Gay Marriage Proposal in Shanghai, Chinese Netizen Reactions

A homosexual marriage proposal in Shanghai, China involving a white BMW filled with white roses.

From Sina Weibo:

@江上渡: This just happened! Near Taicang Road in Shanghai, a male-male [homosexual/gay] marriage proposal! Forgive the bad photo quality, when I was taking photos on the side, my leg kept shaking from the excitement…

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Comments from Sina Weibo:

赵梦婷Diana:

If we calculate the time, they should already be in bed by now. [doge][阴险]

屿於你:

Looking at the thumbnails, was I the only one who thought the car was filled with garlic bulbs?

熊仔奶糖:

Could you blur out their faces…?

别特么问我:

Upon seeing the third photo, I put down the torch I had just raised.

火柴babe:

If it’s guy-guy, then I can breathe a sigh of relief. [doge]

刘潇洒Jelly-Bean:

Women, when it comes to fresh flowers, a ring, a fragrant car [filled with flowers], and a handsome man… it isn’t just female goddesses [beautiful women] who are competing with you. Can we be a little more considerate, please?

裂熊的阿敏药不能停:

What’s disgusting isn’t homosexuality but your intolerant heart. [doge] In other words, it isn’t even up to you to tolerate or approve of them, because you are fucking nothing. Hehe. [doge][doge][doge][doge] They were born as a couple [for each other], so it isn’t up to your ugly cunt to be against them.

央小月:

By now, they should already be banging. [哈哈]

北京神棍:

Yet another two less people to compete with me for girls.

是锅包肉啊:

Congratulations! Homosexuality I can understand, but I personally cannot accept it [for myself], because I am heterosexual.

晴天霹雳娇娃娃鱼子酱:

The one kneeling down looks like Ma Yun [Jack Ma].

澜沧:

My boyfriend got married, but the groom wasn’t me. [doge]

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  • Amused

    Hey, good for them. Now they just have to serve this up to their parents…

    • Vance

      That is something. How does this whole family approval thing work with gays? Do parents over there accept homosexuality?

  • Luke the Duke

    One look and you can see why they weren’t able to find girlfriends.

    • Irvin

      Gays aren’t gays because they can’t find gfs.

    • Dolph Grunt

      I don’t know. I’m not really an expert at judging guys. Could you elaborate?

    • FYIADragoon

      Well he’s passable on looks and driving a white BMW, so you’re going to have to fill me on this one. Because the BMW would be all it takes to get most Chinese women.

  • diverdude7

    What do you call a gay bar without bar stools?
    A Fruit Stand !

    congrats from me to u guys… happy trails :)

    • biggj

      ..

    • Mighty曹

      How do 4 gays share one bar stool?
      .
      .
      .
      Flip it upside down.

      • Sophia Dalke

        I remember my cousin telling me that joke… twenty years ago. Not even kidding.

        • mr.wiener

          I’m sure people have been telling jokes like that since Adam and Steve…but seriously I live for the day people don’t give a rats arse if you are gay or not.

          • Irvin

            people will always give a fuck regarding fucking. The day we don’t is the day the human race ends.

        • Mighty曹

          So you heard it at the age of 30. Big deal. :p
          Just kidding. You DO know (from my previous reply to you regarding gays) that I’m not homophobic, right? As a matter of fact I heard this joke from a a gay friend.

          • Sophia Dalke

            I was just making an observation. If I were calling you out it would be much more unambiguous and acerbic.

  • Zack Snyder

    Hmm… Seems like Chinese nationals are not as opposed to homosexuals as those in the middle east..

    • Xue
    • Irvin

      Apathy is strong with us, including the matter of homosexuality. They could marry and fuck a goat for all I care, both would solve the over population problem.

      • Amused

        Yeah, goatfuckers are pretty well accepted all over the known universe. Want proof? Ask anyone you know and chances are pretty damn good they’ve probably had one as a boss at sometime or another.
        Sheepshaggers and Monkeymolesters tho… Now those dudes get descriminated against like you wouldn’t believe.

        • MonkeyMouth

          Hey! leave monkeys outta this!!

          • Dolph Grunt

            … or leave this outta the monkeys!!!

          • Irvin

            You naughty naughty boy!

