Chinese Schoolgirl Refuses Haircut, Commits Suicide

School girl jumps off building and killed herself for not wanting her hair to be cut short.

School girl jumps off building and killed herself for not wanting her hair to be cut short.

From Sina Weibo:

Girl Jumps off Building Because School Forces Her to Cut Her Hair Short

On April 13th, 2012, at night, Shangdong Province Victory Oilfield No.1 Middle School 9th grade girl Yingying (pseudonym) jumped off from her 5th floor apartment building and died. The reason was she didn’t want to cut her hair short to obey the school rule of “boys should have crew cuts, girls should have sports cuts”. Before the incident took place, Yingying’s father received 3 text messages over 8 days from the school, requesting that the child get a hair cut. Yingying’s mother was talking to with Yingying about getting a haircut and when Yingying said no, her mother said “not getting a haircut isn’t possible”. Yingying then became silent, and before her mother could react, she opened the window… Yingying’s father says his daughter’s class teacher has always been very earnest and responsible, as well as caring about his daughter’s education. The school’s headmaster says having a short haircut is campus culture, and that the school does not take responsibility for this kind of thing happening.

Comments from Sina Weibo:


A 14-year-old girl didn’t want to follow the rule to cut her hair and jumped off the building. Sounds really dramatic, but the fact lies before our eyes, valuing one’s hair more than life, this is already a psychological problem. As society develops, moving forward in big strides, shouldn’t we take a look at how the flowers [youth] of our country are growing up?


Treasure the life your parents give you! It’s a precious fortune that you can’t have twice in a lifetime. It’s more important than hair, it’s more important than clothes, it’s more important than finishing school, it’s more important than being in a relationship, it’s more important than having a fight, it’s more important than everything. One can go without having a haircut, without buying new clothes, without finishing school, without being in a relationship, without having a fight, but one can’t go without life.


Aren’t schools all like this? From the Ministry of Education to primary schools, they all TM suck!!!


Today’s kids are so weak!


The school rule is actually okay/acceptable. I think a short haircut is quite good. Why didn’t this kid think it through? Sigh, still so very young.


Today’s education [system], I’m speechless… only focusing what’s on the outside, and ignoring children’s inner feelings. Word is there’s a middle school in Hangzhou where in order to prevent boys and girls from being too intimate, the school demands that a boy and a girl should keep a distance between them of no less than 50cm.


Nowadays there’s just no way to understand young kids’ minds. Is this worth it?


Damn it, haircut, my ass! Have all the teachers at the school cut their hair like that if they got the balls! Students need respect too, alright? Those arrogant “educational workers”!


Such a pathetic child. Is hair more important than life? Children these days!


I wanna say, can it improve one’s IQ having their hair cut short? Can one do better at school with a short haircut? Can having a short haircut improve one’s grades? I think as long as it’s not out of the line [too excessive], there’s no need for school to be like this… tying it up in a ponytail should be fine! However, this girl is also too… Without life, what use is having hair? 14 years old, at the stage of adolescence, all sorts of rebellions. Mothers also should communicate more with their children. All are blameworthy.


Always pushing responsibility onto educational workers, who then ought to pay attention to education at home? Is [greater] society the sole guardian of children the minute they’re born?


According to the news, a 14-year-old schoolgirl commits suicide by jumping off a building because she doesn’t want to cut her hair short. In recent years, similar cases frequently happen, which is truly worrying. With education in middle and primary schools is so ignorant, so arbitrary, school administrators lack aesthetic cultivation, and even limit students’ hairstyles to just one style. How ridiculous!


My sympathies. Also, us middle school students already have to put up with wearing school uniforms every day, why also limit hairstyles? Not allowing perming and dyeing is understandable, but why does it have to be sports cut? Do all students in China have to look the same, without personalities and characteristics?!!


The schools of China are going to tame all students, eliminate all their personalities, and re-mold all geniuses into mediocre persons. I don’t know what the hell Yingying’s parents are thinking! They should protect their own kid’s rights, protect the kid’s personality, instead of following garbage school’s rules! The one you love is your child, and she loves long hair, so you should buy her pretty hair clips!


That girl’s already in her 9th grade, how can she still be so stupid?


Schools in Shandong are very twisted. It’s no secret the gaokao college entrance examination curve is really high, know why? The percentage of Shandong students with near-sightedness/myopia is over 90%, there’s as much homework “as hair on a cow” [a lot], and wanting to have some personality/individuality is considered a violation of school regulations.


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Overthrow the teachers, long live the students!!!


Now that I think about it, when we were still innocent and naive during middle school, we were indeed instilled with many wrong ideas: for example, you can only study, can’t form cliques… can’t have long hair, can’t play badminton… Sigh.


A young girl in Dongying City jumps off off a building and kills herself because she didn’t want to cut the hair she loved so much. There are all sorts of comments on the Internet, one of which says, today’s kids have poor coping skills. I think that when facing such a burdensome journey of learning, when humanity seems so pale, living becomes much harder than dying. For a child who can’t be the master of her own life, tell me what options does she have? The precious period of time a man has in this world, just what’s it for?


This girl’s grades must be unimpressive. A damn retard. What’s wrong with the school? You should’ve known better when you were choosing schools! Transfer to another school if you can’t stand its campus culture! You’re already a 9th grader and yet you’re still doing this kind of thing, fucking embarrassing.


Even now I haven’t figured out one has to go to school with a short haircut? Boys having crew cuts is one thing, but why do girls have to have short hair? Does everything in China’s education system have to be compulsory? Is China’s education system unable to teach people what freedom/choice is? How can children educated under this education system learn the concept of liberty? And how will they be able to fight for their freedom in the days to come!!!


The girl’s too extreme… but still I want to question the school. Skin and hair are given by the parents, on what ground should she cut her hair? Besides, to a girl, hair is very important!!! Now the girl’s gone, you don’t want to be responsible. Have you nothing to do with it? If it’s not because you demanding a haircut, would she be dead? Fuck you!!!


This is a suicide? It’s martyrdom! She’s a heroine!


Schools forcing students to cut their hair was never an issue until someone dies. In this amazing country, as long as nobody dies (or too many die), all problems are no problems.


The distance between boys and girls shouldn’t be too close, a girl cuts her hair three times yet still fail to pass school inspection commits suicide by taking poison, 14-year-old young girl suicide jumps because she doesn’t want to cut her hair, have “moral character points” deducted for not carrying a backpack. Don’t always say [the students’] have poor psychological character, because psychological education has never been valued anyway, and unless an incident happens, rarely is “cherish life” mentioned. In front of these SB rules and regulations, when parents help the teachers, the children feel helpless, but when the parents help the children, they’re accused of indulging [the children]. Can’t schools just have fewer SB rules?


Cut my hair, your mother’s cunt. Cut my hair, your mother’s shit. Fuck you. Controlling even what hairstyle I have. What’s fun is left in living if it has to be like this? 2B school, better off just not attending school at all.


Fuck… if there was a rule that a school headmaster has to become an eunuch, would you be willing to be a headmaster? God damn it, how come this kind of thing still happens today?


