Elementary Schoolboy Woos Schoolgirl on His Knees, Succeeds

A Chinese schoolboy in Suzhou woos a fellow classmate at a bus stop with a love letter and getting donw on his knees.

On Sina Weibo:

#Elementary Student Kneels Down to Woo Girl#

On November 5th, at a Suzhou bus shelter, a boy just about 1.4 meters tall holding a love letter in his hands knelt on the ground for as long as 5 minutes to court a fellow female schoolmate he likes. Ultimately, the girl was moved and the two of them embraced as the crowd of fellow students around them applauded to congratulate them.


Weibo poll asking netizens's views on elementary student knelt down for courtship and succeed.


Poll Question:

What’s your opinion on [this story of an] elementary student kneeling down to court a girl and succeeding?


Red Side: So I had already lost at the starting line.

Over 15k votes at time of translation.

Blue Side: It’s fake news meant to be a blow to older single youths.

Over 2k votes at time of translation.


From Sina Weibo:

@新闻晨报: Post-00s Elementary Student Kneels Down to Woo Girl at Bus Stop, Post-80s Laugh and Ask “What About Us?” — At a bus stop in Suzhou, a little boy went down on both knees and, with a piece of paper that looked like a love letter in his hands, he confessed his love to a girl with a ponytail across from him. 5 minutes later, the little boy suddenly stood up and hugged the girl with a ponytail. The two of them held each other, embraced, and intimately whispered to each other as fellow students applauded and congratulated them. Witness Mr. Wu was stupefied: “That boy was about 1.4 meters tall, and at most in the fifth grade.” http://t.cn/zR0D56o

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Comments from Sina Weibo:

海龙哥0718:

Things are changing as time goes by faster than I had expected.

庞向锋_Felix:

Many people are worried about things like the kids not being sensible, not having a sense of responsibility, that their studies will suffer from the puppy love, etc. but the reason for these things is not puppy love but because the children were not brought up to be sensible and responsible people.

Charles_Nihb:

I’m so moved… Cry.

人生如梦_29481:

People don’t understand love at a young age; only “truly/really like”! Go ahead and do whatever you like. Laugh secretly.

安华杰6:

Genius…

常嘉雯_:

Those adults who see this in an abnormal way, have you forgotten what you yourselves were like back then?! Laugh secretly. Also, going down on two knees seems to mean… sly

浅唱321随意:

Can’t take it anymore, I’m on my knees [meaning one is overwhelmed], is there still love when it is expressed this way?

杨重楷童鞋:

TMD post-00s.

张擎Wilber:

My little buddies and I are all stupefied. surprised

Fiona2911:

Why are those adults who see this in an abnormal way so meddlesome? Have you all forgotten what you were like back then?

我絕對不是猴變:

I agree with @小玲玲仙儿’s perspective. We can use another angle to look at this issue: The love between the elementary students might be true love for each other, that kind of consensual/mutual love. Though I’m quite against little kids having romantic relationships, I have to say this kind of love is definitely a pure/innocent kind of love. The love of adults may involve too much filthiness and viciousness, whether it be money or lust. Anyhow, for some reason, they don’t look like elementary school students to me at all.

走走君:

1.4 meters tall and at most in the fifth grade? Xiao Si [Nickname of Guo Jingming, who is often joked about for her short height] shows dissatisfaction.

_xue雪_葛:

What are we going to do with this society?!

此花儿非彼花儿:

Fuck~~~ Little kids these days. confused

小玲玲仙儿:

The “love” of Little kids is so simple: A bouquet of flowers, a love letter (maybe with some misspelled words), a deeply emotional love confession, and then it’s consensually/mutual. After growing up, it becomes about appearance, education, salary, background, house, car, parents~~~ balabala Pick the nose.

孟土豆:

May they have a child soon!

