Chinese Wives’ Complaints About Husbands: Part 1

What do Chinese girlfriends and wives complain about their boyfriends and husbands?

ran615-liba-bbs-discussion-forum-memberBeginning early last month,  a member of the popular Liba BBS forum named “ran615” (right) started a post now-titled, Good wives’ anger-relief post – [Collective complaining of husbands] After entering you will discover that you are absolutely not alone in fighting.

This post now has over 50 pages of comments and has appeared on newspaper and television.

Liba is a popular Shanghai BBS for women, mostly Shanghainese women, and we will translate many of the comments from this post to share some of the many common, and funny complaints or criticisms that Chinese or Shanghainese women have of their men. Let’s begin…


From Liba:


In one year, half of it is spent traveling for business, fuck.


Ever since he could no longer play WoW
he began constantly downloading single-player games.

Unwilling to wash dishes.
Always forgets to get a towel when bathing.
Sometimes also petty/narrow-minded. -v-


His mother is always right, I cannot express an opinion, even more government than the government!


Every week he must find majiang [mah-jong] buddies to go play.
And if he cannot play [no one available], he will whine to me.
Fuck, raising the child is a single person job.
He says he is only responsible for education, and eating, drinking, shitting, pissing [everything else] is up to me.
Fuck fuck.


All day he only wants to buy new clothes~~ where is there that much money to buy~~this #13!!! [#13 = weirdo, abnormal person]
Extremely stubborn, big man mentality [the man is the boss]!!! Pig-headed!!! Also, when it comes to buying me things, simply talking about it counts as having bought it~~ pig-headed!!!


I am taking care of the daughter, she makes a fuss, and he says I have spoiled her and she is not well-behaved. When he takes care of her and she cries and makes a fuss, he says she has been spoiled rotten by me. Everything is my fault, TMD, you [the husband] are useless as a father.


Always forgets to turn off the lights, turn off the rice cooker, turn off the gas, close the drawers, leaves his clothes lying around, and no matter how many times I have said it, his attitude is always sincere but he always cannot remember.


When at home, he walks around only in his underwear. Even with such a poor physique, he is still like this.


狂怒 Stingy, big man mentality, wordy, is not clean, often thinks he is the most objective, most impartial. [He is] lazy, puts on an ugly face, is petty/stingy, and always have to listen to him!!!


If he is not playing on the computer, he is sleeping, fuck!
Asking him to do something requires asking hundreds of times!


He is playing video games but still instructs me on controlling the television. I am next to him changing channels preparing to watch television, and the moment I change the channel to a war movie he will say “this one, this one”. TMD, he is watching the computer continuously, only occasionally raising his eyes to glance at the television, and it must be a show that he likes to watch. Monopolizing the computer is not enough, he has to monopolize the television also! 狂怒 狂怒


I cannot say bad things about his parents, his family is always right. His family’s money is money. My family’s money is all toilet paper.


When I am driving, he is always on the side yelling~~pass, pass!^

The entire way he doesn’t stop, talks so much, does not trust me.


Everyday he says he needs to exercise, but everyday he does not do anything~
He says he wants to run/jog, but the moment his butt touches the computer chair, he won’t move again.
Jogging/running becomes walking/strolling, and after 5 minutes he flees back up [to the apartment]~ Dragging him to go exercise is truly more tiring than exercising myself~
One moment claiming to want to swim, another moment claiming to want to learn latin dancing, and except for [not having] late-night snacks, there has been no other progress~
That tummy yo~ 撞墙 撞墙


When I am away on business, he simply puts his socks in water and will not wash them for the entire week until I return and he says to me that he changed the water everyday!



He talks to me like talking to an elementary student,
acting like he is the elder.
He himself clearly is very brainless,
I remind him and he tells me not to make a fuss.


CN!!! My boyfriend has all of the problems your husbands have!!!


Everything is good about my husband except he is not willing to go stroll/shop with me. Upon entering a shopping mall he says his stomach hurts, pisses me off.


My husband is also very shameless. He is obsessed with cleanliness, bathes twice a day, and bathes extremely slowly. I really do not understand what a man with not that much hair has to wash inside! Everyday he needs to turn off the gas valve, forcing me to always climb up and climb down, because he cannot sleep without turning it off! He is always late, having never been on time over 5 times since I have known him, always having an excuse.


[I am an] unmarried [girl] here sightseeing. All of your problems my BF [boyfriend] has, so. I am considering breaking up.
To add one, treating you like an idiot, pretending to be very practical on the outside. It sounds good, but actually being practical is another thing. [He] only demands a harmonious appearance. When you get angry [he] even accuses you of getting angry for no reason.

To be continued…we will translate more soon.

Do you have any complaints about your husband? Wife? Boyfriend? Girlfriend?


Written by Fauna

Fauna is a mysterious young Shanghainese girl who lives in the only place a Shanghainese person would ever want to live: Shanghai. In mid-2008, she started chinaSMACK to combine her hobby of browsing Chinese internet forums with her goal of improving her English. Through her tireless translation of popular Chinese internet news and phenomenon, her English has apparently gotten dramatically better. At least, reading and writing-wise. Unfortunately, she's still not confident enough to have written this bio, about herself, by herself.


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