From Sina:
Ning Yuan stands across from me, height approximately 1.75m, appearance can be considered handsome, his face full of whiskers exudes a complete manliness, and he does not look like what I thought a man who has been beaten 9 times after one year of marriage would look like.
Not long after sitting down, Mr. Ning unnaturally lights a cigarette, occasionally fiercely taking a drag. He does not raise his head the entire time, his eyes are a little dull, his mouth murmuring as he relates his experiences of his wife’s domestic violence, and wanting to get divorced but also afraid his wife won’t agree and afraid he will will be brutally beaten over this matter. The most embarrassing thing is that his wife does not consider face [personal honor] when hitting someone, several times fiercely slapping my face in front of my mother and brothers [close male friends].
The first time there was a fight, I made the first move. At the time, we were fighting for the computer and my wife wanted me to let her use it. Right as I was most preoccupied [with the computer], I casually pushed her aside once, not expecting she would walk over and slap me. I was slapped silly, and half a day passed before I could recover my wits. I leaping at her wanting to press her onto the bed to recover face, but because my heart is soft, I did not use much strength, not like the ferocious tiger she was. With a bang, she had me pressed on the bed, conveniently using her leg pinning me down by my butt, and no matter how I struggled I couldn’t turn over. Up till now I still don’t understand how my wife pressed me to the bed.
Not long after, terror once again raised its curtains. That time she launched a kick at me, I instinctively raised my leg to block the kick. My wife hooked my leg, sending me toppling to the ground (tragically, a tooth was lost, afterwards replaced with a gold tooth), extending my hand to block, she used her forearm on my arm and twisted, I don’t know how, and suddenly my arm was twisted behind my back, a foot bends my leg, and I am suddenly kneeling on the floor. At that time my mother present, and I was very embarrassed. I wanted to get up to hit her, but no matter how hard I tried I could not get up. This one time was very disasterous. This one point was very miserable, my hand twisted by my wife was dislocated, and I had to go to the hospital.
Another time when she was about to hit me, my friend was present. I thought I found savior in my friend, mistakenly thinking I had an advantage this time. I thought that since my friend was 1.8m tall, even if he did not help me, but could secretly assist me a bit, I would not meet defeat, right? So I ran to the balcony and got a one meter long clothes drying rack and threw it at her. Before it hit my wife’s body and with a bang, my wife broke the clothes drying rack into two halves. Scared into hiding behind my friend’s body, my wife in one motion threw my friend aside a few meters. Using half the clothes drying rack, she fiercly hit my butt, the pain making me wail. With my friend there, I had to do something to redeem my face [honor], so I grabbed the remaining half of the clothes drying rack to hit back. Even more disasterous, my wife instantly grabbed my wrist holding the clothes drying rack, twisted it back and, my god, my hand broke. For several days on end I could not pull up my own pants after using the toilet.
Married one year, beaten 9 times, 5 times in front of my mother’s face, frightening her so much she would not dare come close, and only by secretly dialing 110 [the emergency police number] could help me escape danger, the police came 6 times, I went to the hospital 5 times, twice the blows caused dislocation, once bone was broken, countless times my face was scratched, and many days I didn’t dare leave home to see colleagues. I want to divorce, but I really love her, she also loves me, and after every fight, my wife takes care of me, gives me a massage. When I could not use my hand, she also fed me. Moreover, our sex-life has continuously been very harmonious, only, when doing it at night, she sometimes hits me a few times too.
Ning Yuan tells me, he and his wife met each other in college, the two fell in love, and at that time she was gentle and cute. He never thought that after marriage she would become like this. He only found out afterwards, Only afterwords did he find out that his wife enjoyed studying warfare since childhood, has terrifying kung fu, and that she could go fight four men by herself. Ning Yuan again asks me, just what is he supposed to do, divorce or leave home/run away?
Hearing Ning Yuan relate each incident of his bloody and tearful history, I slightly wanted to laugh, but also felt this was all unbelievable. Divorce, flee, or reconcile? This is Ning Yuan and his wife’s business. I too have no way of giving a proper answer, and can only encourage Ning Yuan, telling him that there should be mutual respect between man and wife, that he should tell her his thoughts, try to communicate, what happens afterward they themselves must resolve…
Comments from Sina:
This kind of woman is too frightening.
Men hitting women, I despise.
Real or fake? Some of it I am scared to believe! A woman this terrible!
I also wonder, is this true or false?