    • fury

      we chinese people dont hate homo, we hate HIV, so the hatery of gay people is just collbroal damage of AIDS

      • biggj

        Who china or the middle east?

        EDIT:
        Ok chinese I see.

      • Probotector

        gays don’t equal HIV man, unprotected sex, needle use and poor hygiene do.

        • fury

          lot of chinese gay man donate their blood just for examination of HIV. Some of blood was contaminate in “window time” (unable detection). A 5 years girl was infected HIV by these “gay blood”.
          http://news.sina.com.cn/c/2015-01-20/051931419293.shtml

          I think chinese people only concern the thins which will somehow related to themselves. Gay?NO. HIV?YES.

          So we chinese people have some kind of homophobia, but not quite similar as west.

          • Probotector

            And how do you know ‘lot of chinese gay man donate their blood just for examination of HIV. Some of blood was contaminate in “window time” (unable detection)…’ How could thy know they are infected? Having gay sex doesn’t mean you’ll get HIV, you can get if from women too, you know. Reads more like propaganda to me.

            ‘So we chinese people have some kind of homophobia, but not quite similar as west.’ No, say it again, with pride this time. You guys want to wallow in ignorance.

          • Ale Jandro

            are you trying to reason with someone that post a link of Sina? you kidding me?

          • Kai

            What’s wrong with Sina? It’s just another mainstream Chinese portal site that syndicates news and content from other publishers.

          • Ale Jandro

            The source of all the news that are spread in China is…??? so Sina is another joke

          • Kai

            So you think it is intelligent to categorically dismiss information without actually evaluating it simply on the basis of your ideological bias against a presumed source?

          • Kai

            I think you might’ve misunderstood what @disqus_NQfEFUK7kn:disqus was trying to contribute to the conversation.

            He didn’t say the Chinese gay men knew they were infected when they donated their blood. He simply said a lot of them will donate blood with the purpose of relying on the normal tests run on that blood to determine if they have HIV. It’s a roundabout way of getting tested for HIV without actually going into a hospital and asking specifically to be tested for HIV, which you can imagine comes with stigma.

            He linked to Sina on a recent story because he believes HIV in donated blood can or have made it through the tests and into the blood bank system. That’s what he means about “window time” where the HIV may escape detection. I’m not familiar enough with blood testing protocols to know how true this is but that is what he’s saying.

            He’s not saying gay sex means you’ll get HIV nor does he say anything to suggest he doesn’t know you can get HIV from women too.

            The second half of his comment is him saying he believes Chinese people in general are phobic about HIV but not so much homosexuality itself. To them, homosexuality doesn’t really affect them personally, because no one is forcing them to be homosexual. However, they’re afraid of HIV contamination and infection which doesn’t require homosexual activity to be a threat in our world of blood transfusions and blood banks.

            He quite humbly admits that Chinese people have some kind of homophobia but he feels there is a notable difference in reasoning with the homophobia found in the West. The usual argument is that Westerners have some sort of religious basis against homosexuality, whereas the Chinese do not. Homosexuals are “evil” to many Westerners while to many Chinese, it is simply “different”. Chinese, generalized, therefore don’t hate homosexuality but do fear homosexuality as a vector for STDs.

          • Ale Jandro

            antigay government news?

      • ClausRasmussen

        I’ve noticed that too: As long as it is just about being gay the general sentiment is quite tolerant but as soon as AIDS enters the picture changes completely

        Chinese people seems to be AIDSophobic but not homophobic

        • Irvin

          Rightly so, who wants to die a slow agonizing death?

          • ClausRasmussen

            I meant their view on homosexuals depend on whether the story involves AIDS or not

            Usually they’re tolerant as here but we had a story not long ago about a gay with AIDS where the comments were quite hostile. It surprised me but other commenters on ChinaSMACK explained the difference by AIDS (and by the different Chinese forum – NetEase/SinaWeibo)

          • Irvin

            It’s human nature, homosexuality is still quite a new thing in china, and with anything new and rare, they are judge by the few examples available to us.

            The same applies to race, if you’re in a foreign country and there’re hardly any of your people around, everything you do will reflect back to your entire race, you’ll practically representing your whole race, an ambassador if you will. It’s not right, but it’s just how it is.

