income.

  • Surfeit

    Darwin is rolling in his coffin.

    • mr.wiener

      Not really, he wasn’t a historian or a sociologist (but like most of the Victorian gentry was well read) He would no doubt be nodding sagely and commenting about why there seems to be a change of dynasty in China every 3rd or 4th generation.

      • Surfeit

        Snow effects.

    • lacompacida

      Why ? He predicted inferior species will die out, and this story is a great example of that.

      • Alex Dương

        Define species.

        • WFH

          he is hopeful that one spoiled rich kid is representative of the entire Chinese race..or in his words…species…don’t burst his bubble!

      • Surfeit

        It is? I see it as idiots with wealth. In China, wealth goes further than brains.

      • Insomnicide

        Yes the inferior species of the untermensch slanted eyed yellow people are dying out…hurray?

  • mr.wiener

    I’m trying to imaging how my father would have reacted if I had pulled any of this shit…
    It would not have ended well.

    • lacompacida

      Is your father going to leave you enough money to last you three life times ? If not, you are not talking about the same situation.

      • vonskippy

        How would the little prince moron know “it would last three life times” – he has no math skills, no business skills, no economic skills. Time to hand the little moron a shovel and let him dig his own “house” in the back yard to live in (and charge him rent for the dirt space).

        Is this the odd case out, or are all Chinese parents this inept?

      • mr.wiener

        Rich or poor, good parenting is a parent’s responsibility.

      • donscarletti

        The big difference is, western parents with large assets tend to have higher expectations of hard work and obedience than others, since they have the threat of disinheritance to hold over them. Mr Weiner and my country’s two most prominent media billionaires, Rupert Murdoch and Kerry Packer have been quite demanding fathers. Packer even sent his heir to work as a jackaroo (farmhand) for two years if I remember correctly to teach him to work hard.

        Rich Chinese parents just seem to give less of a shit than poor ones.

        • Probotector

          It’s got nothing to do with wealth, most parents in China don’t give a shit.

          • Surfeit

            I gotta vouch for that notion. The things I’ve seen kids getting away with at all levels, completely astonishes me.

        • Kai

          “Seem” in the subjective sense would be the operative word here. The kids who are good stewards of the wealth they’ve inherited don’t tend to make good news fodder and are thus less memorable compared to the nouveau riche, spoiled types who are disconnected with reality. There are more than enough self-entitled, spoiled Western kids out there.

        • x1sfg

          If you were the patriach Rockefeller, sure. But Paris Hilton, Kardashian, half of Western LA, and the Upper East Side of Manthattan would disagree with you there. Shitty parenting isn’t bound by culture or income.

  • Amused

    Hahahaha, bring these kids their eunuchs and concubines, the Forbidden City is BACK baby! And the mentality never really left.
    Poor old Mao was really kicking water up a hill here

  • Don’t Believe the Hype

    The level of disgust toward the 1% is palpable among the netizens. Another example of how US/China are (basically) becoming the same.

    • Alex Dương


      • Don’t Believe the Hype


      • lonetrey / Dan

        I feel like there’s something slightly off with that Chinese phrasing.

        “We are 99%!”, but I’m not entirely sure how to express “the 99%” in Chinese. I r teh fail :/

        • Alex Dương

          Doesn’t Chinese have no definite article?

          • lonetrey / Dan

            You’re probably right. I don’t know Chinese other than as a language that comes and flows out of me naturally. It took me years to realize there was no past tense in Chinese…. realized that a couple years ago actually.

            But other than that, I can use Chinese somewhat fluently for daily life stuff. I just never really received a formal education on it since I had the English curriculum as my priority instead, so it’s all what I’ve heard and used personally since I was a kid.

          • Alex Dương

            I also consider my Chinese at a “heritage” level (i.e. learned natively but never formally instructed). In my experience, many Chinese people have a very hard time knowing when and when not to use “the.” That’s why I think there’s no definite article in Chinese.

    • Amused

      That’s not just US/China, that’s a human thing. We naturally resent those who have what we want. And we resent them ever the more when we hear they’re doing even better than before.

      • Don’t Believe the Hype

        Yeah. I think its good to draw comparisons tho, as most of what i read and see in both countries tends to emphasize the differences.

  • JayJay

    It takes a degree of knowledge and experience to manage a portfolio of properties. He will need to learn about tax, buying and selling, and effects of housing bubbles. Not to mention there is no actual ownership of property in China. The public gets the ‘usage rights’ which will revert back to the Sate after 70 years.

    • lacompacida

      If he doesn’t plan on paying taxes, and just sell everything and spend one percent of the proceed every year, he doesn’t need any knowledge he can’t buy.