“Gain Abundant Knowledge” Forum Feelings Tribe immediately “ding!”
I’ve heard of the ‘kung-fu panda’, but never heard of the ‘kung-fu wife’, heh~~very amusing (Sorry, I can’t help but gloat at your misfortune, my mistake my mistake…)
Barbarous wife, hurry and escape.
There are truth and lies here. If you really did not deserve it, you would not be beat like this. This is not the old society and, besides, you are a man.
Now way, there are women this terrible?
Either get divorced or quickly run to the Shaolin Temple and have a monk be your master!
“Sweat“~”sweat”~
A heroic woman!
You can’t hit your wife.
I really feel Ning’s heartache. However, if I saw Ning, I would also hit him once, this good for nothing guy. If it doesn’t work, just separate. Are they not promoting “harmonious household, away from violence” now?
How great it would be for me to be more like this woman, unlike now where I can only be beaten up.
No matter if its a man hitting woman, or woman hitting man, both are hopeless, very uncivilized phenomenon! Vulgar beyond reason! This kind of person, one word—disown!
Legendary tiger… and a female… mighty, today my knowledge has increased…
I feel you guys are lacking communication! You also haven’t earnestly tried to understand why she beats you. It cannot be for no reason at all! Ask a few more “whys.” Use the intelligence you would use to get a scholarship.
Use peace to control aggression [ignore her]! Next time there is a conflict, do not use physical violence. This aspect is not your forte, and you will definitely lose out. Next time just stay silent! Continue being silent!! Even if the other side gets anxious, hits you, you still stay silent. Just don’t speak, be a mute. If she gives you violence, use cold violence on her. Be uncaring, indifferent, and nonchalant. In the end, if she does not come to respect you, she will leave you [divorce]. Try it out.
Hahahah, sorry Mr. Ning, after reading I only want to laugh. Did your wife practice taekwondo, hehe, so impressive.
Men hitting women, can only use one finger!!! Haha
You need to learn to respect your wife and be good at exploiting her strong points. With this type of wife there’s nothing to fear.
Find her (kung fu) master and ask him some questions, this must an unique Chinese expertise passed down through hundreds and thousands of years. Normal kung fu is not this indefensible. Even those who practice Sanda [a Chinese combat sport], it is impossible for a woman without a strong body to go against four women. But Chinese martial arts passed down is not the same, even a delicate, unassuming, little girl very unnoticeable a small delicate girl can make several dozen grown men terrified. This is where Chinese kung fu is magical miraculous aspect.
Quickly have a child, your wife will become much more gentle. Once they have children, all women change a lot.
Real or fake, what woman is that powerful? Is this man is made of water? The woman is too violent, and the man apparently also does not want to give in either. You guys really are quite a pair!
Barbarous wife!! Welcome to join married ethnic group 45342687, requirement: married man/woman, age 30 and above, often online, eager to make a statement!
Comments from CQ69:
Your friend is a “ball” amongst men.
Why do I say your friend is a “ball” amongst men? Because a “ball” was made to be hit. So how can you blame that woman for having learned wushu [martial arts]? Maybe even if you find another woman you will still be beaten.
Why do I feel like “lou zhu” is actually Mr. Ning?
I propose that “lou zhu” go to the Shaolin Temple to learn martial arts before returning to surrender to your female tiger. But, the best thing to do would be to hold back a little, and carry on as a gentleman who does not fight woman.
Keep bullshitting. One look and it looks unbelievable.
Divorce her, the 10th time will directly put you in the hospital where you will lie for a year and a half.
If you know you cannot win by fighting her, then each of you should behave a little more.
Hahahaha, this type of man is too useless. Can’t even defeat his wife [in a fight], and not ashamed to still complain. “Lou zhu,” if this is real, if there is an opportunity, you and your friend can come with me to the gym and get stronger and practice fighting. I guarantee half a year later he won’t have this type of problem.
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hah hah hah hah….
sorry, this is just too funny!!!
Guy must be from Shanghai…girl must be physically more powerful than the guy…or this could be entirely fake
I think it’s not ture, that.s all, because I am a chinese boy and I am never beated by a chinese girl like this
Divorce, and then to sue her. But suing is not option for Chinese man, as it can bring shame on family.
Sounds fake but if it is real… anyone so pathetic as to stay with such a violent person after even 1 incident deserves what they get.
Master Shifu: “When you can’t beat her in Kung Fu, take advantage of your wonderful Kitchen Fu. She will submit to your tasty Chinese food.”
