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New Rules For Nannies in Shaanxi Province

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on Wednesday, October 22, 2008

From Sina, “New Shaanxi Regulations Force Nannies to be Mistresses”:

No tight fitting clothes, no heavy make-up, no nail polish, no flirtatious glances or living together with guys. These are the new codes of conduct for nannies in Shaanxi Province.

The Home Services Association in Shaanxi Province also provided specific details for these rules:

Pay attention to hygiene and her appearance and wear proper jewelry;
Should not dress too casual or too tight;
Should not have long nails or polish them;
When talking to the client, she should look at them right in the eyes, should not cross her arms or have her hands in her pockets.
It is recommended that she speak in Mandarin and use proper language, should not curse or use obscene language.
Should not share a room with the opposite sex;
Should not have friends over for the night or stay out with no good reason.

The new codes of conduct also make it a rule that a nanny should not abuse their clients or gossip about them, should not try to borrow money from the client or ask for gifts . When leaving the house, they should voluntarily show clients her bag in order to show her respect.

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‘China Does Not Have Any Men Suitable For Me’

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on Saturday, October 18, 2008

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draq

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A Shanghai Jiaotong University female’s views on marriage.

Author: Self-professed leader of the Jiaotong University football [soccer] cheerleading team.

I am a female student of Shanghai Jiaotong University. It’s my first time writing a post. Please don’t laugh at my bad writing.

Everyone has an ideal in life. Some wants to become a hero, some wants to become rich, some other desires to become a leader. So what about me? My greatest wish in life is to marry a Western¹ man. Some might say I am very vulgar, or even a turncoat, but I am a very traditional girl. To me, the most important thing in life is marriage. There is a very trendy saying currently, that studying well is not as good as marrying well. Marrying the right man is more important than anything else.

Some might ask, “Are there not enough good men in China?” Sorry, I have not considered before. As for the reason, don’t be impatient. Sofa, stool, the floor, take your pick, and listen to this girl’s reasons one by one.

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Married For 1 Year, Beaten By Wife 9 Times

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on Friday, October 17, 2008

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Ian

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From Sina:

Ning Yuan stands across from me, height approximately 1.75m, appearance can be considered handsome, his face full of whiskers exudes a complete manliness, and he does not look like what I thought a man who has been beaten 9 times after one year of marriage would look like.

Not long after sitting down, Mr. Ning unnaturally lights a cigarette, occasionally fiercely taking a drag. He does not raise his head the entire time, his eyes are a little dull, his mouth murmuring as he relates his experiences of his wife’s domestic violence, and wanting to get divorced but also afraid his wife won’t agree and afraid he will will be brutally beaten over this matter. The most embarrassing thing is that his wife does not consider face [personal honor] when hitting someone, several times fiercely slapping my face in front of my mother and brothers [close male friends].

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Sister Says Family Poor, Cannot Find Boyfriend, Leaves

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on Monday, October 13, 2008

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Shaohua

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From bbc2345678 on Sina:

I was born in 1983, and I have a sister who is older than me by 2 years. My father was sent to jail as soon as I was born. My mother, for my father, came to Jinhua (a town in Zhejiang Province) from Lanxi. In order to give birth to me, my mother resigned, but she had to shoulder all the load of my family by herself. Because I was not the only child, neither my sister nor I had a “hukou” [national household/residential registration]. Not until my step-father appeared later, our family’s financial situation was not very good because of this “hukou” situation so my older sister and I had problems getting an education. In order for us to grow up educated, our mother begged the school and paid an amount of money before the school reluctantly let us enroll.

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Netizens Discuss If Reporting Rape Jeopardizes Wedding

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on Friday, September 26, 2008

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Duckee

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From Mop, “Friend Was Raped, Who Can Tell Me What To Do?“:

I have a good friend, a girl, who is to be married on October 1st. However, just before her wedding, this unfortunate incident occurred:

The night before the Mid-Autumn Festival, when everyone was basking in the festive mood, my friend was raped. The vicious man even used his phone to take pictures of my friend after she was violated. My friend tried to take his phone to delete the pictures but was unsuccessful – she was even beaten really badly.

The same night, she told me what happened over SMS and my first thought was to call the police. However, there is a lot to consider:

She is getting married in October, if this incident is made public, it is very possible that it will affect her future.
The police chiefs of nearby police stations in the area are either colleagues or friends of her future father-in-law; if she reports this incident, her father-in-law will definitely find out. Whether or not her public servant father-in-law (who is a very traditional man) can accept a “shamed” daughter-in-law is unknown. Indeed, gossip can be malicious.
She is afraid of hurting her husband and how the incident will cast a shadow on their relationship.