    • Ryo Saeba

      To be fair, if you fail to pay property taxes on that house you “own” in the states, it still can be taken away just as easily. I understand there differences to having “usage rights” but if you’re 20 now, there is a very slim chance you will hit that 70 year. For one, you will mostly likely sell that place and get a new one in less then 10 years. If you do that, the 70 year starts all over again. The good side is there is only a one time property tax in China for purchases. Once that is paid, you don’t need to pay taxes until you buy a new property. You do have some small stuff like maintenance fees (if you bought a ‘house’ in a building), but that’s dollars compare to housing association fees in the states.

  • FYIADragoon

    Easy solution for any child that will not listen to reason:
    1. Remove belt.
    2. Remove child’s pants (optional if material is thin)
    3. Bend child over leg
    4. Apply belt roughly to the buttocks.
    5. Repeat.

    The pathetic parenting abilities of Chinese parents are the only reason I don’t feel so horribly disappointed in American ones anymore.

    • Amused

      Dunno, you can still legally do that here. Back in the US you might be up on charges.

      • FYIADragoon

        They don’t make much use of it though. You’re right that the US doesn’t have its shit together either though.

        • Amused

          They make zero use of it here. At least in the cities; I haven’t lived in the country.

          • x1sfg

            It’s alive and well in the country. Only parts where I haven’t seen it are the the coastal cities on the West Coast, and the ritzy parts of New England.

    • lacompacida

      By the time you have to use a belt, you lost.

    • Guest

      belt? jesus… those can led serious wounds. if you are at the stage that you have to belt your kid then you’ve already lost.

      • tsinoy

        Spare the rod. Spoil the child.

    • lonetrey / Dan

      I have a feeling i would’ve become a thug or street gang member if that had been my parent’s method of choice…

      Parents teaching kids it’s ok to hit them only lets them learn that it’s ok to hit others.

      I am guilty of this when I was a child.

      • x1sfg

        My generation used corporal punishment, we turned out fine. Society has become soft and too PC. A buddy of mine’s nephew in Oregon got suspended for playing “army” by going “pew pew pew” and “bang bang bang” with their fingers.

        A beating or child abuse? No, douse those guys in gasoline. But when corporal punishment is used sparingly, it’ll be fine. It worked for my kids.

        Didn’t see tsinoy’s post, he’s on the right track. To be honest, I only remember using it about a dozen times or so.

    • Everyone disagrees with you because they wear track pants.

      All day long. Everywhere. Even to the mall.

    • tsinoy

      Don’t leave out these steps:
      Step 6: Hug the child very tight afterwards
      Step 7: Tell him/her the purpose of the disciplinary action
      Step 8: Assure the child of your love

      Both my son and daughter got the belt on extreme offenses (Stealing, Lying). And they’ve become very adorable children.

      Our children doesn’t stay with us 24-7. They go to school and they pick up bad habits. It is up to us to beat it out of their system and sometimes, the belt is one final option.

      Spare the rod, spoil the child.

  • Ken Morgan

    TBH that is the attitude of most rent seekers around the world.

    Look at Li Kar Shing, none of his companies add value. All he does is rent seeking which is extremely harmful for the wider economy.

  • Kai

    Excepting the third kid, when your kid starts saying shit like this, that’s when you know you’ve failed as a parent. The self-entitlement of the first and the complete lack of emotional attachment to the father in the second, man…someone really screwed up with those two.

    • lonetrey / Dan

      While the the kids probably are a bit screwed up, I feel sorry for them and lay the blame on the parents though.

      I have a feeling most people wouldn’t agree with me on this point.

      • christina

        I definitely agree- children need to be taught values, and that starts at home. The little kid with the mighty-me attitude probably learned it from his dad boasting about his wealth and making blase declarations. Kids are really smart/perceptive and pick up on so much, including attitude, so that kid’s perspective didn’t just come out of nowhere.

    • Teacher in China

      Yeah, especially the second one. The fact that he can be so cold-hearted about his own father just so that he can have less pressure at school is really amazing; that dad really didn’t do a good job connecting with his son.

  • Children learn many things at a very early age, but this kid is quite clever and smart enough to run the numbers and come to the conclusion he’s set for life.
    Watch out Mom & Dad – sounds like if you push this little emperor too far, he’ll decide he no longer needs you.

  • lacompacida

    I don’t see any problem for this kid not to go to school. He’s got enough money to last him three lifetimes, and that should be enough. What can he learn from a Chinese school that will make that better ? Better morals ? Better behaviour ? Better understanding of the world ? To become a better human being ? But all these will help the world, but not the boy.

  • Sophia Dalke

    富 不过三代
    Fu bu guo san dai

    “Wealth does not pass three generations”

  • Irvin

    If there were even a HINT of the sentiments of the kids in the article while growing up, my parents would’ve sold all their business and houses while having me fend for myself.