          • fury

            it is not new stuff..it has thousands years tradition. it is called “断袖之癖 龙阳之好”.
            http://baike.baidu.com/view/50100.htm
            http://baike.baidu.com/view/101713.htm

        • fury

          u know chinese people exactly

        • Mighty曹

          That’s funny. “AIDSophobic vs homophobic”. Fear of a disease and a lifestyle. Chinese are afraid of what can kill. Ironically, in certain culture gay is considered a disease.

      • Irvin

        Anyone can get HIV both gays and heterosexuals. fucking assholes isn’t the cause for aids, fucking assholes that already have aids is what give you aids.

        But even aids free assholes can give you shit pox, best stick to pussies if you weren’t born with anus craving.

    • Alex Lang

      Well China is a lot more liberal than the Middle East, but still not as liberal as the West. If there was a scale, the Middle East would be on one end, the West would be on the other, and China would be in the middle. So now that you know, it’s not really surprising that they’re dissimilar with the Middle East on several issues.

    • sk8erry

      Obviously this is from Sina weibo, where people are more open to homosexuals. If the same thing is posted on Netease, there will be a lot of aggressive/passive comments.

    • DatLaowai

      You strongly misunderstand their point of view, considering the gender gap they are happy to see more man-man relations, that means less competition for those who are interested in women. Now they might not be so happy to see woman-woman relations, because women are already a rarity in today’s China, there are between 30 ans 40 millions more men out here. Chinese tend to take everything personally, a foreigner dating a Chinese lady “he is stealing Chinese girls from Chinese men!” as if it was their concern, people are free to date whoever they want.

  • Matt

    If there’s one thing China needs, it’s homosexuals.

    • Irvin

      Gays only, please, we have little enough women already.

    • shit religion

      Before you know it, only gay foreigners are allowed in to China.

    • Vance

      I’m going to steal one of the women. But I don’t think they will mind because she is 28, intelligent, successful, and wealthy. Basically cream of the crop. They don’t seem to like these women.

      • DC

        they’re probably saying go for it….the ugly ones need love too

        • Vance

          She is actually very good looking on top of all the other qualities. Although I know that Chinese men have different standards of beauty than us Western guys do. I do not know if she would pass their test or not. But I think she is very hot so I guess it’s a win-win.

    • FinancialWar

      man you fucking suck at maths for an Asian.

      1.06:1 means there are 1.06/(2.06) = 51.45631% are men.

      Which means there are 1-51.45631% = 48.54369% are women (how and why the fuck did you finish 50% for??, bloody retard)

      THerefore, there are extra 51.45631% – 48.54369% = 2.91262% of the population are extra amount of men over women.

      2.91262% of the Chinese population are 39,838,816.

      Fucking go back to primary and restudy your maths. Fucking shamefully stupid.

      • Alex Dương

        No need to be so hostile.

        • FinancialWar

          Sorry, edited.

      • Dolph Grunt

        “man you suck at maths for an Asian”

        Please. Gay stereotypes only.

      • Mihel

        “man you suck at maths for an Asian”

        Surely not a full-blooded asian!

      • Irvin

        “man you suck at maths for an Asian.” I probably shouldn’t but that cracks me up lol

  • Irvin

    I always wonder when a man and a woman kissed, does it looks as repulsive to gays as gays kissing is to heterosexuals?

    • Andrew

      All depends on how tolerable the woman is…

    • FYIADragoon

      It’s not really that repulsive to look at though. I just think its a bit odd to see. A different sensation from repulsion. I think repulsion would only occur if it was ugly people kissing, the same as it would be for a heterosexual kiss.

      • Irvin

        First time my ex put on brokeback mountain, having no prior knowledge about the movie, I literally cannot get past the scene where they kiss. Was the first time I saw two men kissing and I just cringe and turn off the tv. To this day I never finish that movie.

        Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate gays, who they fuck is none of my business. But watching 2 men kiss just makes me very uncomfortable and I just always wondered if they feel the same about a man and a woman.

  • mr.wiener

    jeez… whats wrong with seeing two people in love?

  • Guest
  • biggj

    http://i.imgur.com/Ss4h9FT.jpg

    Shit the .gif is not working…it should say ” HAH! GGAAAYYYY! haha

  • AbC

    Damn… The preparation this gay dude went to for the proposal would put most heterosexual guys to shame.
    Best of luck to the couple in a country where homosexuality is still frowned upon by the majority.

