Malaysian Woman Marries Paralyzed Chinese Man, Reactions

Li Kangyu and Yan Suying.

Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying.

From NetEase:

Paralyzed Man from Hebei Marries Malaysian Woman, Cyber Love Comes Full Circle

August 8, Li Kangyu, a 38-year-old man from Hebei Tangshan, held a wedding ceremony with Yan Shuying from Malaysia and tied the knot as husband and wife. Due to the rheumatoid arthritis at a very young age, Li Kangyu has lied in bed for 31 years. Despite joint necrosis, ankylosis, and muscular atrophy, his optimistic attitude infected Yan Shuying, who lives far away in Malaysia. After two years of online dating, they decided to get married. Family members from both sides, who were once opposed to their marriage, were moved by their insistence. In China, Li Kangyu’s only income is the low government subsidy of 2,300 yuan per year, but Yan Shuying claims she’s prepared to share the joys and sorrows of life with Li Kangyu together. Living in Kuala Lumpur, Yan Shuying says she has always longed for country life and now has had her wish fulfilled.

Yan Shuying is talking on the phone.

August 7, in Hebei Tangshan, the day before the wedding, Yan Shuying receiving a long distance call from her sister in Malaysia, telling her sister the location of the hotel where their wedding would be held.

The wedding photo.

Their wedding picture placed on the computer desk in front of Li Kangyu. Because Li Kangyu isn’t able to stand up, the picture was Photoshoped.

Yan Shuying is feeding Li Kangyu noodles.

Li Kangyu says he particularly likes the instant noodles Yan Shuying brings from Malaysia. Though he loves noodles, Li Kangyu rarely ate such in the past because he couldn’t take care of himself [eat the noodles on his own].

Yan Shuying and Li Kangyu's marriage certificate.

On August 5th, at Tangshan city Hebei Province, Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying showed off their sweet marriage certificate.

Li Kangyu is crying.

When speaking of how their love came to be, warm tears ran down Li Kangyu’s cheeks. According to Yan Shuying: “Apart from the physical illness, Li Kangyu is better than many other people. Though he has never attended school, he knows a lot about history, geography, current affairs, etc. And he is very smart.  He is very earnest and brave towards life, and the physical disability makes him even more positive. I’m very moved. He can be my guide, walking with me on the road of life.”

Yan Shuying and Li Kangyu are talking.

Yan Shuying says she’s very happy being with Li Kangyu and hopes that she can look after him her whole life.

Yan Shuying is showing the wedding gown to Li Kangyu.

Yan Shuying holding her wedding gown in her hands and showing it to Li Kangyu, the two of them both very excited for the wedding.

Wearing the make-up.

In order to save on wedding expenses, Yan Shuying wears a wedding gown she bought on the internet for 165 yuan. Li Kangyu’s cousin helps her with the make-up.

Li Kangyu and Yan Suying.

Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying taking their wedding photo on the bed.

Cousins are taking photos for Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying with cellphones.

Cousins using cell phones to take photos of Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying.

Group photo of Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying's mother, brother, sister-in-law, and sisters.

Group photo of Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying’s mother, brother, sister-in-law, and sisters.

Heading for the wedding with help.

Right before the start of the wedding ceremony, the brother-in-law lifts Li Kangyu up, getting ready to go to the wedding site.

Li Kangyu lying on the couch.

Before the start of the wedding ceremony, Li Kangyu lies on the couch on the wedding stage, waiting quietly for the ceremony to begin.

Yan Shuying is walking into the wedding hall with her brother.

Yan Shuying’s brother walking his little sister arm-in-arm into the wedding hall.

Li Kangyu is reading the wedding vow.

The wedding.

Li Kangyu reading the wedding vows with Yan Shuying’s help.

The wedding ring.

The host holding up the wedding ring representing their love, showing it to the guests gathered.

Leaving the wedding site.

After the wedding ceremony, and “surrounded” by the crowd, Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying leave the wedding site.

Heading for the bridal chamber.

“Surrounded” by the crowd, Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying heading for their “bridal chamber” at the hotel.

Comments from NetEase:

依旧惘然 [网易江苏省南通市网友]:

Not afraid to being laughed at, to be honest, I was moved.

石原夏織 [网易江苏省连云港市网友]: (responding to above)

Truly moving, the smile on this woman’s face is sincere. Wish them well.