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  • Joe

    He just entered the friendzone

    • Klove

      I’ve seen this happen with chinese guys OVER and OVER again with the same cringeworthy result, they end up empty handed, except for putting little fellow into rosy palm and five fingers. Young ladies don’t want some dramatic overture or embarassing scene, just ask her out directly, if she refuses, next, FFS.

      • mwanafa

        Sorry I had to post this picture again, if she refuses, there’s a brick waiting.

      • DearDairy

        To be fair Klove, most dudes here don’t date until college. They have a lack of experience and are naive. Just like you and me and everyone else was at one time or other. Like, they are doing stuff I did in 7th grade.

        And also, it requires a lot of money to date a girl in China. College dudes are broke as fuck. I think you should feel sorry for these guys, and stop hating so much.

  • Wololoo

    Why would someone do this in public? Go to a not so crowded restaurant or anything, but a bus stop?

    • Klove

      Why indeed, one can never understand the mind of the east asian male.

    • bprichard

      It’s got nothing on the romance of the Dayton, Ohio Greyhound station!

    • DearDairy

      Because if no one sees it, it’ll be hard to brag about it. FACE.

  • B*tchers, Leave

    Same thing happened when we had this big freshmen meeting at Fudan university in Shanghai. It was a stadium, it was completely filled with students, all the teachers were in the center and given a speech and blah … suddenly this guy with flowers came out and went to a girl, did kneel down and present the flowers to her … the whole stadium was like “JIA YOU” “JIA YOU” applauding and whistling :))) the girl was soooo embarrassed and did shrink into her friend’s shoulder!

    • Gordon Gogodancer

      sounds like coersion hehe

      • Kai

        Coercion! I’ve thought the same thing before with some incidents.

        There was this video of a guy proposing to his girlfriend in the subway, and the entire subway car was encouraging the girl to accept. I can’t remember the name to find it on Youku at the moment but it looked to me that she really didn’t want to say yes but finally releted after prolonged peer pressure from those around her who surely must’ve seen it as being “aw, romantic”.

        But it was pretty evident that it was really awkward for her and that she was put in a very difficult situation, so long as she had any sense of consideration for anyone’s feelings or embarrassment in such a public setting. The guy looked pretty awkwardly pathetic too. She was kinda squirming away a bit and he even shuffled on his knees to stay in front of her with his bouquet of lowers and ring or something. It was painful to watch.

        If she rejected him then and there, it wouldn’t just crush him but also embarrass him and even herself in front of so many people. Yet, if she accepted, she would’ve at the very least given him false hope, raising him up to a high before sending him spiraling into the abyss when she has to privately turn him down later. That may save both of them a lot of public embarrassment but could be considered even more painful to him than an immediate rejection.

        Of course, we can also blame the guy for not reading her receptiveness to marriage right but it’s also kinda unfair to expect him to be a mind-reader.

    • Guang Xiang

      Sigh, and if she rejects him, she risks being stabbed later for ‘destroying his face’

      • ytdevils

        Guy gets rejected at Basketball game: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UtPkxzHKLpk
        Dumb idiot thinks he can coerce some poor girl into marrying during a packed game. Sigh, and if she rejects him, she risks being gunned down later for ‘destroying his ego’.

        • Guang Xiang

          aww poor baby, did I make a stab at your Chinese compatriots? 你想太多了吧

    • DearDairy

      People here are immature and retarded. what you gonna do?

  • Riddler

    He could have saved him the headache and just given her a ‘treat’….

  • mwanafa

    The kid must be good at that, not like that university student who wrote a 160 thousand words love letter, only to get a “shi dong ran ju”!

  • whuddyasack

    Ahhh puppy love. We’ve all been through that phase. I can so relate to this and it’s quite interesting how the 00s are picking up where the 90s have left off.

    Some people are commenting on the kid’s height of 1.4 m. But wow, short stuff is made of hot stuff.

  • Rei Yu Tian

    Kneeling on both legs seems more like a punishment kneeling. When I gave my girlfriend big surprises I always did it on one leg.

    Still, very romantic of him, hope he finds happiness~ :D

  • Guest

    Why do I have to wait for admin approval for my messages?