Dude better recover his ‘Pimphand’… this is very sad.
Domestic violence is never funny. It is horrible that people would belittle a man like this, a man who would not stoop so low as to raise a hand to prove a point. It sounds like he’s used to the cycle – the apologies, the honeymoon period, the calm before the storm and then BAM, she brutalizes him again. There is no point in speaking to someone like this and he should just leave.
He should divorce her and thank his lucky stars he didn’t knock her up. God forbid you put a child in the hands of a woman who doesn’t think twice about beating the daylights out of a grown man.
I vote fake.
Although, battered husband syndrome is always a possibility…
Violence against men is more common then people think, it’s just guys aren’t readily forthcoming in admitting it.
I vote regain you’re honor mate! I might agree with how whipped he is and from the trauma that he suffered at the hand of that wife of his, but truth be told a man should be protecting the wife not the other way around, in a since it might be the wife telling the husband to grow a set of balls.
“our sex-life has continuously been very harmonious”
Thanks to Hu and the CCP!
Husband battering is not uncommon.
http://www.thatbitchbook.com
Glad I’m gay.
If this is true it is unbelievably sad. It sounds as if the woman has some kind of psychological problem.
Despite what some people are saying, a man can’t win back any honour or face by beating up his wife. If he did so, many of the people who are laughing at him would look down on him even more.
Since no children are involved, best to get out. Violent people don’t change.
So unfortunate…as many posters above mention it’s not so uncommon for a guy to get beaten by a woman – it happens more often than people recognize, and of course many comments countering that will mostly be from riled up kids who play way too much Halo 2 and think girls can’t fight. I used to compete in Canada / NW US in mixed karate-do sparring and some of the women can _really_ fuck shit up. That being said, a lot of guys simply can’t fight..they may think they can after watching some movies – but without getting used to being smacked around most are one-punchable. I’m sure most netizens will lay claim to scrapping..bottom line is – women beat men too.
It also happens in the case of a man being physically stronger but mentally subordinate. No hitting back, ish, and just takes a beating – maybe could fight back..but doesn’t. Mentally, some abuse victims put themselves in a position of submission and obedience or they get ‘punished’ again, and it’s very unfortunate cycle.
Spousal abuse morality and upbringing issues aside, some women can pack a punch…this seems like a case of a very unathletic male and a very confident female though.
Sounds like a case of S&M for the female but an absolute terrifying thing for the male. This thing cannot drag on as it will get worse and worse and eventually shit will hit the fan (harder since it already has).
It happens everywhere. Some countries changed their laws to take in account molested husbands. Guy should leave, or to fight back, which is hard, as many women are stronger than men in China.
Trivia:
There’s a Gong Fu style inventend by Buddhist nuns. It is said that style is most fierce style of all, as they teach movements for chopping eyes and noses.
the internet is a tool of deception
(-_-;;) this is what happens when you put a Shanghainese man with a 外地 wife. Condolences to the poor husband, and get out!
The part that I find really hard to believe:
“Before it hit my wife’s body and with a bang, my wife broke the clothes drying rack into two halves.”
There was another post on Sina where a guy says he was beaten 13 times with a similar plot
Women can be every bit as cruel as men – and often more so. One third of all domestic violence cases are woman on man violence but most men won’t report it out of shame. Domestic violence is domestic violence no matter who commits it and should be equally punished no matter the sex.
I’ve also been there and done that and learnt my lessons quick. I was blinded by love, was lonely, missed loved ones who have died, so i took the first man that came along and ended up worst than ever…you both need professional help; look at your spiritual needs as it helped me big time…there are two sides to the story…your wife may have lived a chilhood of domestic violence or many other reasons where she has been traumatically hurt and damaged….you also have something in your closet…seek HELP NOW…
Even a rabbit could bite when cornered. How can this man do things like this?
It must be a fake story.
I actually want to find her!! I feel aroused about this story.
I have not had an abusive relationship yet, and am curious to have one with a worthy opponent/lover.
Hahahaha…
This loser deserves a beating if he will still hang around for this nonsense. The chick is a psycho.
Lucky guy! love to have girl or wife beat me every day….ah, so nice…
Oh I always see Chinese girls fighting & kicking their boyfriends & husbands in public so not a new thing for me.
poor lad got publicity this time.
My girlfriend beats me every weekend, with her lower body however.