School image, understandable.


Our school checks twice a week!


This is primarily a problem with the child’s wisdom, who hasn’t been through a rebellious phase? But to commit suicide because of this kind of reason, even if this time she didn’t die, she’d just get caught up with other things in the future. The school perhaps initiated this, but it’s definitely not the main cause. I just want to say, it’s meaningless to argue over who’s right and who’s wrong, but kid, it was easy for you to jump, but how are your parents going to live?


Sigh, still a Chinese education system problem! If it was like Hong Kong, Macau, and Taiwan, then we’d be fine. It’s such a shame, that day is still very far away from us.


Pay attention to improve yourself, how are you going to adapt to society like this?


Schools are just finding trouble for themselves, what’s a short haircut for? Those who want to study will study, and for those who don’t, you can make them bald and they still won’t!


Letting this kind of mental retard live is a waste of air and their death is a waste of land. Both the family and the school are responsible for bringing up such a retard. If it goes on like this, a country will no longer be a country. ╮(╯_╰)╭


The educational system of China, makes people sick.


I’d never cut my hair, that’s for sure, I would kill anyone who dares to touch it….. girl, you should go fight them, why destroy your own life! Even though hair is more important than life, but I at least persevere, and keep both~ This kid~ sigh~


The rashness of youth! Back when I was in middle school, the school found someone to cut mine! “In spring the wind blows, again my hair grows”. No big deal…


What kind of rules are schools wasting their time making these days? If everyone had the same hairstyle, it’d just be the same as a prison.


School/campus culture… what a high-sounding excuse!


A big problem in today’s China is that most of the people who make decisions have asses that are bigger than their brains!

What do you think? Do you know girls who are very sensitive about their hair?

Written by Peter Barefoot

Peter is a born and raised Chengdunese who enjoys drinking with all his friends.

  • Alex


    • The Dude

      You put that on an article about a young girl committing suicide?

      Use the brain much do you?

      • Alex

        As tragic as it may seem, isn’t the internet (especially the comment section) the last place you’ll look for serious reflection on an article?

        I return the same question onto you and await your meaningful take on the subject (which you haven’t).

        • lonetrey

          Eh, halfway true but I’m sure there’s worse places to look.

      • lonetrey

        I think what would be a more effective comment:

        “You put that on an article about a young girl committing suicide?

        You’re not the best of human beings, are you? (rhetorical. The answer is no.)”

  • Colbert


    • moop

      too soon?

  • Hidear


  • Jeff

    One less virgin to defrock…

    • A A

      You’re a wonderful illustration of the fact that human evolution still has a long, long way to go.

    • pervertt

      Go find yourself a paedophilic Catholic priest if defrocking floats your boat.

  • Jess

    Confucius would approve.

  • So ai don’t have much to compete with in the first few comments here. But at least most of the arseholes have said their piece…

    As for the topic at hand, her reaction is far too extreme and if she had taken a moment to think clearly, she could have found another way. Problem is that 14 year old girls are not usually in the habit of thinking clearly, especially when it comes to fashion.

    Secondly, the school’s excuse (campus culture) is an oxymoron at best. Most schools I’ve ever seen or heard of do their best to crush the culture and creativity out of their campuses. This is just another branch in the tree of dehumanizationg and uniformity that covers the entire country. It’s gets truly ridiculous when you compare chinese schools and universities with pretty much any other country.

    Uniforms? Some have them, but they look good (Japanese, English, Catholic, etc.)
    Hair and makeup? Some restrictions somewhere, but not many and only for the ridiculous
    Music? As long as only you can hear it, nobody cares
    Dating? A quick kiss or squeeze is cool in private, but keep it clean in public
    Homework? Enough to give you practice or help you learn, not dominate your life
    Friends? Your choice, no matter rich or poor, good or naughty, etc.

    List goes on and on.

    • notorious

      I don’t know if this has anything to do with people resolving their issues using immolation and other self destructive acts as a means of protest.

    • Alan

      This is just another branch in the tree of dehumanizationg and uniformity that covers the entire country.

      Which rightly includes Hong Kong. I am sure you agree.

      • Little Wolf

        Alan…I’m going to allow this comment to qualify as actually worthwhile. Keep up the good work!

        • Alan

          Thanks. Even though said comment will probably have little old goateed one railing about HK being a country, and I am wrong?

          • Little Wolf

            haha…well, I really don’t know the guy well.

    • lonetrey

      I agree with you. I’m glad someone else had taken something else from this article other than the blatantly obvious view that “the girl was too extreme”.

      This situation speaks volumes about the environment that it occurred in, not only the school but the chinese public mindset. But not everyone can see that.

    • White Thrash

      this is the way it goes in china unfortunately : dehumanization.
      Erase what’s personal… be a sheep, it’s easy to control and so it will maintain social peace…
      In the end it makes stupid adults unable to think on their own…

      What a crappy system…

  • [email protected]

    If that is a photo of a fourteen year old girl then my name is Captain Kangaroo.

    What sort of education professional would, instead of calling a parent directly; send a ‘text message’?

    I know it’s really harsh, but, if this girl cannot handle being made to cut her hair, as ridiculous a requirement as it surely was, well then life would have been too hard for her anyway. Period. Better off dead.

    • Spintactics

      Wow, I think you’re the first person here to make sense. I scrolled up and down this page thinking, “no one thought that this was just Darwinism at its best/worst?”. I’m glad someone here sees this the way I do.

    • Boris

      Yes, that’s really harsh. Count your blessings that you’ve always been able to deal with what’s come into your life. A lot of kids here are over-protected. That’s not their fault. Her hair must’ve meant the world to her. F**k -I’m speechless. So many hateful comments here. If it wasn’t for sensitive people -the girl included -this world wouldn’t be worth living in.

      • mr. wiener

        Agreed, poor silly girl. Dammit the education system here lets you get away with what ever until you a 10 then rackets up the pressure to the point of ridiculousness, afterschool math classes, after-after school freeking piano lesson, back home and do your homework then off to bed by 1am.Christ on a bicycle it’s no wonder some of these kids are mental basket cases.

      • [email protected]

        Surely there is a difference between being overprotected and being spoiled. Consider her the new poster child for the current post 90s generation of young Chinese, who have this fairly outrageous sense of self-entitlement based upon their upbringing – never being told no, getting everything given to them, never learning how to appreciate the things they have by sometimes being told no when expecting more. By always getting everything given to them without question. The grandparents spoiling the child, the parents focusing entirely on the only child and bowing down to, yet never teaching their child limits, boundaries, understanding concepts like deserving, earning and the importance of accepting things good and bad, getting and not getting, not getting ones way, being told no especially. This is nothing to do with sensitivity I think. This child’s death, like any child’s death is unfortunate. But she exemplifies what I am talking about.

        • Boris

          We have no evidence that she was spoiled. Sure, lots of Chinese kids have the ‘fairly outrageous sense of self-entitlement’ you mentioned, but I doubt they’re in the majority.
          I work in what I assume to be a fairly standard university. Beyond mobile phones and laptops, most of my students have few possessions to speak of. They have to go running at 6am, they have to be in their dorms by 10pm, and their days and taken up with classes leaving them little time for hobbies or outside interests. I don’t think this school resembles a college for the self-entitled, more an academy for academia run along military lines. And not one kid has told me that school was better.