  • Guest

    why

  • zachary T

    “May they have a child soon”…that last comment made me laugh so hard. I would have told a girl my feelings in a more secluded place in case she told me to get lost….but hey, good for that kid

  • Boris

    In the west, the women would say they want a guy like this but actually (most of them) would not. While in China they do want guys like this. Could be why the Asian guys seem so “beta” as the women want different things in different cultures and nations.

    • DearDairy

      no women wants a pussy for a boyfriend, BORIS. Go drink some vodka and find a clue.

      • maybeabanana

        Most women there seems to want a softy when it serves them well, but they don’t actually want a weakling that can’t defend them physically or mentally.

  • chosan

    thats true white females are the most liberal and the best

  • Germandude

    Interesting news…

  • Klove

    Will these insecure guys EVER learn, bangs head against the wall, stares glumly at monitor….it will continue to happen, seems there is no chinese dating for dummies?

    • DearDairy

      why are you so worked up Klove? Do you have a personal stake in this?

  • mattman183

    “Oh, I accept. How sweet! Now, hold my backpack. We’re going shopping for matching shirts!”

    • Cauffiel

      Oh, god, I had a Chinese girlfriend for 2 years who bugged me to buy matching t-shirts every time we saw them for sale or other people wearing them, GOD.

      • Probotector

        My wife does that too. I actually saw a student couple only yesterday with matching “couples’ clothes”. God the looked ridiculous.

        • DearDairy

          same question for you buddy, is your wife from a mountain village? tier 5 city? curious.

          • Stefan Xu

            actually this fashion began in the 1 tier cities and then spread out to the rest.

          • Cauffiel

            It began in the Philippines and Japan, actually. China is late to the party. AGAIN.

          • Probotector

            Henan countryside.

      • DearDairy

        is your gf from a mountain village? tier 5 city? curious.

        • Teacher in China

          Got nothing to do with being from a mountain village, man. Lived in China a long time, mostly in Beijing, and I’ve seen a ton of students, all Beijing-born and bred, doing the same thing.

        • Cauffiel

          She was from a wealthy family in what was probably a tier 3 city.

          • DearDairy

            If you don’t mind me asking, what does her family think of her dating you, especially since they have money. Are they impressed with you? I’m not trolling you

          • Cauffiel

            Her parents seemed to like me. They paid for me to fly to several cities alone with her. She insisted her dad would never do that if he didn’t like me. I stayed in both her parents and grandparents homes, although in separate rooms.

            She never made it clear whether they officially approved of me, but now that I think about it I remember she led everyone but her mother to believe that we were only friends. She said her father would be jealous, and her nai nai was very displeased that her granddaughter would be dating a non-Chinese…. like I said, her family was exceptionally wealthy, so they had a strong Party background, which translates into strong patriotism.

            We broke up a few years ago for other reasons. Not a very well organized answer, but you get the idea.

            Honestly, I have no idea how the fuck Chinese decide to like someone or not. I’ve had people hate me and refuse to talk to me just because I was foreign, other people wouldn’t leave me alone because of shit like “your voice sounds so good, you must be a wonderful singer,” when I am a terrible singer. Chinese people liking a person always seems either arbitrary or prescribed. I think Americans are more organic in that realm.

          • DearDairy

            I’m trying to figure out this game they’re playing. Thanks for your answer.

          • Cauffiel

            Its a mindfuck man… figure out how to play, but don’t try to figure out the reasons, it will drive you nuts.

  • Zappa Frank

    how old is he? this is something acceptable only under 12. If that’s the case, ok, he will learn and even if he thinks he may have lost face that will be an important experience about what you should never do… because really, that way to chase a girl is wrong, everywhere in the world, regardless your culture.

  • Cauffiel

    What?!?! THOSE ARE MEN????

  • Kai

    A lot of people are being pretty hard on the kid.