    • biggj

      I thought china was pretty cool about it. I seen gays walking around and no one really batting an eye. A black guy walking down the street gets more attention than gays in public in china.

      • AbC

        I think that’s more likely due to people avoiding eye contact with gay guys than a form of acceptance. I still meet people (pre-1980’s generation mostly) who try to avoid gays like the plague. I haven’t met any parents in China who wouldn’t mind their kid being homosexual. Maybe times have changed…

        • shit religion

          Most parents don’t want their children to be gay where ever you’re from.
          If you read the netizen comments, you might notice something.

          • Dolph Grunt

            Most parents want their children to be gay in which country?

        • biggj

          Sure queers get treated differently in different country and may be accepted and tolerated in some. But it is completly foreign to a hederosexual person. It’s still strange to me. I dont care what they do and dont hate them….but it will never be something a country or people will be 100% for. And I’m sure if your and anyones kid turns out to be gay….some might accept it…but im sure they would prefer a straight kid over a gay one….if they were completely honest with themselves.

          • j2h

            “im sure they would prefer a straight kid over a gay one….if they were completely honest with themselves.”

            no not at all. why do bigots always assume everyone else secretly agrees with them?

          • biggj

            Im not saying they would not love them and accept it. But if a straight couple could choose between a straight and a gay child…if it was their choice…who would pick gay? I’m sure if there was a poll it would in the high 90% would pick straight…if not 100%.That’s just how it is.

    • Luke the Duke

      Putting some flowers in a car and then proposing? Preparation indeed.

  • BrandeX

    They can’t get married anyway, unless they emigrate to a country which allows it.

    • biggj

      You dont have to immigrate to get married, There are a lot of gay tourist marriage places..well not a lot but some. But yeah the marriage would not be recognized in china.

      • Jahar

        So will their parents make them marry women? That’s the impression I got of the way it works in Korea, so I’m thinking it might be the same here.

  • YourSupremeCommander

    We need more gays to help ease the population problem and help us normal dudes get more chicks.

    • Amused

      Seriously? I never noticed a shortage man.

      • biggj

        Fuck man you beat me to it, I was going to say the same thing.

        • Amused

          Well, they ARE pretty thick on the ground all over the world. And I’m sure they feel the same about us too.

    • Dolph Grunt

      Normal dudes?

      • ClausRasmussen

        Actually, if you look up the definition of “normal” you’ll know that heterosexual is in fact normal and homosexual is not.

        It’s only some brain dead political correctness that somehow equates “normal” with “good” and then twist our language to follow suit and making everyone more stupid in the process

        • Probotector

          Awesome, I see you’ve also escaped the EU mentality.

          • ClausRasmussen

            Thanks, unfortunately I haven’t escaped the EU domain so I have to put up with this stuff on a daily basis. It drives me nuts sometimes

        • Dolph Grunt

          So, being heterosexual makes one “normal”?

          Have you been to China? Normal is not the word I would use to describe that place. :)

          EDIT: Now, what we could use is a pic from biggj with a Chinese guy jaywalking in his pajamas with the caption, “Normal”

    • Mihel

      Is there a secret in internet rule I am not aware of that when talking about gays, one must say something about them reducing the competition for heterosexual males?

  • monster

    if a girl loves me so much as this, i’d marry her too.
    most people never really be loved much in their whole life.

    • biggj

      In their whore life?

      • monster

        i edited already!
        hahaha!

        • biggj

          I knew what you meant, it was just funny.lol

          • monster

            hahahaha!
            really funny!
            just after lottery game, why this site always can not open?

          • biggj

            When I was in china sometimes the site would not open either. I dont know why.

            And what is this lottery game?

          • monster

            we play fast lottery, 10 mins one round.
            haha, it’s so interesting.
            after my parents and family see i really can make money everyday,they support me to play,hahaha!

          • biggj

            Well if you can make money it’s ok I guess. Yeah i never usually gamble. I bet on boxing sometime. But that is it.

            Are you talking about the chinese welfare lottery?

          • monster

            no!
            only idiots buy welfare lottery that kinda state lottery.
            no patience for that kinda lottery.
            i bought a very good software for this game,so i can see the right time to buy.
            but i am very good at poker, most guys are not my rival.