    Parents these days doesn’t have enough convictions.

    • Cameron

      Nah, rich families, be they Western or Chinese have always looked out for their kids. Let them in the family business. Get them in the right schools, connect with the right people. Nepotism basically. The idea of children being encouraged to stand independently on their own merits and using their own skills has only ever been an ideal of the less financially secure.

      It might sound noble, but it’s a philosophy born out of necessity rather than idealism.

  • A Gawd Dang Mongolian

    You have to get them started on discipline early. Such as the Rockefellers once did. They want to inherit their parent’s fortune, they gotta earn it. If they drop out of school, it’s all going to the family dog.

  • Lei Feng’s Hat

    Forget property management, this future porker has to get busy shoveling “3 lifetimes worth of food” down his gullet in only one lifetime.

    Oink, oink…

  • Pharenheit

    If I was filthy rich the last thing i’d do is talk about how much money I make or how much accumulated wealth there is in front of my kids if i didn’t want them mentally laying claim and feeling entitled to it. I’d want them to grow up with a sense of purpose and work ethic that would be hard to achieve if they knew they didn’t have to work or try hard.

    • christina

      exactly what my parents did.
      my mom went to far as to tell me we were poor (I was gullible and still struggle with not believing everything she tells me because she’s my mother and is otherwise an amazing woman) and I believed her, despite all the evidence to the contrary- villas in Shanghai, international vacations three times a year, maid, cars, etc. When I told her I was worried about my college tuition payments, she told me to work hard to make it worth it. My dad finally took pity and told me with a laugh not to believe everything my mom tells me, but by that point, my work ethic and desire to make something of myself had already solidified.
      On the flip side, though, I’m pretty sure having information about our financials when I was young would’ve only made me want to do everything I could to surpass or at least achieve what my parents had. I kind of resent my mom for letting me worry about the college tuition when it was totally unnecessary.

      • Pharenheit

        I totally see your point and your mom does sound like she really ran with this philosophy a little too far. But you can’t argue with the result :)

      • lonetrey / Dan

        I feel like this is the best approach to take if your family is really financially secured. Kudos to your mom

      • Surfeit

        You should give her a cookie, because you learnt how to value things beyond their monetary cost. Which is exactly the problem in this article. As for a the resentment, a small price to pay on her part.

      • Xia

        Is it possible to be so gullible while actual evidences speak against it? What arguments did she deploy to *convince* you?

        • christina

          My mom is like superwoman to me and if you think about it, as a child, who would ever think their parents would lie to them about something like this? My mom was also really smart about the way she wove the story- she said we had just enough for all the other stuff, but that my college costs ($65,000 USD per year all in) made us poor. I believed it- I knew 65k was a lot of money objectively speaking. Also, if I ever asked for anything slightly nicer, she’d say we didn’t have enough money, and again, I didn’t question it because 1) I didn’t want to hurt my parents’ feelings 2) she’s my mom!

          • Surfeit

            WTF?! $65,000!! A year!! What did you study? ‘How to burn money’?

          • Alex Dương

            Sadly, that’s how expensive private universities are in the U.S. these days.

          • Surfeit

            No shit? Daaaaamn. They should be locked up for that.

          • Alex Dương

            Again, sadly, no shit. The growth rate of the cost of tuition in the U.S. has vastly, VASTLY outpaced that of inflation. Last year, tuition alone at these schools was over $45,000. I was in high school “just” seven years ago, and back then tuition was $30,000.

          • Surfeit

            7 years; The blink of an eye. Obladi oblada!

          • christina

            LOL I’ve had a degree in that since I was 5 :P
            Tuition was 40k, then I had room and board, books (some books were $800), extracurriculars, flights home to Shanghai twice a year, allowance, spring break trips, etc. It all added up pretty quickly, and I didn’t even do any crazy spring breaks- just the standard beach destinations.

          • Xia

            She must be a very economical person!

      • I thought you grew up in CT?

        • christina

          Germany > Connecticut > Shanghai > back to USA. I went to an international high school in Shanghai for 3 years

          • How many languages are you fluent in?

          • christina

            Three- English, Mandarin, and French. I forgot my German after moving away, but I took French for 6 years and visited my uncle in Paris over the summers

          • Good for you –
            You have an advantage most “Americans” do not appreciate.

            I am functional with English and struggle with very basic Spanish and Mandarin – they evaporate when not used and come back only after re-immersion. It used to be a goal to learn one new language a year…

          • christina

            WOAH that is super ambitious.
            Even zuckerberg only managed decent mandarin after 4 years!

          • Many years ago, I came across polyglots like Benny (the Irish) Lewis…who I read/followed for a a couple years.