    • mr. wiener

      Could have been an earlier photo Capt. Skippy. Still girls here don’t seem to hit puberty [physically and especially mentally]until they are about….20. And some of the mother’s of my ex=students seem to be even less mature than their daughters.

  • Glowndark

    China’s education system sucks balls! can’t believe after all these years with money coming in plus internet they are still this retard.

  • cc

    Bit dramatic but at least she won’t have to get her hair cut now.

  • Brett Hunan

    Maybe she heard about the girls who jumped off the 2nd floor last year and thought “hmmmm. 5 isnt too far from 2…. they’ll never talk about a haircut after this!” perhaps she never intended to die but just do something where she would get hurt, recover, and own everyone afterwards.

  • Nanjing

    Tragic story. Her life was cut far too short.

    • Spintactics


  • A-Dog

    The blame belongs to the Asian societies that believes that suicide is a quick and easy way to solve daily problems or end embarrassment. In Korea, they would actually play cartoons in the subways telling you to not kill yourself if you had a bad day. There is a value placed on martyrdom here, as you can see by the comments above that support her fight against the “evil” school. Thankfully, not everyone buys into it. Clearly she was a troubled youth who had no clue how to problem solve. Suicide is a problem in other societies as well of course, but there it is more linked with depression and less with the “this will show them” attitude. It’s pathetic it what it is.

    • Spintactics

      Actually…America has more teen suicides than China, despite the population gap. Not saying we’re more inclined to suicide, but I think you can’t let this one instance paint all of Asia. This girl was a freak, and the article was hilarious. Doesn’t mean that this is a typical case.

      • Stimpy

        I bet the US has far more accurate stats on this type of thing.

      • Bran’on

        I don’t know where you’re getting that from… China’s suicide rate as a whole is not only twice the U.S.’s, but additionally, the government even admits that suicide is the number one killer between the ages of 15-34.

      • Anon

        Do you have a source for that? I’ve stopped hunting for directly comparable statistics because, well, I’m arguing on Chinasmack, but I’m seeing suicide as the leading cause of death in China for people 15-24, compared to 3rd to 5th in the United States. I’m seeing 36,000+ suicides in the US in 2009 compared to 290,000+ in China, with 15-24 year olds accounting for about a quarter of that. Your statement might be true on some half-assed old studies from international bodies that weren’t able to get full stats from China, but it seems to be contradicted by almost everything I’ve found. Even if the rate isn’t higher in China (and everything I found leads me to believe that it is) there’s no way the raw numbers for teen suicide are higher in the US.

  • notorious

    A delicate child. But she did not think of her parents or their pain when this happens. People think it will last forever, the emotion of pain and struggle not realizing it’s only a moment that too shall pass.

    • White Thrash

      what’s more… hair grows back… :p

  • typingfromwork

    Really? For a hair cut? I mean, what the hell.

    A tragic loss for nothing.

  • fredf

    I seriously doubt that this was a suicide.
    Her mother probably tossed her out the window because the girl would not obey the mother or school rules.

    • Christina

      I never thought about that option but I do think there’s more to this than we’re being told (what else is new -.- ) but unless this girl is unstable, it just seems unlikely that she threw herself out the window with the intent of committing suicide over a simple haircut. Something else must have been wrong.

      Perhaps she’d been abused in some way and the haircut was the last straw.

      • Brett Hunan

        And perhaps she had no intention of dying. Maybe she wanted to make a point by hurting herself….

        Theres no note so we will never know. All speculation.

  • highlander

    Shit happens. It’s been happening since beginning of time. With 1,300,000,000+ people in China crazy things are bound to happen. It just never got reported before since no Internet.

  • FYIADragoon

    She thinks having a sports cut sucks? Fuck, the guys are stuck with crew cuts.

  • Stacy

    You’d have to cut your hair and don school uniforms in China? And there are no ways of alternative. Not only do the kids must think alike (Chairman Mao is super-uber-massively-forking awesome!) now they must look alike? Try that sh*t in America.

    In a way, I see where this girl stood. She seemingly had no control over her life and was robbed of her most basic right. Her death was her defiance.

    PS, I am not condoning suicide; I’m just saying I understand.

    • Brett Hunan

      China isnt America. Dont push American ideals on other people.

      Man we Americans look bad enough as it is.

      From now on, when you want to say anything about America (i.e. “in America we do it this way”, “that would never happen in American”, “Americans think this way…..”) I want you to replace any “America” with any other country and start making those fuckers look bad. Its getting to the point where I dont want to tell anyone that I am American for fear that they will all compare me with a bunch of ignorant assholes. Yes America is awesome, but not *that fucking awesome.

      Bash China all you want. Bash any country all you want. Just stop saying that you are American. You are all embarrassing me.

      • MeiDaxia

        Thanks for saving me from having to leave this comment.

        Biggest beef I have with average foreigners I meet here in China is “In MY country…” as they complain/make fun of something happening in China. Its a different culture, from completely different roots as the West, and we all literally see the world in entirely different ways.

        • Little Wolf

          Cut people some slack, man. That’s normal anywhere especially people that have left the comfort zone of their home country for the first time. Swedes traveling in Norway will say “well, in Sweden we….. You can’t tell me you never compared your country with another, especially your first time abroad.

          • Brett Hunan

            You are right but it doesnt change my sentiments. Better the youth know that it doesnt fly in the host country or with thos3 of us who have heard it all too many times.

            Rather you all hear it now over the internet than in the real world where it can lead to trouble.

          • Little Wolf

            Brett, I agree that people should maybe read a list of do’s and don’ts before they travel abroad especially not to boast about things they consider superior in their home country. Obviously the locals don’t want to hear that shit. I’m just saying after travelers become a little more savvy and been snubbed a few times they’ll get the idea that it’s unproductive. Before I lived in China I worked on long-term construction projects around the world and was required to supervise large crews from the local labor pool. I learned real quick what was off limits. Still…China is so extreme it’s nearly impossible not to say “WHAT THE FUCK?!” once in awhile.

        • Stacy

          Okay then, please allow me to rephrase this, as I have lived in Europe as well, and I am not American, so you can save the embarrassment for yourself. I further reject the premise that this is a “cultural” thing in China. Since when is forcing something on others against their will a part of a “culture”? And I believe no one will protest when I say that this is forced, as we have seen the tragic story about this young girl.

          PS, I meant in America in a sarcastic way, because if you really do pull this sh*t in America, the entire pansy-ass herd that you call generation Z will be wiped out.

          • anon

            I’m confused. There are plenty of schools in both America and Europe that have uniforms, dress codes, and yes, even haircuts. This was even more true in the past, and yet all these societies survived just fine.

            Whether or not a society wants to socialize this kind of conformity into their children is up to the society, I think. We can argue about whether or not such conformity stifles creativity but I’m not entirely sure the argument is really that persuasive given that plenty of nations we consider “creative” and “innovative” also have school uniforms and regulations on appearance.