    This sort of grand romantic overture happens a lot and I think much of it can be blamed on the notions of romantic courtship that mass media instills in people, especially for the people who grow up watching or reading this sort of stuff. They’re indoctrinated to a degree into thinking this is how it is supposed to be done, that this is how you sweep a girl off her feet and sail off into the sunset happily ever after like a fairy tale.

    Then they try it in real life and most (vast majority?) of the time it is a crushing embarrassment.

    It isn’t just the guys but also the girls who are deceived into fantasizing that this is how you confess your love and enter into a relationship. This is why girls say or whine wistfully about wanting guys like this when it doesn’t actually work.

    The big lie–or the big mistake–in this socialization of romantic notions by mass media is the issue of perspective. It’s not just that fiction is fiction; as viewers or readers, you occupy the role of the omniscient observer and know all the reasons why he’s perfect for her and she’s perfect for him, that he’s sincere and genuine and she is too. The male viewer has the information to agree with the male character’s grand overture and likewise the female viewer knows the male character is everything the female character should want. You know that they secretly pine for each other.

    But in real life, you occupy the role of someone with limited information. Everything in the fictional romances you see on TV, in the movies, or read in books or magazines that you took for granted knowing is now unknown. What seemed obvious as a viewer is not remotely obvious to the actual participants.

    Males mistakenly transpose what they knew about the female character onto their object of desire, creating some fantasy version of her, and all he needs is the grand gesture to seal the deal. Females, for their part, forget that while they knew everything there was to know about the romantic suitor in romantic fiction, they know much less about the guy who is suddenly sticking a bunch of roses and a love letter in their face but obviously has been harboring some secret crush on her for some time. Yikes, that’s kinda creepy, not romantic.

    And yet we can’t say they didn’t contribute to the false fantasy, because they swoon and cry over these scenes feeding males the impression that’s what works.

    I kinda like what @zappa_frank:disqus said above about how this can be a learning experience (except in this case, the guy apparently succeeded, so good for him). I like to think most people realize that this isn’t the most reliable way to approach a girl, that you save the hardcore sappy romantic stuff for AFTER you’ve got her and established that she’d totally welcome such gestures of affection, but there are a lot of people who don’t.

    These guys become frustrated, jaded, insecure, resentful and probably talk a lot of shit about women in general online, wondering why what they were taught by TV and movies doesn’t work in their lives, becoming arguably socially maladjusted. This is an extreme of course, and the counterpart are the women who keep waiting for someone to give them a feeling of being swept them off their feet and yet it never comes because they never know as much about the guy who expresses interest in them as they know about the male character in that super romantic story they keep playing in their heads.

    I’ve always found this dynamic fascinating, in so many ways, not just in how men and women interact but how people are socialized into thinking or doing certain things by media and society overall. If life is nothing but a series of actions and self-delusions to propogate our genes, what a funny story this all is.

    • Zappa Frank

      when i was about that guy age we were like that, yes ok, less romantic, but still direct as well in the way “do you wanna come with me..?”. Of course 99% was a failure, for us all, because simply this is not the way to approach anyone. But here it was a big fun, among firends we weren’t embarassed after a refuse, there was no lost of face, beucase it was something we shared, it was common to joke about it, also to exorcize it.. of course the refuse was always hard to accept, but the second time a tiny bit less then the first and so on… in the end it become bearable. than slowly you understand that this was not the way to chase girls, that no matter if you lose a girl beacuse there are always other girls, in the end it’s not that you become a playboy, but at least you can play the game. That guy is at the first step, and it’s good to do this step young and not old when will be harder to forgot a delusion and you’ll give a lot of importance to something that should not have.

      • Kai

        “do you wanna come with me..?”

        Oh boy. ;D

      • Kai

        Seriously though, I agree with you. I’m afraid that because he seemingly succeeded, he’ll continue thinking this is the right way to ask a girl out.

        Of course, it CAN be for SOME girls, But it’s a pretty dangerous precedent and trap to fall into.