I doubt the authenticity of the situation. If it was true, what he needs to do is tell her how he felt and stop beating him. If she doesnt give a crap then its time to leave her. Simple no? But hard to do i bet. In any case that is what needs to be done.
Hey, whether it be true or not, they both need help. They have sure got all the attention…thaat alone is sick…i dont even know why im responding? the whole thing is sick…maybe we have nothing better to do…why not pray for one another, get out there and help someone who is truely beaten up and go and do some voluntary work..HELLO!
Weird. Chinese women freak me out. :P
lousy husband. this guy really deserve it. there are thousands of ways to avoid it, example buy a gun aim and shoot his temple. EOJ
LOL, this is hilarious! The guy is a lame-O weakling.
WOW….if this is true then he really needs to do something quick; but i’m sure she had reason to beat the crap outta him. and i don’t think him fighting her and regaining his honor any better because she might find it fun to fight with him on the same level.
It says that she fed him when his hand was broken, and she massages him when he’s sore from being beaten.
It seems like the husband started the fights, but the girl was trained in martial arts and wouldn’t put up with his shit.
If this is the case, I think he should stay with her and learn how to properly respect women. She seems like a very good teacher, as violent or as loving as he allows her to be. Maybe next time he’ll think twice before throwing furniture at someone.
I wonder if she’d be so fierce if he hadn’t shoved her for the computer? She probably chopped him just below the occipital ridge.
where’s A Pimp Named Slickback?
Run forest, Run. Get the heck out of there. You want to be crippled later in life? GET OuT NOW!!!!
In a marriage a man and woman should respect, love, honour and cherish one another as partners. In a marriage two, man and women become one flesh. The women is to be a comfort onto her husband. The husband is to be the bread winner and protector of the family and home.When one or the other violants this, in mental, emotional, physical, sexual, spiritual or monatary cruelty or abuse. This is not marriage. It becomes a control and power issue. To leave and divorce is the only answer. If you do not, one or the other will die.
i cant believe the people who are saying good on her ect and that she cant be doing it for no reason, men do it to there wife’s for no reason as i well know from my past. leave her talk to her would you give this advise to a woman who was getting beet by a man no you would would give her sympathy and help just because he is a man dose not mean that he wants to hit back or that he can cope with the situation more men should be given help as more and more woman are becoming husband beaters, there is never any reason for violence and it is harder for men to admit to it than woman they feel the same pain as we do.
Dudes… half of the comments posted here wouldn’t have been posted if this was about a man abusing his wife. SERIOUSLY! If this man is telling the truth then he might be in real trouble. A man who can’t defend himself is no less of a man! It’s these damn stereotypes and expectations for a silent, enduring man that prevents some male victims from telling of serious troubles! I respect the writer’s reluctance to hit or divorce his wife, but if he truly loves her and if he truly wants to preserve his marriage, he needs to get help for both of them!
I like how the woman can put up a fight. BUT i dont think she should beat up her husband. I cannot believe that they had to fight over some silly stuff, and that they dont talk this out. Some relationships have no love nor communication…sad.
The guy who made this story up should right a book. Excellent imagination!
You know, physically, man are more powerful than women. Even the Women’s strength is on par with him, or more, the guy should be able to at least retaliate.
Beaten by his wife 9 times?
This guy sounds like a PUSSY!
This story sounds so hot and hilarious at the same time.
This is the best part: “Moreover, our sex-life has continuously been very harmonious, only, when doing it at night, she sometimes hits me a few times too.”
But I didn’t know Chinese women were this scary!!! I’m used to getting beat by my crazy Korean mom, but this is too much. The girlfriend sounds less like a girl and more like an unstoppable, killing machine. I wonder if she’s raped him yet.
Always date/marry woman that have a good relationship with their father and her parents are not divorced.
Can someone please post a picture of this wife?
Break up with her. Peace
If he still loves her, maybe they both need some kind of therapy.
This is a serious topic
for although I would never condone ANY domestic violence it is different pending on gender.
not sure how things work in China but in the UK we got support groups and stuff like that for abused women.
If a man beats a woman he’s a beast, coward things like that.
If a woman beats a man he’s a weakling things like that
(all though EVERY domestic case is different, and not much is conclusive to domestic violence)
there are many reasons why tdomestic violence goes unrepoted.
Though why would anyone treat a woman being aused and a man being abused. differently?
such domestic cases when the male is being beaten (could get this wrong) could be “empowering”
and the male might also suffer in silence.
Its wrong either way really