            I agree forcing something on others against their will is not part of any “culture”. I don’t know if we can reasonably say this girl was “forced” to suicide. Would a guy who commits suicide because he refused to shave his head in the military be considered to have been “forced” to suicide? If her mother requested her to cut her hair and she committed suicide in response, did her mother “force” her to commit suicide?

            It seems rather extreme to me. We live in a society where there are certain rules required with our participation. We can’t go around blaming others for our decisions of noncompliance. Or, to be clear, there are shades of gray, and a haircut isn’t remotely close to a gross infringement upon personal liberty. Haircuts and fashion isn’t very high on the list of basic human rights for any country.

            To me, this is more a case of a teenager who, like many teenagers and youth, didn’t think things through and made a very poor decision. I personally think long hair in schools isn’t an issue, but governments, parents, and society make decisions that children are expected to conform to all the time. We long ago decided we know better and know what’s best for them.

          • Stacy

            The hair cut was forced upon this girl, as she had no choice but to obey or be denied schooling. And no, she was not forced to take her own life, but it is an action directly resulted from the aforementioned circumstance that she was forced to be placed under.

            I know that many schools in the world USED to place children in uniforms and hair cut requirements, but having gone through both public and private schools in N. America and Europe, I can tell you that those days a long gone (unless you count the Catholic schools). Surely, you can’t wear stripper attires to school, but as long as it isn’t inappropriate, it’s anything goes.

            Now, my point is, in the MODERN day, we no longer require kids to adhere to such strict aesthetic requirements, because the society has evolved past “discipline” and “obedience” that were once valued traits, just like people no longer view going wars and protecting your country an honourable thing to do.

            Surely, the Chinese can be different, but I believe, the duty of teachers, government, and society as a whole, need to alter the rules to fit the needs of the people. This is why smoking is no longer legal indoors in many jurisdictions, and drunk driving is a criminal offence, all because people demanded those to happen.

            Despite being an autocratic government, China is not above public opinion, as the central government so closely monitors internet blogs and such. The balance is delicate. However, many authority figures are blinded by the power they wield over others, and are simply desensitized of any human empathy toward people.

            My initial comment was intended to express my shock and disgust over such callousness by those who are suppose to nurture and mentor. Furthermore, this is not an isolated incident, and nothing has changed or even been brought to the attention of the government, is just, well, for a lack of better term, fucked.

            I know China has problems, which is partially why we are all on this website.

          • anon

            Right, so if she committed suicide because the school forced her to do, for example, homework she didn’t want to do, would we still have the same moral outrage and be using the same loaded terms as “forced”?

            The days of uniforms and hair cuts aren’t long gone. I’m not saying the majority of schools still have them but there really are quite a lot of schools that do and they’re not all Catholic. Even to this day you have school districts entertaining and discussing the issue of uniforms or not. Now, I think a reasonable dress code is enough, but my point was that these societies had such rules in the past and today and they’re doing just fine. I think the suggestion that such rules are so draconian that they’re causing kids to commit suicide is a bit of a stretch.

            What we have here is an outlier, a rare instance where a kid’s psychological disposition caused her to take a drastic course of action in response to something the overwhelming majority of people find mildly disagreeable but not remotely worth dying for. The direct cause of death is not the school forcing her to do something, but her inability to cope with a fact of life.

            Actually, most people in the world still believe in going to war and protecting your country is an honorable thing to do. Where did you get the idea that people no longer think that?

            You’re right that the powers that be ought to alter the rules to fit the needs of the people. Ironically, you reiterated my point that it is society that demands that certain things are the way they are. Having short hair happens to be the rule accepted by the community and society in which this school operates. Both your examples of indoor smoking and drunk driving actually prove my point. Imagine if she committed suicide because she wasn’t allowed to smoke indoors or drive while intoxicated. Would we say society “forced” her to commit suicide because of its rules?

            This isn’t a case where the school is forcing her to do something that isn’t accepted and institutionalized by the majority of society. Sure, society may one day decide to change the rule of short haircuts (as has happened elsewhere), but until then, its still the rule. At some point, we have to make pragmatic distinctions between something like “the right to life” and “the right to your chosen length of hair”.

            No on said China is above public opinion. My point is that there is no critical mass of public opinion that demands revising the rule of short haircuts in schools. Until there is, its the rule. Just like until there’s a critical mass of people who demand a ban to indoor smoking, there won’t be a rule forbidding it. Just like until there’s a critical mass of people who demand soldiers be allowed to have haircuts representing their individuality, they’re going to get the buzz cut.

            Again, I think blaming the school for her death is out of proportion and unreasonable. We face constraints on our behavior from society every day. We can’t blame others for our unwillingness to cope. It’s one thing if they’re subjecting us to physical or mental pain and abuse that is commonly agreed upon by overall society, but a haircut? No.

          • Stacy

            Anon, your logic is flawed.

            First, the purpose of school is to educate, and if homework is a way of achieving that, then the kids are not being “forced” to do it, and if they refuse, that could only mean that the kid doesn’t value education, in which case he/she might as well drop out. That being said, school has no, and I mean NO business in how the student should look. Unless it promotes lewd behavior such as dressing like a gangster or stripper.

            Second, you are implying that the Chinese society demands that a woman should have short hair, well I certainly don’t see it. So as a matter of fact, she had every right to want to look like the rest of the society.

            Go to any news, and see how soldiers in America feel about going to war, and tell me if they feel a shred of honour in that.

            If over two deaths of children due to this cutting of hair doesn’t change the society’s view on the school rules, I don’t know what will. I don’t blame the school per se, but I do think the school is way out of line in forcing kids to don a dumbass hair cut that is viewed as ugly by the society, who happens to be so superficial these days.

            Extreme maybe, but this kid’s death is on the schools.

          • anon

            I don’t see how my logic is flawed whatsoever. I agree the purpose of school is to educate. You seem to believe that school rules is outside the scope of education. I disagree. A very big part of schooling is to socialize children into greater society. Having rules and conforming to those rules is part of that life lesson. Listening to teachers, following schedules, observing the rules (including haircuts) is all part of schooling.

            Children are “forced” to abide by all of these things or risk poor grades and disciplinary action including detention and expulsion. The crux of the matter here is that the rule she was expected and requested to comply with was not cruel or excessive. If it were, then you might have a case for framing her “death” as “forced” by the school. Since it wasn’t, her death was more a direct result of her own maladjustment.

            No one wants her to have done what she did, but pragmatically speaking, we have to take some responsibility for ourselves sooner or later. We can’t always blame others.

            Second, no, I said very clearly that the Chinese community currently supports the school’s rule of crewcuts for boys and sports haircuts for girls. At least, there is no critical mass for revising or striking that rule. As an underage child that is not afforded legal independence, she is beholden to observe the will of her parents and the school she chooses to attend. She has the right to life, not the right to whatever haircut she wants.