        No one likes rejection but yes, it’s important to learn that it doesn’t necessarily reflect on your self-worth if some people in this huge world aren’t romantically interested in you…and you don’t need to serve your heart and entire self-dignity on a platter each time you have an interest in someone.

        • Klove

          No one likes rejection but yes, it’s important to learn that it doesn’t
          necessarily reflect on your self-worth if some people in this huge world
          aren’t romantically interested in you

          1 thing we can agree on. But the whole loss of face thing here makes that view unfeasible.

          • Kai

            It’s entirely feasible. Loss of face in this situation is nothing more than being embarrassed and feeling like a fool, something that is the same in pretty much every society whether they have a concept of “face” or call it by another name.

            I feel you’re too eager to find some reason to look down on the Chinese here. Here’s a kid who simply likes another girl and for better or worse had the balls to go for it instead of stew in unrequitied love…and you’re eager to turn it into some cultural criticism targeting specifically Chinese society. Come on, dude…

            …and this is coming from me, someone who just wrote 11 paragraphs of cultural criticism on how mass media makes for unrealistic expectations in courtship.

          • DearDairy

            Kai, I think you’re being too forgiving. Most Chinese don’t date until after high school, and they by and far, are much less mature than their world counter-parts. This is just a kid, but most Chinese guys, the vast majority have 0 game. ZERO.

          • Kai

            I’m confused. What am I being too forgiving of?

            As far as “game”, sure, I recognize that many Chinese guys are less “mature” in this aspect of life than many people elsewhere. That’s partially why I said this kid had “balls” to go for it.

            If all the pre-90s generation griping is of any indication, Chinese youth are getting into the whole casual dating and sex thing more and more. It’s gonna cause some problems but there will be more “game” players that come out of it just like everywhere else. Best of luck to them.

          • DearDairy

            “I’m confused. What am I being too forgiving of?”

            .and you’re eager to turn it into some cultural criticism targeting specifically Chinese society.

            and the post 90s kids…yes they are different. This is true, we’ll see how they develop but if I take Taiwan or Hong Kong or Singapore as an example (and I think you’ll understand why I choose these countries), I still think because of cultural heritage, Chinese guys will still tend to be, not so good at dating.

          • Kai

            Klove was saying the concept of face in Chinese society makes it “unfeasible” that Chinese guys can learn that rejection doesn’t reflect upon their self-worth.

            As I understand it, you are saying many Chinese guys are less mature when it comes to dating.

            The statement of mine you quoted was in response to what Klove was saying. It wasn’t in response to your point. Why should I “blame” or “forgive” Chinese guys for their dating prowness at all, right? Like you said in your other comments, there are reasons for their prowness being what they are. They’re not hard to understand and copping out by blaming some exoticized notion of “face” is lame if not outright dishonest.

            The reason people question their self-worth and have their self-esteem affected by rejection has far much more to do with basic insecurity common to all (most?) humans than it does with any Chinese/Asian concept of “face”. Neither will some uniquely Chinese/Asian concept of “face” uniquely prevent uniquely Chinese guys from getting over rejection and realizing they still have self-worth.

            About cultural heritage influencing dating prowness: I agree that it does, especially in terms of relative “prowness” across cultures with different norms and expectations of how dating works.

            My perspective is just that a lot of these cultural factors are similar to cultural factors that existed for non-Chinese people in the past, and yet those people have changed and evolved over time all the same. So to me, they exist, but things can change. For example, I see both similarities and differences between mainland China and the countries you chose (and yeah, i understand why you chose them to illustrate your point).

          • DearDairy

            I disagree, Chinese people tend to take criticism personally, this is a cultural phenomena I’ve observe across a broad spectrum of social situations; do you work in China? If so you’ll notice that no one will ever outright say someone’s idea is bad for fear of injuring someone’s ego. Ego and Face have a lot to do with dating. Of course, people everywhere take rejection personally, but it’s the extent and how it overrides rational thought here, and how often, because of Chinese culture; A mature normal person would say “we are incompatible, she must have valid reasons”, a Chinese will say, what did they have to point out my flaws and embarrass me? They are evil for making me feel bad about myself. We can agree to disagree. But I think I’m being reasonable here.