If we don’t call the police, the criminal remains above the law and this will also be a worry:

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Peasant Girl: My Life Is Miserable Because I Am Poor

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on Thursday, September 25, 2008

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Shaohua

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On September 6, a poster named 我是农家女(”I Am A Peasant Girl”) posted on Sina: “Late 70s Peasant Girl’s hopeless survival, would rather be a mistress than marry a poor person.”

I know that after seeing this topic, you will all scold me, but may those who have the energy to scold me please carefully finish reading the content below, then consider if I should be scolded.

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An Olympic Affair? Yao Ming and Lauren Jackson Hug

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on Monday, August 25, 2008

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Fauna

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Last night, the 2008 Beijing Olympics officially ended with the Closing Ceremony, another big show by Zhang Yimou. During the show, all of the athletes entered the Birds Nest stadium and gathered on the field. For many Chinese watching, they saw an interesting thing happen between Yao Ming, China’s basketball star, and Lauren Jackson, a women’s basketball player from Austrailia:

This morning, there were many topics about Yao Ming and Lauren Jackson on all of the major China BBS forums. From Tianya forum, “At the Closing Ceremony, Yao Ming and blonde-haired girl hugged more than just once, here is the evidence, everyone see for yourselves!“:

Just now during the Closing Ceremony, everyone saw Yao Ming hug a blonde-haired girl, right? However, do you know that they did not hug only once, but at least twice!!!!!!!!!!!

This is a screen capture’s address:
http://2008.sina.com.cn/dt/other/bn/ot/2008-08-24/204012187.shtml
This is a photograph’s address:
http://2008.sina.com.cn/cn/bk/2008-08-24/2106257951.shtml
[pictures above]

Everyone see for yourselves. The girl in the screen capture is holding something in her left hand, only using her right hand to hug Yao Ming. However, in the photographs, she is using both arms to hug Yao Ming, proving that they hugged at least, at least, twice! Everything else, everyone analyze for themselves!!!!!!

Yao Ming is Shanghainese. From Shanghai’s KDS forum, “This time, Yao Ming is in big trouble!!“:

A lot of people captured that on film. Yao Ming better be ready for an ass-kicking when he gets home.

Yao Ming is fucked…

To tell the truth, Ye Li [Yao Ming's wife, see below] really is ugly.

Ye Li charges up pointing at the white girl: Your name~~ say sorry!!!!

When my mom saw this, she said: “So, Yao Ming is also unfaithful~”

What did she say into his ear?

“Yao, my room number is 302~ Come on!”

If we are talking about kung fu in bed, foreigners are definitely better.

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Women Are To Be Played, Not To Be Loved

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on Friday, August 22, 2008

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Fauna

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From China’s largest forum, Tianya:

“When writing this essay, I considered several titles. For example, “Women are suited for playing, not suited for loving”, and others. However, none of them matched my meaning and, including the current title, none are ideal. Writing this essay, I know I will be reviled but I still want to write it anyway. The reason is because what I am saying represents a phenomenon in current society and notions of love.

A modern man needs three weapons: Money, charming appearance, and a way with words. Women these days looking at men, look to see if he has a successful career…which basically means how much money he has. The more money you have, in women’s eyes, the more successful your career. Even if you idle at home all day, so long as you have unlimited money, your career is still considered successful. If you do not have money, then you need to be super handsome in the eyes of women. Why super handsome in the eyes of women and not in the eyes of men is because how women see things is different from how men see things. If you do not have money but you are super handsome, that is your capital, and lots of women will come love you, only, those that love you, most will not be with you for long and when the novelty has worn off, they will leave you and go look for a husband, or return to their wealthy husband. These kind of women are usually beautiful women. Why do they leave? Because you do not have money. If you do not have these two things, then you must practice your way with words. What women like to hear, are sweet words and honeyed phrases. Even if they themselves know they are lies and ridiculously false, they still like it. If, of these three, you have none, sorry, in general, you have been given the death penalty by women. Finding a wife will be hard. If you find one, it will be others’ leftovers. Of course, there are also miracles, so it depends on if you are a lucky guy. Do not say what you have is talent, because without money, you are just straw [a friend, something there in a time of need]. So what if you can make airplanes? No money, nor handsome, even prostitutes will not look at you.

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