            Third, your views about people feeling honor in going to war and protecting one’s country are so divorced from reality it doesn’t bear entertaining. Not only is the world larger than America, you seem to be completely ignoring that people often go to war and protect their countries for noble and patriotic reasons. Are you honestly oblivious to the fact that people can and often feel honor in their actions? You think ever soldier in America is in the service against their will? You have a very distorted if not outright ignorant view of reality.

            Everything you have argued up to this point is blaming the school per se. If you’re finally stepping back from that extremity, then I’m glad. What will change society’s view on school rules requires statistical significant trends. Unfortunately, two children choosing to jump out of their windows over their hair does not constitute a statistically significant trend.

            You know what was? When dozens of schoolchildren were being targeted for attacks in 2010 ( Even then, there were arguments over whether or not it was a real trend or just an outlying cluster. However, schools adapted to it. They added guards and locked down their schools adding new rules for when and who could be allowed into the school during what time, or supervising the pickup of children by parents.

            So Chinese schools and authorities can adapt, there is no question. However in this case, I still disagree with you. I don’t think the rule is overly onerous and I don’t think the school ought to be blamed for her poor decision. She is one child in hundreds of millions. It’s sad she was so distraught and willing to go to such extremes over the length of something that grows back, but its hardly an indictment of this particular rule of Chinese schools. I personally wouldn’t prefer this rule, but if the wider community believes its beneficial and it isn’t causing any unreasonable distress by societal standards, so be it.

            Neither I nor my child should think society ought to conform to our whims. My child has to learn to compromise, adapt, and operate according to certain societal rules and norms. My child has to learn to cope. And if my child wants to mobilize his or her fellow classmates and their parents to push for the abolition of this particular rule, more power to him or her. I’ll be damn proud.

            But if he or she decides to jump out the window of something so trivial in the grand scheme of things, I’ll be devastated, devastated that my kid was such a wilting flower, and wondering if I failed as a parent. I’ll be tempted to blame others, or the school, but ultimately I was his or her direct guardian and it was my job.

  • fredf

    China has a shortage of girls (about 40 million) and the Chinese think it is ok for a girl to commit suicide, or get killed by her mother ?
    That is crazy.
    What will the 40 million Chinese men without girls do ?

    China should cherish every girl that it has, not abuse them until they commit suicide, or get thrown out the window by an angry mother.

    • donscarletti

      Since China banned polygamy, the percentage of men able to find a wife is still at levels historically only occurring after a long, hard war.

      I do think girls should be treasured, but for other reasons.

    • anon

      Did you read the post? There’s nothing to suggest her mother killed her. Her mother merely insisted that she get a haircut to comply with school rules. If your mother insisted you complain with society’s laws, would she have killed you if you impulsively jumped out a window?

      The Chinese do not think it is okay for girls to commit suicide or for mothers to kill their daughters. Where did you get such a ridiculous notion?

  • fredf

    China has the highest number of female suicides in the world .
    Why ?
    Because China does not respect girls and only wants boys.
    This girl was murdered by her mother, and every Chinese person should be ashamed
    that China has no respect for girls or women.

    “China is the only country in the world where more women commit suicide than men.”

    • anon

      Much of Chinese society does indeed accord too little respect to women, and that has been a contributing factor to female suicides in China, but you’re being stupid.

    • quill

      This girl was murdered by her mother, and every Chinese person should be ashamed”
      the girl kills herself her mother only complying with the school rule, and how the chinese should be ashamed??

      that China has no respect for girls or women.
      and contrary to your believe, girls and women in china today demands more to the men if they want to marry them, no one will force them to marry if they dont want to. how are these not respecting women

      “China is the only country in the world where more women commit suicide than men.”
      and by these logic the whole world except china respect women and trash men

  • fookie

    A traguc case of the little emperor syndrome

  • andywattbulb

    It’s not the hair that is the issue it is the idea of your freedom of individuality being robbed from you. It starts with a haircut and it doesn’t get better from there. Chinese should know this better then anyone else. It’s like being forced to have the ‘queue’ aka the Manchu pigtails of submission.

    • anon

      I think that’s broadening the issue unreasonably. Hundreds of millions of Chinese children of her age manage just fine, just like hundreds of millions of children from many other countries who have similar codes of dress and appearance in their schools. Every society makes a compromise between conformity and individuality. Many countries and societies believe a measure of conformity instilled in children is a desired aspect of their education without seeing it as an unreasonable deprivation of individuality.

      I don’t think it starts with a haircut and doesn’t get better. By most accounts, things get better (on the self-expression front) as kids grow up. That’s when you get cliques of feizhuliu and all sorts of wonderful fashion statements in college and post-graduation. As in most societies, the parents and grow-ups dictate how the “underage” ought to be behave, and those kids grow up, rebel, and come into their own, eventually making decisions for themselves when they are independent and not living off the teat of their parents.

    • quill

      so if the girls refuse to go to school and then kill herself, means that going to school is against freedom?

  • Brett Hunan

    Really, this site has gotten to the point to where people only look for trolling so they can troll the trollers and post trolling posts to pull other people into trolling. With only a few exceptions, no one even talks about anything anymore….. boring.

    • Should we moderate more?

      • Brett Hunan

        No I guess I just expect more out of us posters. Not your fault. Ive gone off topic many times before…. maybe even trolled. I do think that even when posters stay relevant to the topic many are still merely trolling for reactions.

        Sorry I cant offer a solution to the problem I proposed. Bad strategy on my behalf. I guess I was venting to draw the attention of all the regulars that visit this site.

        I still enjoy most of the stories and seeing what the netizens are writing….

        Also, I dont think moderating will do much at this point.

        • anon

          I also desire more out of the commenters here.

          I’m not sure I agree that its not the site’s fault though since they do have the power and the right to help shape the conversation or the tone of conversations here with positive and negative reinforcement. Some of us are able to wade through the garbage that gets posted here and still enjoy the comments, but I’m certain many people who would otherwise comment constructively are turned away by a lot of the comments and commenters here.

          What type of commenters or comments do we want? What does chinaSMACK want?

          I understand a lot of the blatant racism and stupidity is officially allowed and not moderated precisely because this site has the agenda of proving that foreigners can be and are more often than not just as retarded as the legions of retarded Chinese netizens, but is that fact something that really bears reaffirming?

          Do people really need to be reminded?

          Now that I ask it, I’m tempted to say yes, but I’m also torn by my desire for the comments section of this site to be a bit more useful and less demoralizing to read through. Perhaps the answer is “no” though, because those people who forget that they’re capable of racism and stupidity don’t tend to benefit from being reminded anyway, right? We therefore remind them more for our benefit than for theirs.

          That said, I’ll be fair and recognize that this site probably does moderate a lot already, at least in comparison to certain other websites whose comments are entirely devoid of worthwhile discussion or opinion.

      • whichone

        Perhaps we can self-moderate, like reddit, bring back +/- controls and comments below certain threshhold/rating aren’t displayed. Though I have to say…I feel morally and intellectually superior when I see racists, uninformed, and otherwise stupid posts, so I’m have some mixed feelings about mod action, self imposed or otherwise.