            If he is legit, he must have a photographic memory because as an adult, I can attain some basic language proficiency, but nowhere near fluency.
            This guy, Benny, learn several languages a year and went to Taiwan for a few months and then posts videos of himself having normal conversations in Mandarin. Good for him. I studied/practiced several hours every day for a year and still struggled with listening comprehension.

          • Bob Loblaw

            Très bien.

  • Zen my Ass

    Good question: why getting an education when you’re already rich enough to have people doing all the stuff for you? Why becoming intelligent and educated when you don’t need to make a living? You should ask this question to all the rich people of the world… But I have an idea: staying rich requires some sort of brain sometimes.

  • Rick in China

    This is absolutely jibberish:

    “Usually children who exhibit this kind of problem have very strict parents at home, do not feel they are the master at home, while at school, they are also not outstanding enough, without any particular notable traits. With this kind of child, parents should be mindful to protect the child’s self-respect/esteem, be friends with the child as much as possible, and communicate on equal terms.”

  • Rose

    Education isn’t just about getting a job, but being a good member of society and learning basic subjects like math, history, science, reading, and writing. What kind of a man will he be if he just takes in money all the time(assuming he takes in the family’s business and it is successful)? A very dumb partier who’ll probably die young because of all of his bad habits and ignorance. I mean, at least he should go through middle school and then apprentice.

    • Probotector

      Typically in China education is seen as a path (and an undesirable one at that) to making money in the future. Money is what makes the world go round here and if you have it, many believe you don’t need anything else.

  • Probotector

    Isn’t this the mentality of all princelings?

  • SongYii

    Unbelievable how incompetent so many parents are. Please, please let that kid stop going to school so he can drive a sports car of whatever type over a bridge in a road race before he hits 21.

    I teach kids 6-8 years old 4 times a week. Many of them are so awful, and their parents are so awful, that I have adjusted my baseline for how children should behave. I don’t know what the hell it is, but somewhere these kids learn to needlessly scream… not just shout or yell, but fucking goddamn scream in unison at the slightest provocation, such as flashing the lights on and off (which, when I was a kid, meant “everyone shut up”.)

    “Can you ask the parents to explain to the children that it is not okay to scream in class at any time? I can understand children get excited and be noisy, but we need to make sure they know that wildly screaming is not okay.” Boss talks to parents, returns to me “Oh, the parents say the kids cannot understand you, and that sometimes they just get excited because they are energetic.”

    But even with this new normal, I still have a few outliers here and there, really awful kids, and their parents are the biggest excuse makers. I guess it just comes with the territory. Bad parents aren’t a new thing in the world…. been around since the beginning.

    • Teacher in China

      I’m with you on the screaming, dude. It drives me nuts. I’ve had the same conversations with Chinese co-teacher probably 100 times, and I think it’s finally sinking in for them that I am right and that we need to teach them about “inside voices”.

      • SongYii

        My sister in law teaches 1st-5th grades in the US… asked her how she gets them to stop screaming. She said its never been a problem.

        Inside voices = index and middle finger up, right?

        I can tolerate some of the shouting. But full on screaming and overexcitement is uncomfortable for me and not conducive to learning. It’s just hysteria. I use both those angles when explaining it to the director, who talks to the parents. Some gradual improvement recently.

  • Fdom

    There’s no problem here. He’ll fit right in with the rest of the ignorant middle class travelling the world and thinking they are kings because they have Y1000.

  • Xia

    It’s not ‘elder’, but ‘big brother’.
    That boy has understood Chinese society from the get go.

  • Xia

    Inflation hurts paper money,while real estate is actually considered a hedge against inflation.

    What he should fear is a Depression style financial crisis. But then we are all in deep shit.

  • commander

    The best solution is that parents take the naughty child off the family registry, saying, “You put your act together, behave well study hard and get into university, then you will be accepted into the family.”

    The important point is to write a will stating all family wealth being bequeathed to charities after parents’ death, with no single yuan going to bad-mannered boys.

  • MonkeyMouth

    Second-year high school student Young Meng recently has been
    trying to convince her mother, urging her to get a divorce from her

    Young Meng feels his father is “hegemonic” and so has multiple
    times told his mother: kick dad out, let’s live together just the two of
    us as mother and son.

    Dont you see? the damn kid had a sex change to please his mom. DONT ALL CHINESE WANT SONS? this little bastard did it right, huh??

    • Sorry, that is my mistake. I have fixed it now. Maybe I read 她 and originally thought it was a daughter but it was referring to the mother.

  • Dr Sun

    It worked for China when Zhu Yuan Zhang was Emperor. Of course that was a different and better time, now it would mean that the entire CPC from the President down to the little village boss convicting themselves and their entire family and friends.
    They of course wont do that, they prefer instead to send their slave fungfu police to kill farmers and steal their land, for their latest construction project.

    Its all fucked up, TIC

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