我们到底需要什么 [网易江苏省网友]: (responding to above)

I wish them well too, and hope their love can last a long time. But to be honest, they won’t last very long. With the woman so young, and human, she’ll need a sex life.
Love is TM like a ghost, most afraid to see the light.

dehong71 [网易河南省平顶山市网友]: (responding to above)

I have seen similar stories before and was deeply moved… but I’m not this time, and somewhat feel this man is immoral/unethical! If you love her, you shouldn’t have agreed to marry her. This is not an illness that you can live with but an illness where you can’t live. There can be marriage with some illnesses, and that will move people, but with your situation… why ruin her life???

郑光伟同志 [网易四川省德阳市网友]: (responding to above)

I’m sorry, I feel the same. With this man’s physical condition, he can’t even take care of himself. And his financial condition doesn’t seem to be strong enough to support the normal functioning of a family. So we can see that his ability to maintain marital relations is very low. From this point of view, the man is kind of wretched, and certainly not above accusations of being immoral [inconsiderate, selfish].
In addition, I totally disagree with the view of love being supreme above all else that is implied in the content. This can mislead young boys and girls in real life.

这个昵称能过 [网易山东省网友]: (responding to above)

I have to say it takes a great deal of courage to get into this marriage.

underskyblue [网易加拿大网友]: (responding to above)

It’s not a great deal of courage, it’s a great deal of foolishness.

网易湖南省岳阳市网友 ip:222.242.*.*: (responding to above)

Hope they will still be as happy in 10 or 20 years as they are now. At that time, brother [referring to self] will bless them, and salute them.

难得糊涂也不能糊涂 [网易浙江省杭州市网友]: (responding to above)

Is this man very rich? And this woman, how about marrying my family’s pet dog? Your parents gave birth to you, but you marry to such a person? I pity your parents.
And there are so many people who are moved, I don’t know what’s so moving?? It’s a tragedy, why wasn’t there anyone to stop this tragedy from happening??
This society is this paralyzed man, already paralyzed.

zyj19851126 [网易北京市网友]: (responding to 依旧惘然)

Men being moved is normal, there’s nothing to laugh at.

民间慈善搜一下解决者 [网易北京市网友]:

Loves his great philosophy and thinking? Anyway, wish you both well, it’ll just be unfair for her in the bridal chamber… Look at me.

网易美国手机网友 ip:166.147.*.* (responding to above)

Look at you MGB, may the families of cheats/conmen all die.

网易河南省洛阳市网友 ip:115.53.*.* (responding to 民间慈善搜一下解决者)

It’s unfair for her, not you, there’s no need for you to blindly worry about other people’s business!

网易安徽省合肥市手机网友 ip: 61.191.*.*: (responding to above)

A man like him getting married harms a girl with few years of remaining youth. He can’t even take care of himself, let alone the expectation of a happy life.

蛋疼的wy [网易广东省广州市网友]: (responding to above)

It has been two years [since they met each other] already, do you think they would get married without having considered these things?

网易湖南省衡阳市网友 ip:42.48.*.*: (responding to above)

Online and offline are different! When online, you can be a princess or a king ! But you may only be a blade of grass [a nobody] in reality!

网易江苏省手机网友 ip:183.211.*.*

[He] found a servant/caretaker.

网易北京市手机网友 ip:219.143.*.*

The woman probably wants to immigrate.

江南小秀才爱MM [网易湖北省襄阳市网友]: (responding to above)

That may very well be it.

bihoo365 [网易海南省海口市网友]:

I once again believe in love.

江南小秀才爱MM [网易湖北省襄阳市网友]: (responding to above)

Brother [referring to himself] has never believed in love.

网易河南省濮阳市手机网友 ip:175.106.*.*:

I’m speechless! I can only say, this woman is very great [selfless, brave], but it’s hard to comment on the man. I think he is a little selfish. If the two of them swapped places, the man may not be as great. This is just my opinion.

网易山东省济南市网友 ip:123.232.*.*:

This man is too selfish! What can you bring to this woman except burden? This woman is stupid and foolish.

文武君羡 [网易山东省泰安市网友]:

Nothing is too strange in the world, how can the difference between people who are handicapped be so large [referring to himself as a fellow disabled person]? Is the bride ethnic Chinese? Does she chat in Chinese? I dare not believe this is true/real! Is this paralyzed brother so awesome that he has something extraordinary? Familiarity breeds fondness, did they marry only because of love? Such a woman is rare in the world! Some of the above netizens said they were moved while others said their happiness wouldn’t last long, but even normal people don’t last long and fucking get divorced, right?!!! This bro is so lucky! Those who envy him, don’t be discouraged, it’s the same for me, because my situation is almost the same as this paralyzed bro. As long as you strive and not give up while you live and breathe, I trust a miracle of love will appear by your side.

What do you think? Is this story touching? Is the woman foolish? Is the man selfish?


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