        By the way, thank you for your hard work. :)

    • whichone

      Justice Brandeis said the answer to trolling is more trolling not enforced silence.

      • Brett Hunan

        ….just another take on “fight fire with fire” or “eye for an eye”. Let me know how that strategy works out for you in real life.

        • whichone

          What I mean is, the way to elevate the discourse here is not mod action to silence the silly and the banal comments, the only response to post something insightful and illuminating.

          “If there be time to expose through discussion the falsehood and fallacies, to avert the evil by the processes of education, the remedy to be applied is more speech, not enforced silence” L. Brandeis

          guess it not a very well done joke. :(

          • Brett Hunan

            Got it now. No, it was a little too much for me to grasp while reading on a screen. Maybe if I could have heard your tone of voice it would have been funnier.

            I agree that the good Justice’s words sound nice, but I think in practice and especially on “teh interwebs” trying to teach trolls will just encourage more idiocy. Maybe anon is correct and we need more severe moderating. I don’t know (sorry again Fauna)… I just want to read more about China, and less about everything else the commenters decide is important.

          • anon

            I agree with Brandeis’ argument. That’s why I continue to comment here despite so many people hating me for being an “arrogant know-it-all” (I don’t know everything, but I do know its illogical to blame me for knowing what you arrogantly don’t or refuse to keep in mind).

            Still, just like certain forms of speech are considered unprotected by freedom of speech (hate speech in certain settings, incitement, etc.), I think there are certain categories of speech that chinaSMACK can consider actively discouraging.

            I don’t mind arguing with people who say stupid things but didn’t put enough thought into it. But I think most people aren’t going to bother with the many comments here that are made obviously with the intent to just be inflammatory. Since most people won’t bother, these comments just end up polluting the comments section more and more, which chills discussion for those who would care to have meaningful discussion.

          • Brett Hunan

            Still not over that “know-it-all” tiff of mine? IM SORRY. Dont make me live with it forever.

          • anon

            LOL, while you articulated it in those words, you weren’t the first or only person to accuse me of such and I don’t have any issue with you ATM. My point was just to affirm what whichone brought up.

          • Little Wolf

            anon, it’s not about your being a know-it-all. It’s about the pompous way you feel like you need to explain everything to us. Most of us here….can read.
            By the time I get to the end of your walls of text I can barely remember what you were explaining to begin with.

          • anon

            Little Wolf, I think I accurately reflected your sentiment when I wrote “_arrogant_ know-it-all”.

            I have a lot of walls of text, I agree. Many of them, I think, is because no, the other person actually can’t read. Therefore, I feel compelled to repeat, reiterate, and explain what they’re not reading. I’m not going to apologize for my read of the situation.

            Other times, I do feel like contributing an explanation about something for those I think could benefit from it (like telling new people not to take Hongjian too seriously). I don’t care if you think I sound pompous. I thought you sounded pompous in how you talk to certain people, like DaShan, over whatever historical beef you have with him, but it wasn’t important to me.

            You care enough to argue with, criticize, and set some people straight. Me too. We just have different targets and different methods. You may be more succinct than I am, and many will appreciate that, but I’m not one of them, because I care about different things than you do and I don’t think what can be said about those things are always so simple and succinct.

          • Little Wolf

            (does the Thomas Magnum head droop)

            What were we talking about?

          • anon

            It sounds like you’re only criticism of my comments is that they’re long and sound pompous to you. You’ve communicated that, multiple times now. Am I that important to you?

          • Little Wolf

            No No No. Don’t read too much into it. I had to work late and it was a Friday night and there was a computer and i was just amusing myself between tasks. Actually, I thought your previous reply was reasonable and I’ll concede you have your way and I’ve got mine.

            You know, I never got a chance to fully explain that whole Dashan thing and I’m a little pissed off he was able to get in the last word before I fully exposed him as a fucking liar. I had written a response with links and staff correspondence from that whole episode but they kept getting spit out for some reason. I tried for several days and contacted Fauna about but it still wouldn’t post. After awhile I just figured it wouldn’t matter anymore since the thread was such ancient history by then I would have just come off as petty and nobody would have gave a fuck anyway.

          • anon

            Little Wolf, that’s fair of you and I respect you for it.

            I’m sure you get that targeting someone with the same criticism over and over (especially something as meta as comment length) eventually says more about you than about your target. I’m sure you understand what I mean if you think about your gripe with Alan and Elijah.

            I don’t know about your DaShan commenting issues so I can’t comment on that.

  • Rod

    I’m not sure which way I want to go on this. I mean, I really love to China-bash now and then, but I really don’t know what it’s like anywhere else with regards suicide. It sounds like the school has reasonable rules, and the parents didn’t do anything weird or horrible.

    What’s stranger still, is that the way it’s reported is that they were just talking about it and the girl jumped out of the window.

    Do people do that?

    I mean, isn’t there a period of reflection?

    • jim

      No sadly there isn’t and that’s entirely the point. Google ‘Impulsivity and psychopathy’.

  • Li RuiKe

    So many Chinese schools are supremely ignorant, run by people who have little education and little desire to educate. What they really want to do is to show off their little armies of uniformed soldiers, all obedient to their every stupid, illogical whim. Like those retarded eye exercises! How many times do they have to admit the failure of such uselessness before they’ll stop the insanity? They will never stop because they will never release control/power/exploitation/lordship over the rats in their cages. I’ve seen Chinese teachers (always women) lecturing and berating students non-stop, until the student is in tears, over the stupidest little things, like hair length. Are these teachers? No, they’re monsters. They disgust me.
    And Chinese people who blame the little girl for wanting to keep her hair are ignorant animals, with nothing but selfish motives. Are they willing to sacrifice all self-expression in order to do, be, and look like exactly what their guanxi-hired boss wants? Absolutely not!
    Chinese parents who entrust their child to such useless schools rather than loving that child as the precious individual that they have been given the undeserved treasure and responsibility to raise up to be a good, loving, responsible adult are the most to blame.
    But I’ve heard it from the mouths of my dearest Chinese friends – “What’s the point in having a child if not to take care of you when you’re older?” 100% stupid, selfish, and short-sighted! To them, the Confucius way is for the spoiled son or daughter to put the lazy butts of their selfish parents on the welfare wagon as soon as possible, while the parents are free to treat everyone else’s son or daughter as a useless piece of trash.
    How about choosing to have a child in the hopes of making the world a better place for everyone? How about raising a child to be good, kind, giving, and responsible citizen? But who is qualified or ready to start such a cycle?

    • h3ll


    • anon

      You’re getting hysterical. They blame her for thinking her hair is worth her life, for not thinking things through and knowing that a haircut isn’t the end of the world, that there are times in life where one has to obey the rules, conform, or give in to live another day that may be better than today. There’s nothing to suggest these people are “willing to sacrifice all self-expression to do, be, and look like exactly what their guanxi-hired boss wants”, where did you get that idea?

      I’m quite certain these parents loved their child and for whatever mistakes they may have made, did not endeavor to push their child to suicide. If this kid had committed suicide because the teacher asked the parents to get their daughter to do her homework and the kid refused, would you be talking like this? Because that’s what some impulsive children have done. There was a post about this on chinaSMACK about this very thing.

