From Sina:
If a couple divorces due to a “extramarital relationship”, can the non-guilty party claim damages/demand compensation from the “Little Third”*? On March 11, deputy of the National Congress Ma Lan submitted the proposal to alter the “People’s Republic of China Marriage Law”: Propose that when a household is broken, the third party may be sought for damages.
* 小三, xiao san, “the third party”, this may have originated from Liba.
Here is a Sina poll:
How do you view claiming damages from the third party legislation proposal?
12,524 total votes [at 2009 March 13, 1:34am]
Approve, the third party destroying other people’s marriages should bear responsibility, and this will discourage extra-marital relationships.
69.9% (8,756 votes)
Oppose, the reasons for the appearance of a third party are numerous and complex, and there should not be such a simple sweeping approach.
26.9% (3,365 votes)
Hard to say.
3.2% (403 votes)
Comments from Sina:
千千结:
One palm cannot make a sound [one hand cannot clap], so from who should that mistress claim damages?
Ridiculous.
博客网友:
Using morality to bind people is strangling people’s sexuality. However, not doing this would be to strangle families. Yun!
程信予:
Yet more lei this year. This year’s two conferences [NPC and CPPCC] will not be satisfactory unless they lei some people to death.
船长a:
In ancient times, this was handled as adultery.
In modern times, this has become so open, it truly confounding. Is this society progressing or going backwards?
姝然06:
I believe a third party is a type of emotional necessity. What humanity most cannot control is their own emotions, right?
whj000002008:
If women are not ruthless, the men will not be faithful, so carefully watching over your own men is the inescapable truth!
If your own man lacks a sense of responsibility, yet you yourself lack enough charm and cannot manage your own man, how are you able to manage your own happy marriage?
With this kind of problem, what could the law do?
夏季紫罗兰:
The third party’s money is still basically the man’s money. :-)
博客网友:
Faint to death, this is basically like a student blaming the teacher for not being accepted to college,
or blaming the home builder for your house catching on fire.
This is missing the point and grasping the goal. First close all the brothels on the streets and then talk.
博客网友:
What is called the non-guilty party? The man finds a mistress, so the wife is the non-guilty party? A wife who is frigid, or unfaithful, or does not take care of the house or the children is also non-guilty? Matters of the household cannot be so easily characterized by the words “non-guilty party”.
xhred:
Keep talking nonsense, because we are already accustomed to it anyway. One look and you can tell this was hatched by someone who stays inside air conditioned buildings all the time [someone who is separate from the real world]. Have this committee member live life without a job or without protection for awhile and see if he can still make such a stupid proposal. Our officials’ thinking is already not the same as our common people’s thinking. The things they care about are these topics that are discussed to while away the time after a cup of tea.
Comments from Tianya:
大清蝼蚁:
Opening more brothers can put an end or reduce the phenomenon of a third party. Legalize the sex trade, so people can go whoring without worry.
洛颜雨:
This will make the men happy, [because the women] will all go bother the third party, and the third party can pay the bill.
Hehe,
Or for those who are unable to live together, he can conspire with his wife to find a third party.
If they do that
they can make an amount of money from that third party.
Haha.
What mental retard thought of this?
Originally the third party was still concealed.
Doing this will just make things even more messy.
This is truly asking for even more trouble.
This is so mentally retarded
I cannot help but admire.
For your man to become unfaithful, it means you did not manage your own man properly, and allowed a third party.
Some men occupy several at once, so many women were all deceived.
The women are also victims,
so why make them pay the bill for others??
Emotions is something no one can be blamed for,
it is all about someone willing to give and another willing to receive,
there is nothing right or wrong.
放你自由吧:
Why is someone above speaking up for the third party? Can it be that…
The third party clearly knows the other person has a family yet still inserts herself, yet insists on saying it is emotions. Is destroying other people’s families is moral? Why did you not consider for a moment how the other person’s wife feels, how their children feel? Do you really think that man truly has no emotions whatsoever with his wife? If he did not, how did they get married? If you hurt others you will naturally have to pay the cost, and economic compensation is simple, but is the emotional harm so easy to rectify? When your own husband becomes unfaithful to you, will you be able to still speak so calmly?
09年34岁:
I very much support the third party being liable, but we also cannot let off that person who first becomes unfaithful in a marriage. I will even say that the person who is married should be responsible for the bulk of the damages to be paid.
草根何罪:
This kind of stupid cunt proposal still has someone to propose it? How come our countrymen do not have any romanticism? A man having several pretty young bosom friends is a very normal thing. Those famous writers and thinkers, which of them did not have several?
残阳缺梦:
The government’s congressmen are truly mysterious, just look at the proposals they have made. If they have the courage to make public all of the motions made this time, I bet they can win an Oscar.
大黑屋:
What kind of bastard logic is this? With this logic, those who are raped should bear the the guilt.
Why? Because the rapist is not at fault, and it was only after being enticed by the rape victim that lead to the rape occurring.
纤纤叶儿:
When men cheat, the person who should die is the man.
If you have the means, you should kill him somehow, or taking everything he has is good too.
Why bother with the third party?
哆嗦A蒙:
Japanese law also stipulates that third parties must pay damages, as long as you can prove she knew the man was already married yet still had sexual relations.
Indeed there are cases where the couple works together to cheat a third party of money, but this third party also knew that the man was married yet dared to continue, so those who get cheated deserve it.
其实你可以更美1:
Just who exactly is this representative representing?
Men have done all the virgins, and then point at the women saying: “Why did you girls not refuse?”
Men destroy all the families, and immediately point at their spouse: “Why did you not treat me better?”
Now they want to point at the third party/mistress: Why were you willing to have relations with me!
Men everywhere having second wives/mistresses and not caring for their [first] wives have led to women no longer daring to get married, so now they are pointing at the remaining women: “How can you girls be leftovers, are you not doing everyone an injustice?”
When men desert their long suffering wives to be with new sweethearts lead to women not daring to marry poor and nameless men, they point at the women: “How can you girls be so materialistic?? When we bring up the Confucian “three obedience and four virtues”, women in ancient times would feel guilty so how can you not feel guilty?
Men projecting their own societal position leading to the phenomenon of sons favored over daughters until there is a serious sex-ratio imbalance making it harder to find wives, so they sigh at the women: “Women these days, have all been put on a pedestal, and regarding those leftover women, them not getting married is what use to us? Let’s just humanely eradicate them.”
It is like spitting into the sky, thinking you have profited but actually harming yourself, and then holding a grudge and yelling at the sky!
天呀有我:
I think it is pretty fair, it does not say those penalized will definitely be female third parties, because it can be applied to male third parties too! Are all the people who oppose men?!
花猪蛮蛮:
What kind of society is this? Third party/mistresses cannot be attacked, cannot be yelled at, and now they cannot even be sued for damages under the law. Kao.
What do you think?
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