          • Kai

            I think everyone tends to take criticism personally and I honestly don’t see it being significantly more so in Chinese people than others. Mind you, I’m not saying there aren’t differences in how people from different cultures approach criticism and disagreement.

            I work in China and the only reliable time people don’t say an idea is “bad” is to a superior. This is true with non-Chinese people as well. It isn’t about injuring people’s egos, it’s more about deference and respect, for better or worse. Are there situations where someone will avoid saying someone else’s idea is bad for fear of embarrassing that person? Of course, but I don’t think the reasons behind such avoidance are different from the reasons non-Chinese people have.

            I agree that ego and face have a lot to do with dating. I just don’t think the extent to which it overrides rational thought amongst Chinese people is that different from non-Chinese people. I know we’re both going by our impressions because I’m sure neither of us has done statistically rigorous experiments to measure this, but I don’t see it. I have to wonder if certain things just stick out more in our memories due to proximity.

            Have you witnessed a lot of rejections where a Chinese girl pointed out the flaws of the suitor to embarrass him? I haven’t. Most people are mature enough to let someone down as easily as they can. Maybe there are some Mean Girls in high school who go “ew” or something but where did you get this impression?

            Likewise, resentment over rejection isn’t uniquely prominent in Chinese people either.

            I won’t say you’re being unreasonable, but your experiences seem rather extreme to mine, and they underpin your conclusions which differ from mine. I try to recognize differences but I’m also pretty sure I’m being reasonable when I say people and their emotions are pretty damn similar around the world.

          • DearDairy

            Let me reframe this then, how much experience do you have working in the West? Do you have context for comparison, because honestly, no offense but I think you are lacking in experience, astuteness or perspective.

            Are you under 30 years old? Not married, definitely no children. How long have you been in China, on this stint?

            You seem to try to be balanced, and even kneeled which I totally respect but I think you’re mistaken here.

            I am at a MNC and the way my western colleagues and Chinese colleagues behave, especially the ones not in high level more “international” positions like in S&M are ultra local.

          • Kai

            I’m over 30, married, but no children. First came to China 7 years ago. Worked in the US before that. Work in intern/multi-national environments here. Travel in and out. I’m quite sure I have context for comparison.

            To be clear, you’re saying in your last paragraph that both your western and local Chinese colleagues in low-level positions behave “ultra local”?

            I understand you think I’m mistaken and that’s fine. I’m just communicating that I’m not yet persuaded that I am by what you’re telling me in your disagreement. I’m willing to listen to your arguments or we can agree to disagree. Either is fine. It’s just conversation.

            I think certain differences in behavior or approach to criticism, disagreement, and rejection appear more pronounced in cross-cultural environments like working in a MNC because you have examples of people from different backgrounds and culturals norms acting them out for you on a daily basis. Again, I recognize that there are differences in behavior.

            What I don’t agree with is how “unique” and “different” the underlying emotions and considerations are for these behaviors. Specifically, for example, I disagree with “face” being used as some sort of catch-all explanation for differences in behavior and norms, or worse, categorical inability to see/do/understand something. It’s a cop out, an excuse to pin something on something “foreign” rather than trying to understand the common human emotions underneath. It stems from a desire to disassociate than to understand.

            If I were to generalize, I do think Westerners are more used to open criticism than local Chinese are because of differences in cultural norms. This is no different from differences in behavior and receptivity for certain things between people in the same culture who come from different socio-economic backgrounds. How you behave was socialized into you. You can also change your behavior based on environment. I recognize this.

            What’s important to me is the motivations behind such behavior and how they can be identified, understood, and empathized by those who may not share those behaviors. If you manage people or are in a position of management, you already know (hopefully) how important it is to understand people’s motivations.