      Chinese society does openly still hold onto the notion that children ought to take care of their parents in their waning years just as the parents took care of them in their youth. It’s not an outlandish notion and one that is shared by the majority of human civilization. Parents living separately from their children and caring for themselves independently is a modern post-industrial revolution phenomenon that is still a minority. Even in developed Western nations, there are many parents who are being taken care of by their grown children in their sickness and old age. Almost all parents expect their children to respect and care for them. Not caring for your parents in their old age is universally looked down upon. The vast majority of Chinese parents do not only selfishly think of children as retirement funds, don’t be ridiculous.

      I don’t think your average Chinese parent has children hoping they make the world a worse place, hoping that they’ll be bad, unkind, selfish, and irresponsible citizens. Quite the opposite. That’s why so many Chinese parents sacrifice so much to give their children a better future than their own.

      You’re being unreasonable. Don’t lose perspective.

      • notorious

        that’s not exactly true in the west, that we take care of our parents. They use government retirement plans like Social Security or their 401k plans and other retirement funds. At some point, if they become to old take care of themselves they go into a nursing home where they are taken care of by low wage assistant nurses. Such things should be looked down upon, too. There are many people who DO take care of their parents as well, but I fear they are not in the majority. In the old days, before social security kids in america were considered a retirement fund and so to have many children was a blessing. then that changed.

        I believe kids SHOULD take care of their parents. I gave you life. I changed your diapers well now I’m old so you can change mine lol

        • anon

          There’s been much ado made of Westerners abandoning their parents to convalescent homes and the like but I’m still quite certain the majority of Westerners take care of their parents. I wasn’t referring to financial support but I’ll even say that most Westerners also would spend money on their aging parents. That’s how many families go broke, helping a parent fight cancer or some other horrible disease. Am I refusing to accept some sort of truth about Western society these days? I don’t think so, but perhaps people can show me statistics and research that shows that the majority of Westerners don’t care for their parents in their old age.

          Glad we agree that kids should take care of their aging parents. It’s the Golden Rule for me.

    • quill

      And Chinese people who blame the little girl for wanting to keep her hair are ignorant animals, with nothing but selfish motives. Are they willing to sacrifice all self-expression in order to do, be, and look like exactly what their guanxi-hired boss wants? Absolutely not!”

      what the fuck is the self expression you are talking about, most of the countries in asia that i know still have this kind of rules and nobody has committed suicide because of that.

      How about choosing to have a child in the hopes of making the world a better place for everyone? How about raising a child to be good, kind, giving, and responsible citizen? But who is qualified or ready to start such a cycle?

      parents taking care of children when they are young, children taking care of parents when the parents are old, this things has been around for centuries, parents work hard to give their children the best. i think you are the kind of guy who send your children to the worst school in the city because they are free to wear what they want and skip school because they think the teacher is bad and send your parents to die alone in nursing home

  • Little Wolf

    At my high school in…..uh…..LIECHTENSTEIN(feel my sting, Brett!) the boy’s hair couldn’t touch their collar. But the Indians were able to get a variance based on religious and traditional grounds as long as we wore a red headband at all times. Kind of like Uyghurs being allowed to carry knives.

  • A gawd dang Mongolian

    The girl was a friggin teenager. When that happens the hormone imbalance will make em go nuts. Who didn’t try something really stupid in their teens?

    The problem is trying to keep them from doing something stupid. Like say jumping out of a building during an emotional peak.


    There’s too many gooks in this world anyway and t’s just one less shallow chink to have to to deal with…..

  • lonetrey

    “A 14-year-old girl didn’t want to follow the rule to cut her hair and jumped off the building. Sounds really dramatic, but the fact lies before our eyes, valuing one’s hair more than life, this is already a psychological problem. As society develops, moving forward in big strides, shouldn’t we take a look at how the flowers [youth] of our country are growing up?”
    First chinese comment may be more right and wrong than he/she realizes. Perhaps the world is leaving China behind, and they do not know it.

    To be honest… I’ve been damaged in similar clashes between the American culture and my Chinese heritage.

    The actions that this poor little took were too extreme and too sad, but in my opinion….. the lack of realization of the Chinese mindset of the fact that the world around them MUST and WILL change is even more sad.

    I’m not saying this girl or her family deserved this. I’m saying they should learn from this and take into consideration what ELSE this situation could’ve meant, rather than just point fingers at “the youth of today”. Stereotyping the young people as “the new generation of stupid” is stupid in itself.

  • MonkeyMouth

    song of the article
    ‘almost cut my hair’
    crosby, stills, nash, and young

    c’est la vie, mon suer
    (where the hell is kedafu, anyhow? the pressure is a lot to bear sometimes)

  • Talk about cutting off the nose to spite the face! I have to imagine she had a crazy notion and followed through with it impulsively. Tragic, but hard to sympathize for her who had such vanity.

  • Alecks

    This really isn’t about a haircut, it’s about freedom.
    Western TV and films are now being broadcast on TV in China, and kids see what life is like in a free non-communist society. Yet, when they go to school every day, they are bombarded with ridiculous rules such as the length of a girl’s hair.

    You shouldn’t show people freedom on TV to people that don’t have it.

    • JSakamoto

      Sorry but regulating a schoolkids hair length isn’t extreme. I had to cut me hair a certain length when I went to high school. Never bothered me. Maybe girls are different but if everyone has to do it I don’t see it as overly controlling.

    • quill

      and in non communist countries all over asia the same rules are applied and no one has died

  • JSakamoto

    Sad all the way around but I feel this girl had some serious issues or else was very impulsive. I mean to kill yourself over a haircut, that’s just beyond my logic. I have a feeling someting else was going on in her life. I know her hormones must have been running wild at that age as I remember I was like a runaway tornado at times when I was 14 but still I never even though of doing something this rash. I just love the title of this article “schoolgirl refuses haircut, commits suicide”. they make it sound so simplistic and brutally honest.

    • this school has its standARds completely backwards!!!! it should be required all chinese have long hair!!!!
      short hair chinese are in fact eunuchs and lesbians!!!

      • Freword

        Jackass again

    • Amy LifeStar

      Please read comment, I just posted today for the ones who misunderstood the girl’s intention and desire in not being suffocated by society’s dogma and controlling mentality! Thank you!

      By Amy LifeStar

  • jiayi

    Overdramatic, yes, but I really don’t think it was out of vanity, she was obviously just an extremely sensitive kid and yet another victim of China’s idiotic face culture which is pounded into every one of them after they stop being an excusably cute toddler. I think adults often forget how much personal scolding affects a child’s self esteem, especially at that age…being 14 years old is tough, but tough shit because everyone needs to face it and you really need to learn the value of life – something many modern Chinese children are sadly never taught. I have known many people who are suicidal but are too afraid that they will go to hell for taking their own lives. Some skeptics might pass that off as immature but if it saves lives, then don’t argue with it. There is no such fear of retribution in money driven Chinese society, where the individual child is headstrong and spoilt but their mind and self esteem is very weak.