          • monster

            but one thing i must say: i am very smart person, very high iq hahaha! just too lazy!

          • ClausRasmussen

            If you’re smart should stop playing, they’ll rip you off in the end

            To me it sounds like the scam where they let you win a lot of small bets, then invite you to a high stakes game where you find your luck suddenly runs out. To make things even worse, you’ll then be inclined to keep playing to recover your loss

          • monster

            ha, no!
            almost one month,i make money everyday.
            coz i control myself very well.
            i do not start big,so i can get it back after several rounds.
            at least i can make sure that once i play,1000 is a must.

          • vincent_t

            “if you have to say you are a lady, then you are not”
            Same applies to people who claim they are smart.

          • biggj

            I curious to see what it is. Is it online poker or something else? Like what is the website?

          • monster

            no,not poker.
            5 numbers every round,for example 25413.each digit from 0 to 9.normally i buy 2 numbers at one digit, sometimes even only 1.if i catch 3,then 100 can get 950.

          • biggj

            So where do you play this??online?

          • shit religion

            Dude just date her and bang her.

          • biggj

            No thanks lol I just never heard of this kind of gambling in china.

  • 宋易

    Hard to tell who is and is not gay in China anyway.

    • biggj

      lol, yeah thats true. When I first went to china It was funny to see 2 guys walking down the street with their arms on each other shoulder. I just assumed they where gay, but turns out its just normal thing to do…im sure some are guy.or the guys with rolled up shirts showing their belly…thats pretty gay.

      • Andrew

        “rolled up shirts showing their belly”

        That’s not gay. That’s disgusting.

        • Probotector

          Someone tried to tell me that it’s a sign of wealth or something, like the bigger the duzi, the more affluent he is or some shit. They should just take their shirts off completely. Now girl midriff, hell yes; they’ve got it all ass-backwards in china regarding gender and rolled up t shirts.

      • FYIADragoon

        Belly is just a sign of a “wealth.” Though I see it more as a sign of a ghetto dweller that got rich overnight, personally.

        • biggj

          I know what it means its just gay lol

        • Dolph Grunt

          I thought it was a Buddha thing.

      • 宋易

        The boys in my university classes could hardly act more gay… they sleep on each others shoulders, casually wrap their arms around each others necks, and in the same breath will rip on gays, say they’re gross. Have no idea what must be going on in their minds.

        • biggj

          ..

        • Probotector

          Yeah I told them to do that to the girls instead; they were horrified.

          • 宋易

            I told them in the US, guys go out of their way to *sit* next to girls, and told them they should too, and they were horrified.

  • MonkeyMouth

    they need to go to a doctor

  • Vance

    I am surprised there wasn’t much in the way of anti-gay comments. No one even seemed grossed out by the pic of two men kissing.

    • ClausRasmussen

      They’re pretty relaxed about it compared to Westerners as long as it is not their kid, and then mostly because they worry about not having grandchildren. But if the story had involved AIDS the reaction would have been very different

  • Chaz

    Think daddy will repo the bao ma when he finds out Junior is a butt pirate and won’t dutifully carry on the illustrious family lineage?

  • https://www.youtube.com/user/DavidisDawei/videos DavidisDawei

    CinderFella…
    I hope the BMW doesn’t turn into a pumpkin after Midnight.

    • ClausRasmussen

      The modern day equivalent of that would be it was a rental

      • https://www.youtube.com/user/DavidisDawei/videos DavidisDawei

        HaHa – Yes!

  • Mighty曹

    That’s sweet and all but why raise the damn bar for us men??

    • ClausRasmussen

      lol I was thinking the same

    • Sophia Dalke

      • Mighty曹

        Hilarious and true!
        “If I were a policeman I’d be afraid to be a CID”. LOLOL!!!

  • Dolph Grunt

    Wow! Nice proposal!

    Now where are they gonna get married?

  • FYIADragoon

    Meh, more power to them. Chinese men should rejoice every time a gay couple gets married. That just reduces their list of competitors in their age group, its already troublesome enough to compete with the grandpas creeping on younger girls.

  • YourSupremeCommander

    Normal:

    • YourSupremeCommander

      Abnormal:

  • Mighty曹

    Edit: I posted in the wrong topic.

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