            In my working experience, I’ve run across a lot of “office politics” and whatever the equivalent is called for non-office environments. Some people are more open with their criticism while others aren’t and may simply talk shit behind the person’s back with their friends/allies. I’ve seen situations where people were given the opportunity to give feedback and people didn’t even if I knew they had thoughts. I’ve seen situations where people gave the opportunity to give feedback but wasn’t really interested in it. I’ve seen people take criticism constructively and I’ve seen people take it personally/destructively. I’d be willing to say there are some generalized differences in prevalence but I’ve seen more difference between personality types than cultures. People in the workplace generally behave one way with superiors and another way with peers. They criticize for genuine and griefing reasons. They refrain for reasons like respect, deference, or uncertainty in their own criticisms. They take things personally sometimes, even most of the time. There are genuinely few people who don’t. Similarly, some people communicate disagreement more tactfully than others. For other people, how tactful doesn’t matter.

            I feel I have to stress this again. I recognize generalized differences in behavior, but I believe the underlying motivations are fully understandable and empathizable because most people share them whether they are Chinese or non-Chinese. If it helps, remember what the crux of my disagreement with Klove was. If you can acknowledge what things I’ve said you agree with, it’ll help me better understand what parts you disagree on.

          • Teacher in China

            That may have been true a decade ago, but tons of high school kids have GFs and BFs now. Things are changing rapidly in this regard.

  • Klove

    yes, and?

  • Probotector

    I thought Asians “don’t show their feelings”.

  • mattman183

    Strategic planning. If she said no, all he has to do is slightly turn right to leggy short-skirt girl.

  • mattman183

    That’s what backpacks are for. To outsiders, just looks like a guy, holding his backpack with his girl. But if they looked closer, they might ask, “Where is her purse, and what dark secret lies within this bag of his?”

  • lasolitaria

    Kneeling down doesn’t seem like a good way to start a relationship with anybody.

    • Probotector

      What if it’s a chick giving a guy a bj?

      • lasolitaria

        Is that how their relationship is starting?

        • Probotector

          No What’s that got to do with it?

          • DearDairy

            clever

          • lasolitaria

            That’s what I ask.

            But if a girl starts a relationship with a guy by giving him a blowjob, I hope she’s being well paid or at least in front of a professional filming crew.

  • mwanafa

    They say, you need a brick hidden by your back, just in case.

    • Cauffiel

      I bet she’s got a brick too.

      • mr.wiener

        It’s how you start on owning your own house.

        • Cauffiel

          Hahah…. the Chinese Dream starts with the first Rosebrick.

  • DearDairy

    because inside are his balls.

  • DearDairy

    women are definitely the ones with all the power here. Dudes are mostly momma’s boys. Even the ones beating their wives.

  • hess

    protip: China =/= south east asia. china = east asia

  • Stefan Xu

    No girlfriend until university graduation!

    • Cauffiel

      Then marry immediately!!!

  • Cauffiel

    Its ok to hold a purse sometimes.

  • Mateusz82

    Just shows that you’re never too young to genuflect, get down on your knees, and relinquish your self-respect.

  • Kai

    People getting married soon after they met always struck me personally as odd and risky. In China, you get the sense it is people who are eager to get married, either due to parental pressure or their own, fearing they might be getting too old or that “it’s time”. That happens less in the West, but you also hear stories of of people getting married pretty quickly. An American photographer I know just recently got married (or was it engaged) just like a few months after meeting the guy, completely out of the blue.

    10 years is a bit long in my opinion but everyone is different. I think the “shit or get off the pot” question will come up much earlier than that, but if both people are cool with it, it’s none of my business. If you do want a family and kids, there are biological arguments for not waiting TOO long but it is something the people involved need to figure out for themselves. There are a lot of reasons for rising divorce rates but one big one is people who perhaps aren’t taking marriage as seriously as they should, both before and after they get hitched. People need to be more responsible to themselves, then to their commitments, and so to each other.

  • Mateusz82
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