  • whichone

    This is a sad case, but it’s hard to say who failed whom, the parents? the teachers? the student herself? probably a mixture of everyone. There are alot of people in China, law of large numbers or central limit theorem would suggest there are bound to be some maladjusted, crazy people. Unless there is a abnormally high rate of children suicides, there is no good reason to explain this.

  • Orthodox

    I oppose lesbian style haircuts for all women except lesbians, short hair looks terrible no matter what other women tell you, it is lies! They just want to make you look uglier to reduce competition.

    Is the short hair for school girls supposed to make them asexual or impose rigid communist conformity? I once taught English at a middle school and I was handing out English names, a few times I had to ask the assistant if it was a boy or a girl, sometimes I just went with a name like Jessie because they didn’t know either.

    • Freword

      No jackass

  • Daniel Randall O’Malley

    This is not about a haircut. This is about a girl realizing the futility of fighting against a system meant to suck out her soul, creativity, and sense of self. Once she knew her parents wanted her to acquiesce to such a system, she knew they would never support her and she would always be offered up as a sacrifice to the River Crab gods. Her parents, her protectors, failed her miserably by not telling the school to go and [email protected] itself. Once again, the state has achieved its sole purpose, to divide the most important social unit–the family. Boo.

  • SuperHappyCow


    Wait, NO! EW.

    But she’s super cute. Stupid kid.

  • BlueCrush

    I am an outsider to Chinese society and culture but I felt the need to comment. But I do have some understanding of Asian society and culture.

    I read comments and I am baffled at those who condemn or insult this child that has lost her life. To me, at 14, one has a wealth of possibilites. This may just be my American upbringing talking. But so young and so fully of life…

    My question is not whether the school is justified in requiring haircuts or whether the girl had reason to jump out of a building (I wonder if she knew she would die?).

    My question is what kind of human beings is China building that a 14 year old would take her life over something so trivial. Hair can always grow back. I am a 90s kid and I have been built to wheather any storm. I have been through a lot that some might be tempted to commit suicide.

    But I wonder. why is life so careless in China and I will say in some other Asian countries? Why is China building their youths not to strive for life rather strive to live for everyone else but one’s self? To me, life is precious and sacred, it is a gift. You only get one, why throw it away? Why is suicide not abnormal in Asian in this day and age?

    Why don’t youth and the rebels stand their ground and say ‘hey I will not be controlled and if you wont give me my freedom, then I will move on with my life with or without you.’

    To be disowned from one’s family or shunned by society is a difficult thing, but I rather live, be alone, move to greener pastures, and strive for a better me, every day, than to be in bondage.

    For those of you in bondage, I pray you have courage to lose those chains and spread your wings. You only have one life to live and life is truly a precious thing.


    • Dingles

      “Why don’t youth and the rebels stand their ground and say ‘hey I will not be controlled and if you wont give me my freedom, then I will move on with my life with or without you.’

      To be disowned from one’s family or shunned by society is a difficult thing, but I rather live, be alone, move to greener pastures, and strive for a better me, every day, than to be in bondage.“

      It’s really not as simple as you put it. 站着说话不腰通

  • relaxguy

    This is the result of the silly reversal of chinese education system compared to the rest of the world.

    Rest of the world –
    when kindergarden to grade school – build personality, sharing, mutual respect, how to make friends, learn to live with others, manners
    when in high school to college – learn hard knowledge, science, maths, taking test

    China –
    when in kindergarden to college – learn hard knowledge, mug for test, bribing teacher, selfish acedemic competition, science, maths, ace taking exams
    After College – (try) building personality, sharing, mutual respect, making friends, manners

    With this kind of system, one should not be surprised at the volume of selfish, self-centered, uncreative, rude, immoral and unethical human beings the system is producing.

    This is just the tip of the iceberg. I rest my case.

  • ali

    Appearance shouldnt be of a school concern…You free to dress the way you want or look the way you want…our body is the only thing we really possess, and it should be the dearest.

    This girl didnt kill herself because of the hair, come on! she killed herself realizing that she had to surrender her last bastion of freedom to please others…

    • Notorious

      Ali, I’m inclined to agree. It’s not what covers your head, it’s what’s in it.

  • Lee

    Mental Illness. too many chinese parents keep marrying the same gene. they produce mental illness kids….

  • elizabeth

    It’s not the school. It’s poor parenting. I find it disturbing that girls as young as Grade 2 or 3 have their nails painted and rouge on their faces. Vanity at such a young age does not bode well for the individual who will grow up insecure about herself because she was brought up to depend on looks rather than inner substance.

    This girl was obviously brought up to value the wrong things. Could have been the parents but I guess more so society’s value system nowadays, what with plastic body parts and materialism.

    I will not be surprised if more such cases occur. The school is actually do the kids a big favour by training them…in many ways…vanity can wait, studies are more important. Those who can endure the system, I’d say they have more character than those who insist of having their way.

  • Strangerland

    This reminds me of Lady Gaga’s song, “Hair”……

  • ddd

    doubt that was the only reason why she killed herself, hate it when people try to make it seem like people who commit suicide do it over trivial things.

  • jim

    This is not very surprising in view of the pandemic in China of narcissism. The child could not get her own way (the issue of the text is symptomatic of other problems but not causative) and this triggered her narcissistic rage. Narcissistic injury and rage often lead to homicide/suicide. The wider problem it seems to me is that of children receiving positive consequences for negative behaviours. Middlekingdomlife has some good content (no affiliation) on narcissistic Chinese females. (I also recall reading some years ago that China’s female suicide rate is 5 times the global average).

  • Yuki

    She acted too prompt…She was too immature about this.
    I’ve got to say that it takes some time for one to decide to commit suicide. There’s something in this world that difficult for us to leave behind. However,seeing the suicide rate growing every year, I’m not afraid of death cause so many people choose to kill themselves. Join them and I’d be freed too.

  • discoqueer

    Seems to me that if this girl just killed herself over her hair, there must have been some deeper psychological issues coming into play apart from parenting, schooling and her societal millieu. That sh*t cray.

    Also, am I crazy for thinking maybe people in China should have more sincere talks about mental health? I mean, it’s not necessarily better where I’m from (the US, sorry Brett), but it seems like incidents like these could be much more easily avoided if people were talking more, not bottling stuff up and then jumping out of the kitchen window. I dunno. That’s just me.

  • Kinglet

    stupid. This just proves that hair does get in the way of schooling. Obviously since she’s so dumb to commit suicide over it.

    no no i don’t only blame the girl i blame her parents, her peers, and society that teaches her that it’s worth it.

  • Lord Akira

    Conformity isn’t for everyone, some people just want to be themselves or whatever they want to be instead of what the perversed society forces them to be. If you keep squeezing them in, they’ll suffocate and die.

    How good is a society if everyone looks and thinks the same? They may as well be dead on the inside, like a bunch of robots/machines, mindless and programmed to repeat cycles until they rust.

    This girl rather lose her life than to lose her individuality and dignity.
    As they say, “Give me liberty or give me death!”.