Comments on: Netizens Discuss If Reporting Rape Jeopardizes Wedding

By: John Doe

John Doe — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 17:41:03 +0000

Somehing needs to be changed in a culture who blames the innocent victim.

But who knows, she could have done it by her own free will. He takes pictures and are afraid that they end up on Internet.

The sad thing with many girls is that you can never trust them. If they report rape, incest etc. it can be anything from purely made up stuff to the real deal.

By: dragon

dragon — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 00:08:10 +0000

I know and understand why she made her decision and why she doesnt want it discussed again.
But I feel she chosen poorly, verginity is very highly valued in china so chances are she was a virgin before the rape. I’m sure her husband figured out on the wedding night that she wasnt a virgin.
She shouldnt worry about her soon to be father inlaw,hes not the one she’s marrying should sit down with her fiancee and tell him what happened get it out in the open.If he loves her he’ll understand it wasnt her fault and be willing to help her through the pain,no matter how much she wants to put it behind her a rape victim never gets over the trama.Her husband needs to know coz it will eat her inside and not having someone to turn to will end up ending the marrige.I realize she’s proberbly marride by now but seriously need to think about telling him.Not telling could make things worse,and whose to say the pics wont show up later?

By: Geoff

Geoff — Mon, 11 May 2009 03:46:19 +0000

Well, the sad fact is, proof is hard to obtain if there is no witness or forensic evidence.
So involviong the police now is to late, it should be done immediatly to be effective.
The only choices open, is as she has done, and move on.
Alternatively….
If she knows the person that did it, in some way can identify him, The hit man solution looks like an option, and additionally, very cheap in china, I would though suggest a good beating, and a male rape to be effective, Possibly regular intervals. with future indication, so he will always be looking over his shoulder, this is better than death, he can suffer for long time.

By: null

null — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 21:19:04 +0000

Chinese Police in generals are worse compared to their counterparts elsewhere…and probably just as corrupt as their counterparts.

The girl definitely needs counseling. But the high road would tell the future hubby. However, if the girl needs financial assistance (poor family,) I understood her predictment(sp?) especially given the arcane and ludicous one(or two)-child policy currently implemented in China.

I begin to wonder what happened to human decency and common sense in China and this will get worse as China continues to prosper…then again, the chinese approach is life isn’t worth that much in China anyway…

By: charles

charles — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 00:33:53 +0000

at least get some counseling, hire a private detective may be, pay the triads to take care of the situation.

By: the peasant

the peasant — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 18:34:59 +0000

this post is pure BS. the girl ask for help in deciding a good 80-90% suggests her to call the cops. but rather she does the opposite.

what does that tell you? it tells you that the girl already made her decision even before the post was created… she was just looking to validate her decision.

losing face etc etc. i can understand it all. but this is still deception. its not so different as sleeping with another man before your wedding night the only difference is (if im the guy) i can understand if its an unfortunate event such as this rather than an intentional one.

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By: jayman

jayman — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 14:16:02 +0000

@Kai

Fair enough. Next post I’ll be sure to throw a few insults against you to make you feel more secure.

By: Kai

Kai — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 13:45:19 +0000

@ jayman:

Holy shit, any more ego-stroking and my head is going to explode!

Either we operate on a similar wavelength or you’re pulling my chain because I’m pretty certain my posts (especially those I don’t proof-read) are potpourri mixtures of stream-of-consciousness and eclectic asides. While I personally think everything I write is me subconsciously establishing nuance to my position (you know, to preempt those who would dare find fault with my arguments), others feel I’m belaboring my point, being repetitive, and rambling. I can empathize.

That said, I try to remain humble and gracious but I’m pretty certain quite a few fellow commentators here would disagree given my penchant for trying to rip apart or verbally overwhelm those I find, quite simply, “idiotic” (which is subjective).

Now that I’ve tried to “graciously” accept and appreciate your compliments, I hope you’ll stop complimenting me because I’m one of those people who squirm when being praised.

Also, I can’t pinpoint any specific foundation for my “rhetorical style.” Therefore, I suppose your labels are probably as good as any.

By: jayman

jayman — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 13:06:38 +0000

@Kai:

Concise: free from all superfluous detail While your posts are often long, you rarely belabor your point. You move through the issues in a very logical way, raising relevant details for your readers’ attention and moving on.

I especially enjoy the way you remain humble and gracious, pointing out similarities as often as differences. Most people can’t pull it off.

(What is the state of philosophy in China today? You seem unconcerned with class warfare, so I couldn’t call it diamat. I’d guess the Socratic Elenctic style, with a good bit of Confucian rhetoric for flavor. Or a very good business communications class. :p So which is it?)